What are boundries? Vanilla is for home, this fantasy is for being open to what either partner may want to try. In reality there are a number of things I have no interest in trying (scat, pain, etc.), but good on ya if you do. Research to make sure you have the right partner.
And I agree with some of the previous posters that Tiffany Cums is usually the right partner. One of the gold standards in this community, before, during and after the date.