Impact of 'infidelity' on divorce

Family lawyers love cases like this. Fight, fight, fight until both parties are bled dry and then settle.

Personally, I'd think your friend would be better off saving his money. But, if it's worth a few thousand dollars to him to cost his ex a few thousand, then go for it. Originally Posted by Shackleton

It would not have cost him anything.
See, she got him to sign a legal agreement stating she would pay 100% of the cost of the divorce as long as he GRANTED her the divorce.

The agreement said nothing about altering the reasons... he would still be giving her the divorce but instead of a "No Fault" it would be for adultery..

To Senor who asked the original question and sounds like he is looking for feedback: I am also not a lawyer but have been through the war so to speak. If your wife has a good lawyer you will be raked through the coals for having an affair as a man because it demonstrates your poor moral turpitude. If it is a provider, you are now going to be labelled a "sex addict" and they will dig harder to see how many other providers there are. It is kind of like pistachios, you never just eat one pistachio? Once you are a sex addict, you will get screwed on money, might even get you custody supervised until you complete counseling or a sex addiction intervention. Women get very emotional and irrational during this process and get driven by these man hating female attorney. You end up paying their bills. It is a big disaster. Like Charlie said above, cover your ass if your married with children. There is a lot of truth to the "Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn" saying. Fucking psychos, no offense intended to the lovely women of the board who may read this.

Can they supeona cell phone records / texts in divorce process? Most srippers / providers I have done communicate via cell phone texting. While I delete all call and texting history I wonder about vulnerability here.....I pay cash on all transactions with strippers / providers. Any photos I take are locked away or on hidden flash drive. I thought Texas was no fault anyhow......

There are 2 kinds of divorce in Texas to my knowledge as explained by my friend. Fault and No Fault
No Fault is pretty much means everyone is just not happy in the marriage.
its better explained here

http://www.nolo.com/legal-encycloped...l-29080-2.html

When my friend got the paper from her Ex saying she would pay for it as long as he did not challenge it, it said nothing about altering the state from "no fault" to "fault" and give the reason.

There are 2 kinds of divorce in Texas to my knowledge as explained by my friend. Fault and No Fault
No Fault is pretty much means everyone is just not happy in the marriage.
its better explained here

http://www.nolo.com/legal-encycloped...l-29080-2.html

When my friend got the paper from her Ex saying she would pay for it as long as he did not challenge it, it said nothing about altering the state from "no fault" to "fault" and give the reason. Originally Posted by Spirit13

Your friend is a fool if he thinks he can tinker with fault/no fault and expect the woman to nod absentmindedly while he's doing it.

Your friend is a fool if he thinks he can tinker with fault/no fault and expect the woman to nod absentmindedly while he's doing it. Originally Posted by obiwansalami

Without getting into alot of details about him, she and he both had a legal agreement about the divorce that stated "as long as he did not challenge the divorce and granted it to her, she would pay for it 100%" No-where in the agreement did it state it had to be "No Fault" nor did it prevent him from changing the reason WHY he is granting the divorce.

her short sightedness did not forbid him from changing the reason he is granting her the divorce, so it was left open.

Personally knowing what I do about her and the whole deal, HE should have filed a change of reason just to so it would have tossed the monkey wrench into her life (Lets just say this about her.. when she does not get her way, she acts like a 4 year old, and she is 28 now)

Without getting into alot of details about him, she and he both had a legal agreement about the divorce that stated "as long as he did not challenge the divorce and granted it to her, she would pay for it 100%" No-where in the agreement did it state it had to be "No Fault" nor did it prevent him from changing the reason WHY he is granting the divorce.

her short sightedness did not forbid him from changing the reason he is granting her the divorce, so it was left open.

Personally knowing what I do about her and the whole deal, HE should have filed a change of reason just to so it would have tossed the monkey wrench into her life (Lets just say this about her.. when she does not get her way, she acts like a 4 year old, and she is 28 now) Originally Posted by Spirit13

Let me ask you this question: is this your friend's first rodeo?

If the answer is "yes", then tell your friend to sit down and listen to what folks who've been through a divorce or two in their lifetime are telling him. One of the really neat things about divorces in Texas, as it was pointed out before, is that there's no "legal separation", you're married to the last day. Another neat thing is that the kids that were born while you were still married are yours. Does your friend really want to see his soon to be ex pile up credit card debts fully knowing that she'll be responsible for only 50% of it and he'll be responsible for the rest? Does your friend want to have the divorce proceedings get delayed while the soon to be ex is visibly pregnant? I didn't think so. Tell your friend to count his lucky stars that the psycho is going to be out of his life quickly and for free and not to tug on the superman's (or superwoman's as it were) cape for no obvious reasons. Your friend will thank us later for the sage piece of advice.

It was the 1st rodeo for both. They have no kids and she started sleeping around during the divorce. I pointed out the "no legal separation" bit to her and she laughed and said she did not care. I then pointed out that if her soon to be EX found out about her sleeping around (with her boss no less) he could file a change of reason for the divorce, thus making it cost more etc... in other words he could take the "smoothness" out of things. And seeing how she was sleeping with her boss, he could expose that fact to her job, cost he and her their jobs (he is married so factor in all that grief for him) and once she lost her job, he can then point out that she agreed to pay for the divorce, which is now going up in cost and her income is not coming in.

Sounds vindictive I know but if I were to explain to you in detail about her, you might understand the logic.