HR at your company is giving a tour to a new hire candidate and she's a former escort you used to see..

First, don't try messing with her chance at getting the job. What happens if she gets hired and finds out? Do you want her to mess with your chance of keeping your job? No.
Just relax.
If she gets hired, who cares, play the dumb card.
If she ever gives you the eye, give her a confused one back.
If she says, do I know you from somewhere? Just say you don't think so.. That she doesn't look familiar.
If anything goes past that, I would suggest a copy of the "do not harass" memo to be emailed to the party that is doing the harassment.

Enjoy your weekend!

you act like an Adult and say nothing,, we ALL have a past.. some good, some great and some not everyone would agree with... Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

That's exactly where I come down on this. Heck, even if she's not "retired" and she and I just had a wild multihour romp the previous week. If she shows up where I work, I say hello like she's a stranger I've never seen before and we go on from there. NOTHING mentioned at work whatsoever. She's got as much to lose as I do from getting stupid.

im asking her at lunch time to go fuck

She's a candidate not an actual hire.

Re-think this. Originally Posted by wreckshop

Treat her with the same respect and professionalism as you would any other candidate. If she is the best qualified candidate and doesn't get the job based on your personal fears or reservations then the company already hired at least one person not capable of doing their job.

Act like you never knew her, turn a blind eye. Likely not the same girl (same life position) as when saw one another, give gal a chance to go a different direction............if she hasn't "retired", happy hours on Friday might have an all new convenient meaning. Originally Posted by Happy Hour

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Our company hangs 8x10 head shots of the Staff on the wall of the main lobby. One day I was working at my desk when I got a text from a Provider I've seen many times telling me that she had just left my office, where she had come for an interview. She didn't know where I worked before that day and she wasn't hired. I trust this lady to keep this information confidential, but it does prove that we do indeed swim in small ponds.

you act like an Adult and say nothing,, we ALL have a past.. some good, some great and some not everyone would agree with... Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

Exactly!!!!

You pretend you don't know her. She may have found her dream job and wants to start a new life and it's not your business to interfere with those plans. That said, if she tells you she is planning to retire and will only see a limited number of gents and you are one of them, you still give her her space and if you two do meet BCD, ask her how her life is going. If you need to go further, just ask if she is comfortable with the possibility that you two may bump into each other now and then but you will not interfere. She may want to settle there so do not let her run off in a panic.

I have encouraged ladies seeking steady employment to apply where I had worked in the past and gave them advice of what to say. Fortunately the company always showed new members in the company main page so that helped relieve some surprise. At times we had our own public functions and I have had to go before large and small groups and was often seen by many, but everything stayed professional and discreet. Although I did wonder how many top male executives might have seen her before and could they control themselves.
Last thing you need is a scandal for you to be caught up in.

Something similar happened to me once. I was at a 7-11 next door to my job, getting some smokes when a provider I had seen 10 years ago came up to me and called me by my monger name! I looked at her funny, because she was ten years older, recognized her, and said to her, "I'm sorry, but that is not my name. I believe you are confusing me with someone else. She tried to hug me but I asked her not to, and tried to act a little offended. She said she was sure it was me and left it alone. I went about my business and never heard from her again.
I believe it is hard for the girls to remember everyone they have ever fucked. Honestly, I can't be sure myself , either.

A good thought provoking question—we should all have rehearsed some of these “what ifs” just in case so we are a little less flustered if and when they actually confront us.

In this case, as with so many, I really think it falls in the “It Depends” category.

One thing I would do in any of the situations is try to confirm whether she was active or retired.

If it is a lady I remember meeting, but not often, and we have no particular connection—then I would do as many on here argue: I would treat her like a total stranger. And carefully watch her face and body language for any hint that she recognized me, was startled, was nervous, etc. If there was no recognition I would let the sleeping dog lie, but remain both cautious and extra proper around her.

If there was a glint of recognition—initially or at a future time—I would write to her. If she is working, I would use that e-mail. I would essentially tell her that I recognized her and she seems to have recognized me. That it is in our best interest to both remain completely discrete about it and hope she feels the same. Yes, she might not feel that way—and that would be an issue—but the sooner I would know her intention for good or bad, the better. I would offer to talk over ways we can both help protect each other in that regard. I acknowledge that I have an advantage in that I am able to retire at any time I choose, so if things go unfortunately south, so be it. Still, I would try to do right by both of us.

If it is a lady I knew better than that, I would assume she recognized me even if there was no outward sign. Then I would certainly contact her, because I would assume she would eventually recognize me and want to make sure it didn’t happen at an inopportune time. I would still seek to talk over what was in or mutual interest. I am sure if/when she recognized me she would likely be as scared of what I might do as I would be of her.

Finally, if it was a good friend, I would do all the above and then tell her I was hurt that she didn’t let me know in advance. Then I would do what I could to help her get the position.

Whether I knew her one time or a lot better than that, unless it is a lady I had some issue with—and there are very few of them—I cannot condone sabotaging her opportunity. I wouldn’t want someone to do it to me.

You apply for a new job and the head of HR is a retire provider you once hired? Or she is now the BIG boss and/or owner of the firm/company?

Do you pass and apply somewhere else?

A good thought provoking question—we should all have rehearsed some of these “what ifs” just in case so we are a little less flustered if and when they actually confront us.

In this case, as with so many, I really think it falls in the “It Depends” category.

One thing I would do in any of the situations is try to confirm whether she was active or retired.

If it is a lady I remember meeting, but not often, and we have no particular connection—then I would do as many on here argue: I would treat her like a total stranger. And carefully watch her face and body language for any hint that she recognized me, was startled, was nervous, etc. If there was no recognition I would let the sleeping dog lie, but remain both cautious and extra proper around her.

If there was a glint of recognition—initially or at a future time—I would write to her. If she is working, I would use that e-mail. I would essentially tell her that I recognized her and she seems to have recognized me. That it is in our best interest to both remain completely discrete about it and hope she feels the same. Yes, she might not feel that way—and that would be an issue—but the sooner I would know her intention for good or bad, the better. I would offer to talk over ways we can both help protect each other in that regard. I acknowledge that I have an advantage in that I am able to retire at any time I choose, so if things go unfortunately south, so be it. Still, I would try to do right by both of us.

If it is a lady I knew better than that, I would assume she recognized me even if there was no outward sign. Then I would certainly contact her, because I would assume she would eventually recognize me and want to make sure it didn’t happen at an inopportune time. I would still seek to talk over what was in or mutual interest. I am sure if/when she recognized me she would likely be as scared of what I might do as I would be of her.

Finally, if it was a good friend, I would do all the above and then tell her I was hurt that she didn’t let me know in advance. Then I would do what I could to help her get the position.

Whether I knew her one time or a lot better than that, unless it is a lady I had some issue with—and there are very few of them—I cannot condone sabotaging her opportunity. I wouldn’t want someone to do it to me. Originally Posted by Old-T

Good answer.
Smart of you to be in a position you can retire whenever you want, also.

You apply for a new job and the head of HR is a retire provider you once hired? Or she is now the BIG boss and/or owner of the firm/company?

Do you pass and apply somewhere else? Originally Posted by JessicaKnightly

I would say go for it,
but never talk about it

I wouldn't care

who is to say there are other co workers who were escorts at one time? or strippers? or whatever. not everyone has a squeaky clean past where they didn't do something 'immoral'

how many co-workers are divorced, or cheated on spouses, etc? probably more than half

Maybe the OP is worried the provider in question will spill the beans about bcd activities. Maybe the OP is into mommy fetish and wearing diapers, or is into pegging, or other potentially embarrassing things ...