Conversation before the date - A turn on? Or a turn off?

Some guys like all the horny sex talk, perhaps that's just something that their SO's don't do at home. Originally Posted by brownsugarbaby

Sure if we have met or even somehow have a back and forth going....maybe.
If I just contacted you to get the ball rolling and the response back is in the form of gratuitous ego boosting or on par with plagiarizing cheap internet porn plots then I am going to pass...but that's just me.

Not all talk is cheap either;
I have friends that really think the girl at SC is a rocket scientist by day, does this at night to pay for her doctorate, and has a real connection with them...and they fleece them for every available bill plus a couple trips to the ATM. The guy I am thinking of gave up like 4 bills and I'm pretty sure he only left with fishermens fingers.

^^^Agreed, and that is a really huge turn-off for me personally. I love horny sex talk with a regular that I've been fingering myself about, but a newbie? Umm, erm, no. I need to know what the "lovestick" looks like and feels like first.

By the way, thanks for the stripper story. Strippers are trained to butcher the cows without milking the utters first.

By the way, thanks for the stripper story. Strippers are trained to butcher the cows without milking the utters first. Originally Posted by brownsugarbaby

BSB That explains why Tpayne is in love with a stripper

Huge turn on . . .
Necessity for me

+1 ... I am a very social person and my time as Samantha Tom stated is limited too, but if I don't spend time conversing and picking up the brain in a topic -not necessarily xxx talk- with the lady, I feel I dont get to know who I am going to dig (my thermostat) self edit: part of my life in ... I dont like to be with total strangers ...
Is not a loss, but an investment ... IMHO

Huge turn on . . .
Necessity for me Originally Posted by Gentlemen Rendezvous

I will not see a provider without talking on the phone first. I love to exchange thoughts about what we each enjoy before the session. Presession planning is a must for me

Intial contact on the phone should be short and sweet at first unless we established regular times together. However after we meet in person conversation before and after the session is great. Conversation ads to the flow of the session and helps us both enjoy it more.. Alot of times the conversation before/after our appointment is what keeps me a regular. Not having a SO I also love random how you doing texts and pictures.

I need to get to know them a bit before I'll meet. I feel bad for ladies because they could waste a lot of time with tire kickers but I want to chat (PM or email is fine) before to see if I think we'll click. I think that's just part of their business but that's not what everyone wants. I'm always looking for something longer-term so if there are signals I don't think we'll click I don't waste my time or money.

If a lady entertains me by talking a bit over a few days or weeks I will most often meet with her and by that time we've chatted enough I'm extra excited for the meeting. I did an ISO Monday and asked about specific activities I enjoy and asked them to PM me their rate...While I met with someone I'd met before, I got some great leads for future appointments - one I've chatted with daily and I'll be seeing her next week. Those that replied that don't even enjoy the activities I enjoy wasted both of our time and some didn't list the price (I was driving and wasn't able to look at every profile for prices or specials they had going) so I wrote them off. I don't know how many people a provider needs to talk to in order to actually get an appointment but if they can't spend 10 minutes on emails (total - a minute or two an email) I'm most likely not going to meet with them. It's a fine line but the bottom-line answer for me to your question is I want and need communication before we meet.

Not much for talking before, during, or after the session. I talk for a living.

And from my expirience the once who try to talk the most 1) never come through or 2) try to take advantage of you Originally Posted by dallastxbaby

every time. I prefer an introduction and brief Q & A for mild questions not answered here or on my p411 ad during initial contact.

While we're together I'm pretty chatty, but usually on topic. I like to make my guests feel comfortable, plus I've always been pretty outgoing so hey why change now! I keep the to a minimum, and passion to a maximum!

I also have a great memory so I can meet someone once and two months later meet them again & remember they were going to play golf after our session, or were in the process of renting out a unit, etc. It helps!

I get guests that are strictly down to business and there's very little conversation. That's cool too. Whatever floats your boat! I'm sure some aren't interested in a meeting of the minds as much as well ... lol

The lady should not talk about kids or SO. Now if they want to discuss taint ...

The lady should not talk about kids or SO. Now if they want to discuss taint ... Originally Posted by pyramider

I prefer to talk about weenie's

I will not see a provider without talking on the phone first. I love to exchange thoughts about what we each enjoy before the session. Presession planning is a must for me Originally Posted by whitechocolate

Very well said WhiteChocolate. You are one to be dealt with if a provider does not know about the sensual and sexual nympho that you are

I have a weenie! This girl told me one time "I like your weenie" and I said "You mean my dick?" and she said "No, I've seen dicks before and that's a weenie!"

Gawd I'm glad I learned to waste bandwidth!

I've spent my adult life with wimmin that can talk, an endless capacity for conversation, you wanna talk, great, I can do that...you wanna sit and listen to Miles or Snoop or dub or whatever and drink a little wine and not say shit, that's good, too.

You have to stimulate the big brain before the little brain will want to talk. I've past the point in life where the little brain rules.