How many guys become emotionally involved with providers?

Iv been talking to a guy i met two years ago when i first started. he just divorce and new to the hobby world. and hes been seeing me alot lately about three times a week. and now wants to go out of town for the weekend. i like him but cant get emotionally involed. i like having a good time and luv roll play. i think hes never met anyone like me and mainly just in lust. i just was his maid Maria, tonight. lol he loved it. Bottom line not ready to stop playing this game so im not getting emotionally involved. Originally Posted by Raquel Ryder

I'm not ready for you to quit playing this game either........So tell him not to get it twisted..........LOL

It seems to me that sophisticated, mature escorts meet lots of businessmen. As they get closer to retirement, a meaningful relationship becomes very worthwhile. Originally Posted by Owlman

On the other hand, there is the issue whether the older/mature businessman is ready to "retire".

DH you crack me up!!!! Originally Posted by jimmycz

I really don't want to admit it, but sometimes he cracks me up too.

Lol, UNLESS, you hook up with me or AMY! IJS Originally Posted by NIKKILOVE

Haha, so true. You don't have to twist my arm to make it wet and sloppy every night

Iv been talking to a guy i met two years ago when i first started. he just divorce and new to the hobby world. and hes been seeing me alot lately about three times a week. and now wants to go out of town for the weekend. i like him but cant get emotionally involed. i like having a good time and luv roll play. i think hes never met anyone like me and mainly just in lust. i just was his maid Maria, tonight. lol he loved it. Bottom line not ready to stop playing this game so im not getting emotionally involved. Originally Posted by Raquel Ryder

My wife is very pretty. However, when she was not actually "working" she never was the type to just be in "lust" with. To neighbors and friends, she seemed like a pretty lady who lived a middle class life. She looked at the profession solely as a means of making a good living and giving her the time she needed for other aspects of her life.

She knew some other ladies in the profession who looked at things similarly to her.

I know it happens a lot. I like some of the guys very, very much. But I have no interest in being involved with one of them in a relationship. Let's just have fun.

Suddenly some business clients are questioning among themselves how I could leave a successful and respected lawyer for an escort.

I'd simply reply: "Well, look at the actions my ex-wife has gone through to try and hurt myself and my new wife. Better a former escort who would never hurt a soul, than a jealous, vindictive, but 'well respected' lawyer"

My answer to the thread:

I do not and would not date in the hobby. I feel that, much like having sex with a roommate or coworker, it's shitting where you eat. Not a practice I am very fond of, personally. I've met some great men and women in the hobby, who I could see myself spending time with outside of it. However until I *am* outside of the hobby, it's out of my mind. I try to stay very professional when it comes to this, and while it may come off as cold - it really isn't. I'm a pretty warm person (ask anyone who's met me in person!), I just don't want to screw up my job over a relationship.

Would I leave the industry for someone I found? I'm really not sure - I'm a very independent person who adores the idea of being able to support herself, put away money in the bank, and live comfortably. If I could not do that in this new relationship, I would really have to weigh which one was more important. I've come very far and I enjoy the fact I've "moved up" and can give myself a higher quality of life. I don't know if I would take a step back down paycheck-to-paycheck living for ANYONE at this point.

I made a deal with myself when I started this that I would NOT come out below my original station in life, no matter what. I've seen too many women come into this industry, do really well, and leave with nothing. I will not be that person, for anyone - even Mr or Miss Right.

Attraction can happen at any time. Some look at us as cum sucking sluts, and some look at us as just having a job that involves sucking cum and respect what we do to get by. I would not take things to another level, but I am very close to many clients, and concider them "friends". If I need a Dr.'s opinion, I can just call and ask, if I have a legal question I can just call and ask one of my lawyer clients. I have some I'm really close to though, so I just try not to think about it. In the end it feels good to be cared about "truelly". Even though I am great at those other things, like Nikki said we are not robots! I have better friends in this business than in real life, cause we tend to be more "real" with no secrets! Originally Posted by bustyamy

Good post.

All of them in one way or another i no some Ladys from years ago im good friends with today and have not forgot any of them ive been with i hope the best for everyone

[quote=Sarunga;2366649]On the other hand, there is the issue whether the older/mature businessman is ready to "retire".

My wife does not want to do some things as a wife that she did as an escort. From her escort experience, she understands what the outcome of that feeling often is. She says that it is OK with her to use escorts for BBBJ only. I have to tell her who I want to see before setting any appointments.

If I do anything else with an escort or any other woman, my wife would leave me immediately.

I would not date anyone in the hobby. But i do have alot of friends that happen to be my clients. Its very refreshing to talk to someone who knows about this lifestyle and not be judged by it. I think getting emotionally involoved would make things very awkward for both parties involved.

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On the other hand, there is the issue whether the older/mature businessman is ready to "retire".

My wife does not want to do some things as a wife that she did as an escort. From her escort experience, she understands what the outcome of that feeling often is. She says that it is OK with her to use escorts for BBBJ only. I have to tell her who I want to see before setting any appointments.

If I do anything else with an escort or any other woman, my wife would leave me immediately. Originally Posted by Sarunga

wow.

AGREE 100%

I'd simply reply: "Well, look at the actions my ex-wife has gone through to try and hurt myself and my new wife. Better a former escort who would never hurt a soul, than a jealous, vindictive, but 'well respected' lawyer"

My answer to the thread:

I do not and would not date in the hobby. I feel that, much like having sex with a roommate or coworker, it's shitting where you eat. Not a practice I am very fond of, personally. I've met some great men and women in the hobby, who I could see myself spending time with outside of it. However until I *am* outside of the hobby, it's out of my mind. I try to stay very professional when it comes to this, and while it may come off as cold - it really isn't. I'm a pretty warm person (ask anyone who's met me in person!), I just don't want to screw up my job over a relationship.

Would I leave the industry for someone I found? I'm really not sure - I'm a very independent person who adores the idea of being able to support herself, put away money in the bank, and live comfortably. If I could not do that in this new relationship, I would really have to weigh which one was more important. I've come very far and I enjoy the fact I've "moved up" and can give myself a higher quality of life. I don't know if I would take a step back down paycheck-to-paycheck living for ANYONE at this point.

I made a deal with myself when I started this that I would NOT come out below my original station in life, no matter what. I've seen too many women come into this industry, do really well, and leave with nothing. I will not be that person, for anyone - even Mr or Miss Right. Originally Posted by Missy Mariposa

I don't know if I would take a step back down paycheck-to-paycheck living for ANYONE at this point.

I made a deal with myself when I started this that I would NOT come out below my original station in life, no matter what. I've seen too many women come into this industry, do really well, and leave with nothing. I will not be that person, for anyone - even Mr or Miss Right. Originally Posted by Missy Mariposa

My wife grew up in a broken, dysfunctional home (and was looked down upon by her more well-to-do cousins, uncles and aunts). Her first marriage was to an irresponsible guy. After her divorce, she got into the profession to provide a sufficient level of income to live well. As it turns out, she did well.

She never got emotionally tied to any client although several tried. She had a few relationships outside the profession, but they did not work out. She came to believe that she would always be on her own.

She was introduced to me by one of her friends who knew me because I was a consultant engaged by the company where she worked. We got along very well from the beginning in a way that had never happened to either of us. She felt that she had to tell me about being an escort. Our feelings for each other were such that we decided to go forward.

Although she gave up most of her income, she continues to live very well. However, getting over the problems created by my ex-wife has to make her wonder whether it was worth getting out of the profession.

Owlman, you sound like the young nerd who just saw his first naked set of titties.
You have to keep this shit in perspective. All of the Ladies who you will meet on this board are Hookers. They do this for a living, and most are damned good at it.
You are a John. Every guy on here who has seen one of these Ladies is also a John.
If you loose sight of that, you are going to start thinking like you are in the real world. You are not.

Heck, I see only one Provider. I have been seeing her for going on three years, more times than not twice a week. We have probably "had sex", (that encompasses a lot of things), over 300 times. I like her, and by all accounts, she likes me.
But, she is a Hooker, and I am a John. I get experience the pleasure of the company of a beautiful woman, she gets to enjoy all the things she can buy with what I give her.
That's it. Try to make it more, and you are heading down the Boulevard of Broken Dreams.

I understand how the OP's remarks could have been interpreted that way, Jackie, but I think he was actually saying the same thing as you. If you've visited the same lady for that long you know--and you stated in your post, which was great--that you must constantly keep your roles in mind. I agree. Otherwise, the temptation is too great to fall into fantasy positions.

I think he was wondering about those fantasy positions and what happens when people succumb to that, well, ignorance.

Pin Jackie's post to the top, boys and girls. It's right and righteous and needs to be re-read by many.