What do you do if you and the provider don't mesh?

True, folks are not in this adult lifestyle for romance or a walk down the isle.
However, many folks ARE in this adult lifestyle for *companionship* that goes beyond just sex. Therefore, *chemistry* plays a huge part in ones hobby date.
Or as for you, not needed for your *session* where only sex is wanted.

I get it, when men say they don't click with someone. It's a part of human nature to want to click with someone and have chemistry. Especially for men who are visual creatures and many men who desire a woman of substance.


So again, to the OP and others. IF you don't click with your date. be polite and leave. Do NOT settle!!! This adult lifestyle is about YOU enjoying YOURSELF to the fullest. And not about chalking up the lack of chemistry just to get a nut off. Hell fucking no.

many people in this thread mention "chemistry" with a provider. which I think is funny because that's something a guy might want with an actuall steady girlfriend not a provider.you're not there to date her/court her/romance her/ or eventually walk down the aisle with her. you're there for sex not romance. (at least I'm there for sex not romance) and she's not certainly not meeting YOU for romance but for $$$$. now understand me, if you do have chemistry with a provider, great. and communicating/relating with them is important yet wanting/insisting on "chemistry" is alot to ask. Originally Posted by Solarsystem

One lady one time. I did not write a review and we both knew it was a wasted hour for both of us. It wasn't her fault nor was in mine. It just was a mess and I had to work hard not to laugh my ass off. She gave it a good try but it was a no go from about 10 minutes into the session. There is another provider that I really liked but after two wonderful sessions the third fell apart and we both agreed it would be the last time. We talked of getting together for coffee several times but never did. I made sure I gave the first provider the money as she really gave it a try.

It happens....and I just give it the "ole college try"!

It sure as hell wasn't you Dee. I have always left you wondering how I got home. Next time I will get a designated driver.

i agree. i been doing this for a few months and some guys have gotten ruff. so if i feel like its not going to work i keep half and will send him with the rest. not all guys are agressive only a few jerks. im not accusing you of being agressive by the way. some times it just doesnt work out...tiffani is right. try talking for the first few minutes to see hows things will go before you give her the envelope. Originally Posted by sxyveronica

I didn't say that shiat! You better gimme my envelope first or there won't be a first few minutes! Just kidding.
Please don't encourage these guys to hold off on the envelope. There's no worse way to make a lady uncomfortable.

But to clarify, Small Package understood perfectly what I meant. Communication is foreplay in itself. I don't do short notice appointments with men that I have not communicated with. That gives me a sense of what makes him happy since most of the time I'm the flexible one. There are some guys that like that passion from the door, and they make me aware of that beforehand. But for the most part, people like to take in their surroundings, freshen up, or talk first.

Communication can get all the nervousness out of the situation for both of us, and makes that immediate passion easier. Our limits and turn on's have already been discussed, and an enjoyable situation is all that's left to have.

Commuincation will lead to more anticipation will lead to more nervousness .... It happens.

It sure as hell wasn't you Dee. I have always left you wondering how I got home. Next time I will get a designated driver. Originally Posted by tucson

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not everyone will "get along hunky dory" with everyone......so just "go with the flow and make the best of the situation"

Commuincation will lead to more anticipation will lead to more nervousness .... It happens. Originally Posted by pyramider

Not after that first kiss...

Tiffani
I don't remember if I got a kiss from you in Houston or not. But you were tied up a bit

Just a few times I have felt like there just wasn’t much chemistry. Not her fault or not mine, we just didn’t match for some reason. In each case I tried something new or that I don’t usually have in an encounter to spice it up, or learn something. Learned a toy and how to use it to her satisfaction once. Learned about a couple of positions that completely changed the sensation and the view. In each case, it made the meeting more interesting.

I will still treat him as if we clicked. It may not be a great experience, but there is no reason for it not to be good, at least.