Hobby and Friends?

LEt me say this VI, i have many "friends" that are providers or exproviders", i always know that we keep the "friendship" buisness like. Only once did i think i might have gotten into a fwb or "freebie status" but asked if i was mistaken. I was told yes and it didnt bother me becasue i was unsure of the sittuation. I know this is a buisness and its all fantasy.

I do enjoy talking and jokeing with those that have befriended me but dont go looking for discounts or freebies. Thing is im probably a rare person in this hobby that is like that. Becareful VI the world is full of crazies nutjobs and mentally ill. Try to heed the advice of providers that have been doing this a lot longer than you, they just trying to help you avoid an awkward sitituation.

P.S. i have started playing the Blizzard MOBA Heros of the Storm, lots of fun i recomend it, its free to own and play, perfect price lol.

I am friends with a provider... knew her before she became one. Have had two sessions with her. Paid full price for both. If I had a friend that was a mechanic and he fixed my car, I'd pay him for his services.

I know this is not apples to apples, but it's close enough.

And I have met quite a few fun girls here. Had dinner and drinks with some (not a session)... but if we get down to what they do for a living, I pay.

I am friends with a provider... knew her before she became one. Have had two sessions with her. Paid full price for both. If I had a friend that was a mechanic and he fixed my car, I'd pay him for his services.

I know this is not apples to apples, but it's close enough.

And I have met quite a few fun girls here. Had dinner and drinks with some (not a session)... but if we get down to what they do for a living, I pay. Originally Posted by sirliamscross

LEt me say this VI, i have many "friends" that are providers or exproviders", i always know that we keep the "friendship" buisness like. Only once did i think i might have gotten into a fwb or "freebie status" but asked if i was mistaken. I was told yes and it didnt bother me becasue i was unsure of the sittuation. I know this is a buisness and its all fantasy.

I do enjoy talking and jokeing with those that have befriended me but dont go looking for discounts or freebies. Thing is im probably a rare person in this hobby that is like that. Becareful VI the world is full of crazies nutjobs and mentally ill. Try to heed the advice of providers that have been doing this a lot longer than you, they just trying to help you avoid an awkward sitituation.

P.S. i have started playing the Blizzard MOBA Heros of the Storm, lots of fun i recomend it, its free to own and play, perfect price lol. Originally Posted by Duthgar1976

I did try HotS but it seems really really easy?

it's nice not gonna lie, and blizzard made it so it's beautiful <3

but i'm a league girl hands down, it's between DOTA and HotS

yea, i see what they mean, i guess i'm was trying to have my cake and eat it too

One word....... Destiny

Tyrion knows best! Originally Posted by DarkeyKong

i see, it looks like my biggest issue here is wanting to keep one from the other

thanks again for the insite

One word....... Destiny Originally Posted by DarkeyKong

nothing compairs to destiny in this day and age lol

especially with the next update coming and the new game

Since there is more than enough advice on to fuck or not to fuck....

I'll just say Blade and Soul is going to have a major impact on my sex life. PC MASTER RACE.

If I knew a provider was a provider (and she knew I knew), and we connected as friends outside of that aspect, then I think it stays there. I personally wouldn't ruin the friendship by fucking or paying to fuck. Probably going to be some tension, and maybe some flirting; but all in good fun knowing not to cross the line to ruin the friendship.

That said, I'm a rather confident guy with a lot of will power. The sex is just that, and most providers I've seen will laugh; but I could have taken up the entire session just shooting the shit and being friendly. Your personality and what makes you YOU is far more interesting to me than how well you can suck my dick or beg me to fill you up. Finding out a friend I've met via gaming, conventions, other friends, work, etc. is a provider doesn't make me want to ruin that. Honestly, I've probably already thought about how fun it would be to have sex with you (the friend); but decided it's more fun to people watch with you or do whatever it is we're already doing that connected us.

/sappy

note:
If you're a quality player in LoL, you probably shouldn't come to DotA to play ranked or even non. Will often be too frustrating and no forfeit option will only add to that. However, play DotA custom games: short, usually great fun, and easy to learn. Do however, play HotS matches. 'Short' and sweet, in time and effort. Not nearly near mechanically demanding as DotA.

Since there is more than enough advice on to fuck or not to fuck....

I'll just say Blade and Soul is going to have a major impact on my sex life. PC MASTER RACE. Originally Posted by Chaataca

i'll look it up, never heard of it

When is it ok to become real friends with Clients/Providers?
or
should you just avoid all together? Originally Posted by !VI!

When there are enough shared interests to be friends any way.

And both parties know what is going on.

Had one of those once, though now its hard to find any woman in to gaming, shooting, skiffy and hates shopping.

Just pick your friends wisely (same as in the civilian world). Someone mature enough to be on good terms but realize business is business would be fine, someone a little unstable and thinking it's "love", not so good.

Then there is the distinction between friends and friendly acquaintances, both require mutual respect and usually a shared interest, but a friendly acquaintance won't ask to crash on the couch.

Enjoy! Originally Posted by Iaintliein

Iaintliein is a great example. He is amazing. One of my favorite people. I would consider us "friends". But the job is the job is the job. Those of us that have been around will tell you to avoid personal entanglements at almost any cost, however, there will be exceptions. Just make SURE in the BEGINNING that they understand where you stand and DO NOT MOVE THE LINE.

Becareful with yourself and your loved ones. The choices you make affect everyone you know. It may be years before you see damage.... and I can't stress that enough.

BTW Do NOT get entangled with a married man. DO NOT. Even friendly drinks are a no no. Once you give an inch, you'll never get it back and more will ultimately be expected no matter what they say at the time.



But hey on a different note, you sound right up my alley. I don't want to fuck you (well ya I kinda do), but I'd sure love to hang sometime. I love Cons. Almost any one. That's another thing though, be very careful which providers you choose to associate with. You'll get seriously screwed 9 out of 10 times. I have just been very fortunate and blessed on all fronts. Take care girl. You are amazingly beautiful....

though now its hard to find any woman in to gaming, shooting, skiffy and hates shopping. Originally Posted by Damnthetorpedoes

YO <- RIGHT HERE.

It can work. I know this from experience.

The key is you can't be a jealous person. If you have any jealousy at all in you then don't do it. If your not the jealous type and they aren't either then it can work.

FUCK YA!!!!!!!!!
SLUTS UNITED!!!!!!!!! Originally Posted by daaaaaman

I have become friends with 2 providers during my years. Yes there is free sex now. I dont look at it that way. We hang out, have fun, a few drinks and it happens, but we don’t let that get in the way of her business. As a friend, I have on occasion helped out with finances, helping move to another apartment, giving advice, whatever... what are friends for. I don’t see a problem with it, but I do agree it can get ugly it just depends how the relationship develops and the maturity of the people involved. Why do some treat this as off limits? Some are just looking at this from a money perspective, I get that. I know many providers have good relationships and fuck when they have the time. Being a friend is being a friend. It’s simple to me.

IMHO ( kind of a long post I see now , maybe a little more than two cents, but consider inflation ...)
Being a truly true friend, means that you are unselfish in that connection, independent of a male friend or a female friend. In friendship u expect to give voluntarily more than you receive, and get rewarded with similar friendship from the other side , without having any claims. If you are looking for the FWB role , that is not friendship, it is companionship and that has a different set of boundaries. Biology does not make it easy on us. We all are programmed to look for mating partners by Mother Nature.

I make friends very easy because of mutual respect , connection, but the beautiful ladies I visit and consider my friends, they have to make a living , or income, or live their own life, not mine. Who am I to impose my perspective about life when I am always in he quest of learning about mine. I can give advise, like stop smoking if you want to live long , look younger or have great skin, but when I visit, I pay gladly or I skip the visit until I can. Do I really know what is best for them, by becoming aFWB, or a sugar daddy if one can afford it, and put a free person in a cage of commitments.

If I get a discount, or a free session does not mean at all I can ask for another one! It just means she knows how much one values such a reciprocation of friendship, and is not a proposal for companionship...
If I have friendship, I prefer to keep it more than get a freebie . Or think this way: would you want to be friends with a cheap pro or with a high class expensive one? Even if you cannot afford it?

On the other hand, I expect to keep my freedom of choice and not be ensured in the " come see only me every time" situation, but pay as a regular customer. That sounds like monogamous marital type stuff and not friendship.

Question to the experienced ladies : in your opinion can a repeat customer , without expectations for free service be a good friend? And which part is more important?

In this type of relations is impossible to not make some sort of attachments due to chemistry of our brains during and after a great intimate connection....
The key is to control them.

Ashi is different from most guys. A lot of people are only looking for what they can get out of you so you have to keep your defenses up or you will get used up and in the end, all you have is regret.

In my time as a provider, I have had a lot of great clients. An outsider looking in would definitely say that we are friends and it is a fact that I prefer their company over anyone that I consider a "friend". Sometimes people click with each other and it is a lot of fun. However, I would never call them like I do my friends and every time we get together, they pay. It does not bother me if they don't call or they want to use me as a reference.

Maintaining your professionalism will attract the right guys and deter the wrong guys. If you are looking to fuck, maybe you should try Match.com.