Is the hobby an addiction?

I just had to fire one of my favourite clients last night because he's a bit too addicted for my liking....I won't see guys who have seen certain other providers that I think or know are a bit dodgy, or are seeing different clients every other day.... Originally Posted by Valerie

What!!??? You'll fire a client b/c he sees another escort?? Isn't that a bit possessive? ["OK, I'll see you, but it's an exclusive deal. You can't see any other escorts."]

Guess you can't stand the competition. That's a monopolistic tactic.

What!!??? You'll fire a client b/c he sees another escort?? Isn't that a bit possessive? ["OK, I'll see you, but it's an exclusive deal. You can't see any other escorts."]

Guess you can't stand the competition. That's a monopolistic tactic. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I can what you're saying and I'm sure you can also see where she was referring to girls that were known to be a bit "dodgy" which I think is a polite way of saying "girls that will do unsafe things". I also think she doesn't want to see guys that are "high volume"....lol... because it increases the odds of them seeing those type of girls. I'm am sure you
saw that but love to poke jabs

I think some guys, not you, just can't stand a provider that will say "no I won't see just anyone" cause it means that money does not ensure you can see her. That kind of erases the fantasy of never being rejected in this "thing".

Oh and I know I'm addicted to this SHMB.... lol

What!!??? You'll fire a client b/c he sees another escort?? Isn't that a bit possessive? ["OK, I'll see you, but it's an exclusive deal. You can't see any other escorts."]

Guess you can't stand the competition. That's a monopolistic tactic. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I don't think it's a competiton thing as we have seen several of the same clients. I too have refused to see guys who make a habit of seeing girls I feel are not practicing safe sex(bbfs), some SWs, or who don't screen and allow anyone in their garage.

Like you guys, some providers would rather NOT see career hobbyists, but guys who only do this off and on. It's not a jab at anyone, just a preference for some.

I can what you're saying and I'm sure you can also see where she was referring to girls that were known to be a bit "dodgy" which I think is a polite way of saying "girls that will do unsafe things".

Oh and I know I'm addicted to this SHMB.... lol Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Actually, I didn't know what "dodgy" meant, and the context didn't give me much of a clue.

And how would she know he was seeing a "dodgy" provider? I guess the client spilled the beans. If the ladies were talking and comparing notes on clients, I'd be super pissed as the client since what happens between us should stay between us. So he deserves what he got. I may talk about another provider but I try never to identify them. It's part of the whole "discreet" thing IMHO.

I DO understand the safety issue.

Now that I can agree on to an extent.... but you best better believe that all providers an hobbyists share what happened between them. It's right out there for everyone to see on the worldwide eccie and other sites. These ladies share their experiences with each other for numerous reasons, good and bad. If a guy did something unsafe with another provider, you don't think she should tell another provider who asked about him? Just asking... It wouldn't be a rumor, it would be a fact....

Now that I can agree on to an extent.... but you best better believe that all providers an hobbyists share what happened between them. It's right out there for everyone to see on the worldwide eccie and other sites. These ladies share their experiences with each other for numerous reasons, good and bad. If a guy did something unsafe with another provider, you don't think she should tell another provider who asked about him? Just asking... It wouldn't be a rumor, it would be a fact.... Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

If safety is an issue, by all means that should be disclosed. And I know some post reviews, but I have no idea what is posted in PR (and I try not to let my imagination get away from me).

I was talking more in terms of intimate details being shared among providers that had nothing to do with safety issues. Especially if it is RW issues or identities.

I agree with EA even this board can become addictive and visiting and sparring back and forth over comments gets to a point where you want to get on to see who said what..lol
As far as the hobby itsself becoming addictive..yes it could but so could seeing just one provider because we all get ATF's or someone we click with and enjoy seeing but isnt that what its all about ?
didnt we get on here to fufill some of our wants and needs and most of us strive to find the perfect provider or client so what are you going to do once you find someone that becomes an ATF quit seeing them because you like them too much...lol
Just like anything in life you need to do it in moderation and enjoy it for what it is and the word Hobby speaks volumes about what this is ..just that a HOBBY which is something to do on the side.
But just like alchohol they make many brands and they make more than you can ever find to drink so dont try to drink it all up at one time..its impossible and on here there is no way you could see every provider or client even though i think some try to..lol
But yes it can become addictive if you are not careful..

I just had to fire one of my favourite clients last night because he's a bit too addicted for my liking....I won't see guys who have seen certain other providers that I think or know are a bit dodgy, or are seeing different clients every other day.... Originally Posted by Valerie

Hey love,

I had to literally fire a client for getting toooo Naomi crazy. He was married and was getting too clingy for my liking. He offered to pay for a new car and a new beach home for me and I turned that down because he started to get controlling. It was that BAD. It took frequent chats with London and SNL to come out of that whole ordeal sane. One day I'll have to tell you what really happened... ugh!

Now I have refused to see a guy that didn't see girls that I felt that were in my class. If a guy wants to see me and he has had a record of seeing non reviewed, shady looking, cell phone pictures having providers I will NOT see him. It has been a practice of mine for years. Sure men want variety but I want a man with standards. It is NOT all about the money. If it was I would have taken the range rover and beach house and retired, would see men under 35 which I do not do and will not ask for an arm and a leg for screening purposes. Some people just don't get it but I see where you are coming from.

xoxo,
Naomi

I don't think it's a competiton thing as we have seen several of the same clients. I too have refused to see guys who make a habit of seeing girls I feel are not practicing safe sex(bbfs), some SWs, or who don't screen and allow anyone in their garage.

Like you guys, some providers would rather NOT see career hobbyists, but guys who only do this off and on. It's not a jab at anyone, just a preference for some. Originally Posted by London Rayne

I hate to call him out here but take CarolinaGent for example. That is one guy that is not a serial hobbyist and does not play about . I see him at least 2 a month and hell there was one month where I saw him 7 times lol (Sorry CG!). He rather sees me and not see deal with the BS that come with a lot of ladies and I rather see him because he is a man with high standars, not a serial hobbyist and actually FUN.

London, There was a time that you and I were having a conversation here on the boards and a girl flat out admitted that she was having BBFS with a client because he was a regular. When I posted my reply to her she immediately DELETED it(You know me.. I keeps it real!). I knew then that there are ladies that actually have BBFS with these men. While it is a lady's right to do whatever she wants with her body I don't think it is a smart idea to risk your life for a few extra hundred dollars. We do not know what these men do in their personal life and who's to say that the lady uses protection with every client. If she can do it with one man she can fpr sure do it with others. It is a downright disgusting act. Not only because it is BBFS with a hobbyist but because it is also putting other ladies at risk.

Now that I can agree on to an extent.... but you best better believe that all providers an hobbyists share what happened between them. It's right out there for everyone to see on the worldwide eccie and other sites. These ladies share their experiences with each other for numerous reasons, good and bad. If a guy did something unsafe with another provider, you don't think she should tell another provider who asked about him? Just asking... It wouldn't be a rumor, it would be a fact.... Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Yes if a guy does BBFS with another provider and if a provider is silly enough to do this with her client then IT SHOULD BE REPORTED! You would thinck that people had more sense that that!

Well I don't know what is said in the PR and I don't need to know in order to know that these ladies definitely talk to each other. Now I do believe that the vast majority of the ladies on here do protect their client's RW identities or I hope. Most ladies that deny seeing someone, will do it for safety reasons or like everyone should, they researched a potential client and found that they would not be good for that client snd didn't want to risk a bad time on either part. I don't see anything wrong with that.... I've had it happen as I'm sure everyone has.

This is YMMV all day long. A lady I guess you can say is my ATF actually has YMMV listed as one of her services on her P411.... I love that

Well, unfortunately, I generally don't get a lot of mileage. This is due to a bunch of complicated factors. I don't have regulars, so there's no way of building a relationship over time. Because I don't have regulars, I don't tend to have extended sessions. My screening tends to weed out a lot of ladies. I think I'm on some DNS lists, so there is a certain segment that is unavailable. Since I'm obviously not going to be a long term client, there's no motivation on the provider's part to invest any kind of time & effort (other than the basics) into the session.

The dynamics suck, but that's what I'm stuck with. No RL situation is perfect.

Well, unfortunately, I generally don't get a lot of mileage. This is due to a bunch of complicated factors. I don't have regulars, so there's no way of building a relationship over time. Because I don't have regulars, I don't tend to have extended sessions. My screening tends to weed out a lot of ladies. I think I'm on some DNS lists, so there is a certain segment that is unavailable. Since I'm obviously not going to be a long term client, there's no motivation on the provider's part to invest any kind of time & effort (other than the basics) into the session.

The dynamics suck, but that's what I'm stuck with. No RL situation is perfect. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Charles you're on my must see list just FYI.

Even when I am seeing a guy just once I go the extra mile to make sure he has a good time. Sure it is nice to have that "big fish" but that is like saying just because I know he will see me next month "I don't have to look sexy he'll be back". That is wrong. We are individuals. I think all too often people tend to put us in one big category. There are some of us that don't think like that.

This job is not JUST about sex. You can have sex and feel like shit afterwards. I want the man I spend time with to leave feeling like a new man. I want him to be happy that he came to see me. When seeing a guy for just an hour I try to make it the best hour of his life. I want him to fall in love with me for that hour so that when we go our separate ways he can't stop thinking of me. Even though I may not see him again I try to leave a lasting impression. That is what a good provider does.

Charles you're on my must see list just FYI.

Even when I am seeing a guy just once I go the extra mile to make sure he has a good time. Sure it is nice to have that "big fish" but that is like saying just because I know he will see me next month "I don't have to look sexy he'll be back". That is wrong. We are individuals. I think all too often people tend to put us in one big category. There are some of us that don't think like that.

This job is not JUST about sex. You can have sex and feel like shit afterwards. I want the man I spend my time with to leave feeling like a new man. I want him to be happy that he came to see me. When seeing a guy for just an hour I try to make it the best hour of his life. I want him to fall in love with me for that hour so that when we go our separate ways he can't stop thinking of me. Even though I may not see him again I try to leave a lasting impression. That is what a good provider does. Originally Posted by Naomi4u

TY.

I would think that because you may be hard to please or have a lot working against you keeping you from having a good time would make a lady want to please you. Because if you, the charlsetudor, gets on here and says so and so gave me a hell of a good time.... That's saying something right there

I would think that because you may be hard to please or have a lot working against you keeping you from having a good time would make a lady want to please you. Because if you, the charlsetudor, gets on here and says so and so gave me a hell of a good time.... That's saying something right there Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Oh yeah. He said yesterday that he doesn't want to be told that he's sexy because he doesn't feel sexy and my little heart went out to him. I DO want to spend time with him and be able to tell him "I told you so!!". He's not the most nicest guy ALL the time but he is very sweet and I think I'd have a great time even just talking to him because he is very intelligent. So we'll see.

Back on topic: Am I addicted to the hobby? I think I am addicted to the money and freedom this hobby gives me. I love the high that I get from meeting a new client after exchanging emails for days, weeks and sometimes even months. I like the thrill of opening the door to reveal WHO this man is because I've been trying to imagine what he would look like. I enjoy being pampered and flown to exotic destinations for shopping, a walk on the beach and a discreet rendezvous. So am I addicted? If you call that addiction then maybe I am