Vanillia vs New Experiences ?

One of the reasons I hobby is to do things I wouldn't ordinarily do in civie life. I like experimenting. I kinda figure most providers have done just about everything out there, so they are the perfect partner because they know what they are doing. It is a rare occasion for me to teach a provider a new skill or position.

As with several others, I am pretty vanilla. Most women that I see don't suggest anything, so it's usually all of the same things that I always enjoy. Just nothing out of the ordinary.

However there is one lady with whom I am adventuresome. That's because she likes to experiment and play and explore.

Dallas Rain always has something new for us to try and I never say no to her. She is great for pushing my boundaries and she's getting me to come up with ideas of my own.

So my answer is it depends upon the lady.

So who among you ladies suggests new things to your guys? Or do you let them take the lead?

Subliminal? Pushing the envelop? I think all providers love the envelop! Especially when it contains Benjamins!

I want to push the envelope. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I like to go out of the envelope,out of the desk,out of the office,out of the planet. Never did care for vanilla

Vanilla is sometimes a rare treat, especially French vanilla, all to often it's hand churned, home made vanilla!

DATY, CIM, and Greek are fairly commonplace these days, but, at my place at least, they are out of bounds. So, to that extent I do like a few sprinkles on my vanilla from time to time. Overall, I don't hobby for the adventure nor even for the variety that much anymore, some hunt for sport, others for sustenance.

I do enjoy interacting with my muse Lindsey, who is anything but vanilla (though she serves it up quiet well), her "tools of the trade" make for some of the most fun photography I've ever done! Maybe I'm getting old, but I enjoy the photography almost as much as the more traditional hobby pastimes.

What are boundries? Vanilla is for home, this fantasy is for being open to what either partner may want to try. In reality there are a number of things I have no interest in trying (scat, pain, etc.), but good on ya if you do. Research to make sure you have the right partner.

And I agree with some of the previous posters that Tiffany Cums is usually the right partner. One of the gold standards in this community, before, during and after the date.

I started hobbying because Standing Doggy position was the ritual in our marriage. I decided I wasn't going to my grave w/o experiencing BBBJCIMNQNS. So I did...thank you, you marvelous, gorgeous women who have spent time with me.

That being said, I love the GFE experience (which certainly varies by provider...I have been most fortunate!!). I also am now "Another Realm" fan and am playing out experiences I only dreamed about 5 years ago.

Change is to be welcomed. Enjoy!!

I tend to be pretty 'vanilla', probably just out of learned experiences. I do often think about pushing the envelope and crossing some boundaries but it would probably take the right lady and a push in that direction by her in order for me to do so. In the heat of the moment I could be persuaded for sure.