i PREFER the slowly undressing each other style as well!!
for me, the anticipation and stimulation just makes the entire encounter much more pleasurable and deliteful!! if the mood is right and she's not heading towards the "why dont you make yourself comfortable?" path, i suggest mutual undressing! as time comes for me to return to reality, a couple of woman i've visited will even dress me! oh la la la!
traci, sounds like you need someone to practice with!