I like my ladies bare or closely trimmed.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander!
The boys and the surrounding area is shaved. I do it every other day or so in the shower with lots of soap and a good razor. It's all by feel, yeah I've nicked myself a few times but the end result is well worth it with the ladies. The rest is trimmed with one of those battery operated beard trimmers with an attachment for adjusting closeness.