You know what you speak of, my friend.Actually, it was That Sadie Chick that I was talking about.
Methinks BCG underestimates That Pam Chick. Originally Posted by Lonesome
Thats just it.. I joined aspd in 2003.. the girls welcomed me in.. hell i had lunch with a few of them when we stayed at the same hotels..we would swap info, stories, experiences.. nothing even like buddy buddy.. we were never even "best friends"..just acquaintences..but we could trust each other.. I remember when sadie and pam popped up on the scene.. business went on.. we all had clients to see.. we all still wanted to be safe and no one was ever "not opened" to being the topic of a discussion good or bad.. the funny thing is.. none of those girls that "popped up" in the arkansas scene some 2 years after i had been here and others had been before me.. those girls didn't need a "lesson" in how to "work".. I personally never percieved any of the "new girls" as a risk..neither did the hobbyiest..
unfortunately that is not the case.. its not that I or others are less accepting of new girls.. its that they aren't hobbying safely..they are letting money dictate decisions instead being smart and screening thoroughly and then listening to more experienced providers on what changes to make.. the attitudes of "i know" grows tiresome especially when it turns out you obviously don't know..
the hobbyiest are careless and searching for deals in these economic times..instead of NOT HOBBYING..they chose to search less trustworthy websites for deals and all the get is a ride to the pokey and put us more at risk.. if you don't have the money to hobby successfully and safely then why hobby?
The frequent name changes to run from troubles.. the seemingly short term memory problems some exhibit, are troublesome and create problems within the community.. you don't know who is who, who to trust, why this or that happened and in the end it puts everyone on edge.. and rightfully so.. I have been DeAnn Luv/DeAnna luv since 1999 on anything i have ever done.. same phone number for 10years.. not bragging..but sadie to my knowledge has always been just that.. and pamela.. and most of the hobbyiest have kept their handles.. its the sketch nature of some that are throwing the community off..
its not a hijack..but merely making points that..its not about change...its not about new members..its about TRUST..its about can you be trusted and not create a trust ripple (i create plenty of ripples aside from trust).. as i have said..it benefits me none beings i see who i will see..when i want, where i want, how i want.. only a select few know where i am at during any given time.. but it would be nice to see a board that gives a place to come for fun, community, and safety..and most of all useful info..
it can get back there.. but i to feel like its a waste of time at times.. because some seem unwilling to make it safe..
am I to blame..yes.. do i not let shit slide that i should..perhaps.. but i did it on aspd, and it was not a problem..did it on eccie when i first got here..never an issue.. you can ignore me.. but the usefulness of this site is not what it use to be..in part due to the players..in part due to the attitudes by many..including me..
is it a waste.. not yet.. but getting there..and perhaps we are all to blame Originally Posted by DeAnna Luv
Exactly Sadie........when I first started it was peaceful, and had I not heard about the badmouthing of ME (of course my name was not mentioned......lol), I would never have found this site again (so guess some good comes out of bad).
I keep to myself, I do what I feel is right for my safety, and I have the right to do what I do, with a very good explanation with every decision I make.
Hope it gets back to the way it used to be........ Originally Posted by tammy4u