I, johnclark, do hereby swear I won't label PM's from providers as spam, or report them for abusing the PM system. Originally Posted by johnclark
Ohhhhh man....be careful what you wish for, lol.
I hate to point out the obvious, but this is not Plenty of Fish nor is it match.com. Originally Posted by Laura LynnSo, you're saying that anything that feels good in the Hobby should come at a price?
Alyson Jones sent me a PM out of the blue one time and just said hey I read your reviews and I think we would have a great time together. I liked it and have seen her many times. I didn't mind it at all. And I can't see how that would bother anyone. Originally Posted by Mavs fanYou must have been putting a lot of details in the physical description area of the review...
I've gotten sketchy responses from the ISO section. And the request is usually dead in 24 hours. I see this as more of a longer term invitation where the provider shows the initiative, possibly making for a better session. Originally Posted by johnclark+1. Also open to PMs. I'm not sure why PMs are an issue for guys. It's not like someone can go in there and read them - and if they can you have bigger issues. I guess if you don't like them you can always ignore. It's odd how many of the guys on this thread are open to it and most of the ladies think it's wrong to do so.
It's not like someone can go in there and read them -many of the guys on this thread are open to it and most of the ladies think it's wrong to do so. Originally Posted by BarrymccockinnerI agree that random emails and especially random texts can be a serious issue, particularly with people in a relationship, but pm's should not be an issue. And I don't think most providers think it's wrong; I think they all suffer from the sins of the few. There are those that lack discretion and tend to abuse open channels of communication and everybody gets blamed.
That's not exactly what I'm saying. I am always happy to carry on a conversation with a gent, but only after they reach out to me.I have noticed that is the most comon response Laura Lynn. However, I've noticed a number of guys thinking a little flirt would be nice also. I'm betting there are more guys like me on this site who would get a kick getting a flirt from a lady than those who would think less of the lady.
I get what you're saying. It's nice to know a lady is thinking about you. But the majority of men that I know, do not want to have ladies pm them randomly and I think a lot of ladies just simply say " why don't you come see me, I'm lonely". Originally Posted by Laura Lynn
I think *for me* the distinction is: "provider's I've seen or contacted previously".That was pretty much my frame of reference, too. A woman I've seen before who indicates, in a way that suggests that there is at worst a personal touch in the correspondence and at best a genuine interest in seeing me again has a leg up on the competition when my next window of opportunity arises.
Originally Posted by Hal-10000