When providers call it quits...

I really don't understand how a degree from just any old college is worth a damn. As I understand it these days, you just have to show up to get a degree, most people get A's. So why do so many people still worship the college degree? I think it is pretty useless. Originally Posted by Jewish Lawyer

Funny as shit on a fudge bar, man! Is that what YOU did? If so, thanks for the heads up!

The hardest thing about retiring is changing your mindset...... this business is very easy, very fast and extremely lucrative.

It took almost two years to revert back to a civilian without the desire to call a regular for some fun.

For a lot of providers, they miss the attention more than the money..... I was guilty of that from time to time.

I really missed the sorority of the ladies, and decided to give back by offering discounted rates on photo shoots to other providers..... I guess my addiction brought me back a bit. I had missed the gossip, LOL!

I changed my mindset a lot about the profession (you have to). After all, we provide a much needed service, and it's not just the sex. I think the conversation, warmth, and just the companionship that a girl provides is like therapy to a lot of men. I have seen some men, especially the older ones, who really want someone just to listen to their problems. Sometimes, I feel like an "arm chair psychologist Originally Posted by HoustonMilfDebbie

Yes it's all about having an educated and positive mindset, in whichever field you are in. And with the majority of the people usually mature 40+ it is about Real companionship. Having the company of a lovely lady, meaningful insightful conversations, sharing things you don't share with the outside world. One of my long term clients said to me once something I won't ever forget because it really touched me. He said "You're the only one I really talk to outside of work." I was like Wow, I mean that much to him. It is Big Deal having that special presence in someone's life. I definitely feel this profession has given some real world people skills that would qualify me for being a psychologist more than if I had just gone to traditional school for it.

Ladies retire for different reasons. Most of the ones I know retired pretty well because they're smart and had already one foot in civvie life. Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

I would highly recommend having one foot in the real world, not just 100% fantasy lala hobbyland lol. Otherwise it can be extremely painful to adjust back to full civvie life. From own personal experience in the beginning I got so carried away ...that common sense never came to me...about what would happen down the road...my long term future. Another reason I think starting off at least age 23 maturity level might be better

I really don't understand how a degree from just any old college is worth a damn. As I understand it these days, you just have to show up to get a degree, most people get A's. So why do so many people still worship the college degree? I think it is pretty useless. Originally Posted by Jewish Lawyer

It definitely doesn't hold the same value as it did in previous generations. Why nowadays I see Harvard graduates advertise their skills aka they will do your homework/take your online classes for you for nominal fees. Its becoming a new modern business trend I guess.

1. Some people like to learn.
2. Better to have one than not to. It's like American Express.
3. Depending on a person's goals, it's necessary.

+1000 Lis. It's not easy at all. I'm staring down two 15 page papers in two classes right now. But I enjoy school, and in the next year, I'll be on my way to a different level. I find lots of pleasure in that. Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

Yes it's fun if learning is your lifelong passion

Most people don't research what they want to do for a living so they get a degree only to find out that what they want to do didn't require a degree or even worse what they needed was a porfolio of work and those essays they did in Engl Lit doesn't count so they have a giant student loan and nothing to show for it.

Yup this is why I took couple yrs off after high school to figure it all out rather than jump in something stupid and regret later. I am proud to say I have finally picked a field..and love how it comes so naturally to me. I look forward to working in the marketing and advertising field in the future (civvie version)

As for the OP, I have nothing useful to add. I have been screwed by college so am a bit sore. But if I was female you bet I would be a provided to help pay off my loans, or at the very least a stripper.

Sad to say...having to strip to earn pretty academic credentials lol Originally Posted by Daen1304

For a lot of providers, they miss the attention more than the money..... I was guilty of that from time to time. Originally Posted by RevivalPinups

I would miss the attention too...

I could be wrong, but it seems to me that not all providers retire rich and/or retire on their own terms. Are there social resources out there to help these girls make the transition back to civvie life? Originally Posted by mastermind238

I think I understand where you're coming from. For every one of us that retires well, there's 30 that don't; most of which do not post on this (or any) board.

It's a very good question and I think it's a worthy cause if you were thinking of trying to help. When I retired, I had considered quite seriously of providing a half way house (nicer than it sounds) to kinda give them a leg up between the decision to leave the industry and reestablishing in normal society. It's the closest thing I know of to helping girls transit, and it lives only in my thoughts.

Most ladies who leave and stay gone, leave on their own terms. Primarily because, that is what it takes to leave and STAY gone.

A degree is not worthless. A's are not handed out at real schools. A degree shows that you have the focus to set a goal and work towards achieving it. That separates you from the majority of providers and people in general. No, it doesn't assure you a career in a given field.

I don't see many providers using this opportunity to get an education on the side and plan a future. Most live for today and I have little sympathy when, ultimately, they end up with nothing. However, for those of you that use providing as a launching pad to something else, you have my respect. A lot of you are on your own with little real help from family and friends, and that's hard.

Dressing up in sexy lingerie while watching a lot of midget porn helps...


I heard.


Throw away all white envelopes, you wouldn't want to relapse.

again with the midget porn!!!! First its midget wrestling and now midget porn, Princess walk away and marry me and we can make our own porn!!!!

he he he....

Well I will have you all know that I have chosen to retire. Unfortunately I walked away without a single penny in my pocket. Yes I enjoyed myself to the fullest.
I met a lot of interesting people, got fucked over (in more ways than one) lol
But I have learned a lot. I guess there's not a whole lot I can say since I was only in it for a year at most when others its been years on end. But I know it's hard and a lot of work. Don't think you can get out of it by doing it more and "saving money" because it will only get worse. This is mainly to the girls that aren't quite money wise and struggle just to make rent everyday.

Now to answer the original question yes there is a program called new friends new life....
Look it up if you are serious about getting out. It is ran by women that were in the sex industry once as well.

So for all you girls that feel like your stuck just know there is always a way out Yes it's hard and I know the attention is what I will miss most and the money was great for sure... But for me it wasn't worth it. But on the other hand the girls that are doing great and truly became successful, you guys are great and I wish I knew your secret lol
Well it was fun while it lasted but now I have a family and normal life to get back to.
Happy whoring haha
-Nikki Heat

If you question your vocational position, find a new one (pun intended).

If you question your education for vocational longevity, get a JD. Lawyers run the legislature so with a law degree you can pretty much do anything a Doctor can't. "Liberal Arts" degrees are worth what they've always been worth, whether you have to work for them or not. Or get a "technical" degree. The majority of Americans have subjugated themselves, regardless of their social stature, to being slaves of lab technicians, medical support staff, half assed IT staff, restaurant managers and out sourced CSRs.

If you weren't born with money, become a jackass rule enforcer.

This seems to be a performance based occupation, like theater, dance, music...and people do those sorts of things for attention, not for some altruistic reason that might be attributed to brain surgeons or rocket scientists. So if you can't get out from under your own spotlight, seek professional help or simply don't retire.

Most importantly, and God knows I hate country music, but Live like You're Diein', sing like you really can, dance like a white guy and pray you never get caught.

and I'm sure kinky midget porn and wigger step mom porn really do help...

+1 Tiff and Elizabeth. There are social services available to men and women who want to change their lives.

I believe I provide a necessary service. But this is my job and like any career, it will have an end. Before planning my transition out of the hobby, I started saving and looking into ways to plan for my retirement. I have a stock portfolio that I put together with great advice from several members of this board. I add to it often and I also buy real estate. I feel confident that my plan will take good care of me when I need it.

I have a college education but I don't believe that a degree is for everyone. There are so many ways to make a living if a person is willing to work. They don't call America "the land of opportunity" for nothing.

Are you kidding! The whole reason I got into it again was because I couldn't get a decent paying job. I changed my mindset a lot about the profession (you have to). After all, we provide a much needed service, and it's not just the sex. I think the conversation, warmth, and just the companionship that a girl provides is like therapy to a lot of men. I have seen some men, especially the older ones, who really want someone just to listen to their problems. Sometimes, I feel like an "arm chair psychologist!
Originally Posted by HoustonMilfDebbie

Ditto. And what Dharma said, too. We all have to think about the future. Someday I'll be too old to do this anymore. Or my jaw will have locked up from one too many....verbal exchanges. I have been investing and exploring possible exit options, but have no plans to leave you all for at least 3 more years. (When I "officially" become a senior citizen at age 55 and am eligible for the IHOP discount menu.) May dust off my journalism degree. Based on personal experience and that of friends and relatives now in college (some of them in my age group "rebooting" their lives because the economy tanked their old careers), I also agree with EW that a degree, almost ANY degree, is worthwhile. Just having a high school diploma won't get you further than minimum wage these days. According to labor studies, most employers are turning up their noses at associate degrees, too. It's a tough, competitive world anywhere you go.

I'm finding out that to have a normal life and get what you desire outta life you can't be in this profession. I feel that I need to trust that there's a plan for my life other then this. I wanna get married and have babies. I can't do that the right way with the right person if I'm providing. So.... it's time for me to go, it's been a blast but unfortunately there's too much drama. I'm not retiring rich but I am satisfied in knowing I learned a lot about people and life in general. I def know when to get out and now is the time.

I'm finding out that to have a normal life and get what you desire outta life you can't be in this profession. I feel that I need to trust that there's a plan for my life other then this. I wanna get married and have babies. I can't do that the right way with the right person if I'm providing. So.... it's time for me to go, it's been a blast but unfortunately there's too much drama. I'm not retiring rich but I am satisfied in knowing I learned a lot about people and life in general. I def know when to get out and now is the time. Originally Posted by Sexy Summer

Wow that's sad depressing thinking. Hopefully you will find your success somewhere else...

I don't see many providers using this opportunity to get an education on the side and plan a future. Most live for today and I have little sympathy when, ultimately, they end up with nothing. However, for those of you that use providing as a launching pad to something else, you have my respect. A lot of you are on your own with little real help from family and friends, and that's hard. Originally Posted by jkerouac

Its most young people in general with just live/party for today mindset. I dont have sympathy either when they reach 60 and are still broke dependent on the govt lol!

I started saving and looking into ways to plan for my retirement. I have a stock portfolio that I put together with great advice from several members of this board. I add to it often and I also buy real estate. I feel confident that my plan will take good care of me when I need it. Originally Posted by Dharma

I have been investing and exploring possible exit options, but have no plans to leave you all for at least 3 more years. (When I "officially" become a senior citizen at age 55 and am eligible for the IHOP discount menu.) May dust off my journalism degree. Based on personal experience and that of friends and relatives now in college (some of them in my age group "rebooting" their lives because the economy tanked their old careers), I also agree with EW that a degree, almost ANY degree, is worthwhile. Just having a high school diploma won't get you further than minimum wage these days. According to labor studies, most employers are turning up their noses at associate degrees, too. It's a tough, competitive world anywhere you go.
Originally Posted by Fancyinheels

to the ladies with investment strategies