Motivation

mrsprettykitty's Avatar
You have a pm my friend. ;-)



I wouldn't trade it in at all. Keep it and buy a new one when you're read.

Next goal: New condo then school! As if I haven't moved enough! Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Alright baby girl! That's what's up. I'm working on my masters now.
My reasons

Money
Power
Thrill
Travel
Adventure

In that exact order. Originally Posted by Naomi4u
Hi Naomi, you know I am new and not very knowldgeable, but what kind of power do you receive?
Hi Naomi, you know I am new and not very knowldgeable, but what kind of power do you receive? Originally Posted by buzzworm86
Not speaking for her but as a general consensus. Money and power go hand in hand.
Not speaking for her but as a general consensus. Money and power go hand in hand. Originally Posted by Shayla
Nancy Friday, who has written extensively about relationships and sexuality has discussed the power of she who can control the orgasm and pleasure. I was wondering if that was the type of control.My very first experience with a provider, she would not allow me to touch myself at all. She aggresively insisted that that was her job and not mine in her presance. I have been perplexed ever since. Buzzworms by nature are easily perplexed.
London Rayne's Avatar
I think it's the power of knowing a guy's nut is in your hands, mouth, vagina lol. The power feeling you get knowing men actually pay to have sex with you vs. being used for free in RL.
burkalini's Avatar
I think it's the power of knowing a guy's nut is in your hands, mouth, vagina lol. The power feeling you get knowing men actually pay to have sex with you vs. being used for free in RL. Originally Posted by London Rayne

Might differ a little bit on this one as you might get used for pay but if you consider having sex for free being used rather than sharing or enjoyment I would have to dissagree.
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I think it's the power of knowing a guy's nut is in your hands, mouth, vagina lol. The power feeling you get knowing men actually pay to have sex with you vs. being used for free in RL. Originally Posted by London Rayne
Civie girls cost way more than most are worth.
Just exactly who is using who is a matter of
perspective. Marilyn isn't going to be expecting
anything regarding annv of any type.
Civie girls got all sorts of gift days.
I see these providers offer what they call
genuine GFE.
Yeah sure they do.
They take your money, start an argument,
break your stuff, and leave only to fuck you
3-4 days later? No I don't think that's the
GFE they meant.

I'm not paying for sex.
I can find any number of volunteers for that.
I'm paying for discretion and silence.
If I run into my ATF in public with my SO
she won't ghost me like a civie would.
London Rayne's Avatar
Might differ a little bit on this one as you might get used for pay but if you consider having sex for free being used rather than sharing or enjoyment I would have to dissagree. Originally Posted by burkalini
No, I meant literally being lied to and used for it vs. knowing what's up. If you let a guy use you, lie to you, and manipulate you, all the while he is only pretending to be into you, that power is lost and given to him. In the hobby, the money we make gives us a bit of control over falling for a guy and being used. We both get something out of it, and no lies are necessary.
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the reason i started seeing providers is im single divorced and a full time parent raising my kids. I hold down a full time job and volenteer as an assisstant coach with my kids sports teams and between work and kids i dont have time for a real relationship plus i have a crazy x wife that makes things very difficult at times and never helps with the kids ever. Its sometimes even hard for me to schedual prebooking appointments because my life is so busy. Plus seeing providers who are way sexier then you could probobly find in a real relationship girl. I also have to admit there is a thrill of breaking the rules and living dangerously knowing if you got caught well would be bad. But the way i look at it is im not paying for sex im paying for the experiance of spending time with a beautiful classy and wonderful girl. Ive met a few girls here that were wonderful and had awsome personalities i have not met 1 provider here on eccie that i regreted
London Rayne's Avatar
I always say you don't pay us for sex..you pay us to leave after and stfu.
pyramider's Avatar
Thank you ladies, keep it coming! :-) Originally Posted by daratu1

Don't egg Naomi and London on. Your thread will go 20 pages if you give those two a head of steam.
anaximander's Avatar
Now this is the disconnect.
Do you actually develop feelings for some
of your p4p clients?
I know I do. I shrug off nonreciprocation- no biggie.

ACP has made passing comments that have reverbed
in my head to the point that I realized something
perhaps obvious to you but I was clueless.
I am incapable of love as you people seem
to describe it. I got an approximation of it that
serves cosmetic purposes. But ms naomi and london
point out its shortcomings once you can get past
the facade. Consider you only know the facade
because I told you of it's measure.
If naomi or london were in my SO' s place
they would be none the wiser.

If you can't tell the difference, what is the difference?

I've discussed this with an ex I've known
since I was 15. We talked last night.
She said we're both sexual assault survivors.
Our view towards the opposite sex will always
be measured and guarded. Sex equals affection
and a sense of belonging however fleeting.
She's married with kids now.
But the same angst is always there.
We're damaged goods.
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I always say you don't pay us for sex..you pay us to leave after and stfu. Originally Posted by London Rayne

London I don't think STFU is in your capability unless you have a cock in your mouth and then you are probably humming something.
Money and laziness. Doing very little for a lot. Being able to do whatever, whenever. Originally Posted by Shayla
If there is such a thing as reicarnation, you'll return to us as a house cat, lol.
Oh just FYI London, I bought a new car yesterday! heheheheheh That's why I was trying to call you earlier! Originally Posted by Naomi4u
what kind