How About a Sadie Hawkins List?

I, johnclark, do hereby swear I won't label PM's from providers as spam, or report them for abusing the PM system. Originally Posted by johnclark

Ohhhhh man....be careful what you wish for, lol.

I found myself checking out one of my favorite areas and came upon this posting. One of my favorite topics. Nothing nicer and more of a turn on to a LOT of us guys that to sign in, see a message, open it and get a nice flirt from a woman! Maybe you saw some of our postings, reviews, requests, whatever, you thought we might be a great match, you're coming to town, we re coming to your town ( I'll be in dallas in August or Sept. :-). What's the deal you can't reach out to us? Not talking about texting phones, I'm meaning PMs on this site! I get it that some wouldn't appreciate it, (not really), betting most guys would love it. I mentioned this in my area, head responses just like here. I also got a PM from a lady coming to town, we chatted, we met, we had a blast! Nice!

I hate to point out the obvious, but this is not Plenty of Fish nor is it match.com.

I hate to point out the obvious, but this is not Plenty of Fish nor is it match.com. Originally Posted by Laura Lynn

So, you're saying that anything that feels good in the Hobby should come at a price?
If it makes you feel any better, consider the incidental contact as proactive marketing; I'm sure a lot of it is. But don't tell us that. We're the ones paying for IOP.

That's not exactly what I'm saying. I am always happy to carry on a conversation with a gent, but only after they reach out to me.

I get what you're saying. It's nice to know a lady is thinking about you. But the majority of men that I know, do not want to have ladies pm them randomly and I think a lot of ladies just simply say " why don't you come see me, I'm lonely".

Alyson Jones sent me a PM out of the blue one time and just said hey I read your reviews and I think we would have a great time together. I liked it and have seen her many times. I didn't mind it at all. And I can't see how that would bother anyone.

Alyson Jones sent me a PM out of the blue one time and just said hey I read your reviews and I think we would have a great time together. I liked it and have seen her many times. I didn't mind it at all. And I can't see how that would bother anyone. Originally Posted by Mavs fan

You must have been putting a lot of details in the physical description area of the review...

I've gotten sketchy responses from the ISO section. And the request is usually dead in 24 hours. I see this as more of a longer term invitation where the provider shows the initiative, possibly making for a better session. Originally Posted by johnclark

+1. Also open to PMs. I'm not sure why PMs are an issue for guys. It's not like someone can go in there and read them - and if they can you have bigger issues. I guess if you don't like them you can always ignore. It's odd how many of the guys on this thread are open to it and most of the ladies think it's wrong to do so.

I see nothing wrong with a lady here sending me a cum do me pm

It's not like someone can go in there and read them -many of the guys on this thread are open to it and most of the ladies think it's wrong to do so. Originally Posted by Barrymccockinner

I agree that random emails and especially random texts can be a serious issue, particularly with people in a relationship, but pm's should not be an issue. And I don't think most providers think it's wrong; I think they all suffer from the sins of the few. There are those that lack discretion and tend to abuse open channels of communication and everybody gets blamed.

+1

There's a difference between spam and a personal email or PM, and it's not too difficult to tell when someone has taken the time to compose something directed to a specific individual.

. Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

DING DING DING GUTTER, TELL HIM WHAT HE'S WON!!!!!!

Just my 0.02 cents:

I find this an interesting idea (OP). I myself don't mind getting PMs or even text messages from *providers I've seen previously*. I can clearly see the point being made by those above with respect to unsolicited "spam" / "adverts"....but that's a not quite the same as what I'm referring to. In other words, I do consider it poor taste to receive a PM from a provider "out of the blue". However, if I've seen a provider before, or contacted the provider before (e.g. PM them to chat, ask a question, etc.); then by all means -- they should feel free to PM (or text) me if they're thinking of me or want to see me.

Now, it must be said; I do not have an S.O. or kids...or anyone else...so, I don't have the problem of worrying about random messages from [sexy, horny] women. :-)

Lastly, I'm not sure how to implement this idea...I think *for me* the distinction is: "provider's I've seen or contacted previously".

Again, just my [tiny] thoughts,

~Hal

That's not exactly what I'm saying. I am always happy to carry on a conversation with a gent, but only after they reach out to me.

I get what you're saying. It's nice to know a lady is thinking about you. But the majority of men that I know, do not want to have ladies pm them randomly and I think a lot of ladies just simply say " why don't you come see me, I'm lonely". Originally Posted by Laura Lynn

I have noticed that is the most comon response Laura Lynn. However, I've noticed a number of guys thinking a little flirt would be nice also. I'm betting there are more guys like me on this site who would get a kick getting a flirt from a lady than those who would think less of the lady.

+another 1 for Johnclark. Being single and no strings is probably the key. I know some guys would not like the attention, but personally, I would welcome it also.

I think *for me* the distinction is: "provider's I've seen or contacted previously".
Originally Posted by Hal-10000

That was pretty much my frame of reference, too. A woman I've seen before who indicates, in a way that suggests that there is at worst a personal touch in the correspondence and at best a genuine interest in seeing me again has a leg up on the competition when my next window of opportunity arises.

Very occasionally -- like twice over the years -- a woman has contacted me via PMs or email based on something I've written in a public forum. One resulted in a long-distance correspondence over several months that culminated in a nice evening when I wound up taking a business trip to her city. The other was a woman in Dallas who, I've been told, you don't seek out; she seeks you out. Not being familiar with her reputation and not being able to recognize an approach when it's made, I didn't realize she was doing the approaching.