Massive Undertaking

bobo, you don't need 3 weeks, 1 week will do. i have delt with this. 1 week will change your outlook. your balls will be grapefruit sized, and your appetite will be like an Ethiopian in the 80's at a buffet!
1 week will make you cum in 30 seconds while inside a blessed vagina bro. ask me how i know. porn wrecks this for us, you need to stop with the porn, no jacking junior, wait 1 week, and hire the sweetest lady who responds to this thread. Sex will be like a new found skill.
I can make some recommendations....when your ready..... Originally Posted by seanj317

Well...i did attempt this before and made it a week and a half. Then i made the mistake of contacting a BP chick that wasnt as cute as her pic and had fake body pics. She started a cbj and was horrible at it so bad (to my surprise) that i didnt even get a hard on. i was mad. She offered me a freebie but i never went back. That has never happened!!
Thats why im done with backpage, so this time ECCIE GFE...

I hope sharing this much information doesnt work against me lol.

It's as if I wrote the original post.

I know this sounds bad but I am glad I am not the only one.

I am beginning to feel as if I will never finish in a session again.

About 2 weeks ago I couldn't even finish myself off in a session. How embarrassing.

The session before that it took a lot of whacking to finish.

Then, I can be at home and if I am in the right mood with the right porn, I can finish in about 30 seconds. Go figure.

Also, many medications have this as a Side effect, mostly some antidepressants and blood pressure medications. As a female, when I was on Effexor for anxiety, I could not climax no matter what, could get right on the edge, but nothing, and libido decreased too. If it's meds, ask dr try something else.

Bravo for you to have the balls to be honest and you will find lots of good feedback hopefully here! Originally Posted by Sophia Banks

I am anti-medications of any kind. I dont even like to take ibuprofen.

I feel your pain. As much as enjoy FS, I can almost never pop with a cover. So I choose to only see the BBJ ladies. That always melts my butter!

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it could be a problem waiting too long... my limited experience is that if I go too long without a "pop", it takes a long time to wake up Junior.. like he's gone into a deep sleep and doesn't want to be waked up..

it could be a problem waiting too long... my limited experience is that if I go too long without a "pop", it takes a long time to wake up Junior.. like he's gone into a deep sleep and doesn't want to be waked up.. Originally Posted by Chung Tran

Well it is an experiment worth trying and if it doesnt work then i will seek other options. Maybe the female condom thing, or i'll try to find condoms that give me as close to the real deal as possible.

Definitely layoff the self gratification. It may be hard at times but it will be worth it. Originally Posted by ithyphallicus

I disagree. Sounds like it's ALWAYS hard, times be damned. No "may be" about it...

Here's what you do for your next session with a Provider: Pump away as usual. Have a little porn playing (find the ones with the best vocals by the girl). With ten minutes to go, start whacking away at Junior. Have her take rapid fire turns with you (grip it n rip it) but, by all means, when the golden moment approaches, YOU are in command...tell her: "I'll finish, I'll finish..." splashing your joy juice everywhere: face, chest, ass, expensive silk comforter, etc. (Hers, not yours).

Try it...Ya never know...Might be worth a "shot".

I'm not a guy, but I think you are doing a great job being so self aware already. There are many movies and studies done about men (and women) that have trouble climaxing in real life with a real person because you're brain is now trained with your lifelong self pleasuring and expectation patterns. I know that if I use my vibrator too much or for too long, like hours, my clit is numb for days and it's kinda scary, but the feeling does come back.


So, I'm also wondering if this is happening because you are using condoms during live sex, I hope. And if so, welcome to the club because condoms can definitely kill the orgasm buzz, even going limp......sooo often. Maybe try a female condom on the woman, then your cock isn't strangulated....or BBBJ

Also, many medications have this as a Side effect, mostly some antidepressants and blood pressure medications. As a female, when I was on Effexor for anxiety, I could not climax no matter what, could get right on the edge, but nothing, and libido decreased too. If it's meds, ask dr try something else.

Bravo for you to have the balls to be honest and you will find lots of good feedback hopefully here! Originally Posted by Sophia Banks

I need to try these female condoms I usually have a hard time popping in a wrapper sometimes I go numb and it's definitely not because the condom is too tight

it could be a problem waiting too long... my limited experience is that if I go too long without a "pop", it takes a long time to wake up Junior.. like he's gone into a deep sleep and doesn't want to be waked up.. Originally Posted by Chung Tran

I also need to wait for financial reasons... I've been over doing it lately. 6 sessions in the last 3 weeks depleted my hobby budget. Ive been getting a little too eager and let my hormones get the best of me. So I figure now is the best time to start my experiment.
I just hope this torturous 3 weeks will pay off.
I do enjoy all the feedback I've been getting so thanks for that :-)

I know the lamb skin condoms are one of the most realistic natural experiences, although a little pricey, maybe $5/condom. They seem to fit looser as well. I buy the kimono brand and they make extra-large now and super duper thin. Since its a Japanese made product the extra-large fits most men here.

Here's are the female condoms. Tricky to figure them out at first. Available at condom stores and Amazon , a bit pricey too.

Do you keep your butthole clenched during sex? This a bad habit I used to have long ago. If you're doing it, you just gotta shit go! Of course, I literally don't mean letting actual shit go (don't show up to an appt. having to shit), but don't hold that sphincter tight the whole time. I used to do it to help keep wood, but the trick is to not hold it tight once you GET wood, or else you'll have a hard time popping.

If this isn't the problem then, I'm not sure what it could be. Hope you figure it out.

I buy the kimono brand and they make extra-large now and super duper thin. Since its a Japanese made product the extra-large fits most men here. Originally Posted by Sophia Banks

Thanks sophia, this part just made me laugh tho.

Do you keep your butthole clenched during sex? This a bad habit I used to have long ago. If you're doing it, you just gotta shit go! Of course, I literally don't mean letting actual shit go (don't show up to an appt. having to shit), but don't hold that sphincter tight the whole time. I used to do it to help keep wood, but the trick is to not hold it tight once you GET wood, or else you'll have a hard time popping.

If this isn't the problem then, I'm not sure what it could be. Hope you figure it out. Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

I never really paid attention if i do or not. I'll have to keep an eye on that. I do know my face clenches when the vag starts to clamp down on me, lol (PS ladies: I make all kinds of faces during sex and if i dont then that means you're not doing your job )

Bobo, about 3 minutes ago I responded to a post of yours in another thread. Here we go again.

I love to beat-off as much as the next guy. But I've also started laying off, when anticipating "real" sex is on the near horizon. Whether it's with my SO, or when I know I want to have a session with a provider, I'll go several days for sure. Maybe a week. So I think your strategy is on.

Duplicate post…sorry.