Return client etiquette

Hi, this is my first post, I had my first experience with a provider last night and now I am hooked. Originally Posted by Porsche Führer

Cute choice of words, but I wouldn't try it too often on this board.

You're probably stuck with the quoted rate. Haggling is a big no-no in this world. You might call her and ask if she ever offers specials. Then find out if she is offering one before you leave town. Other than that, there's not much you can do without leaving a bad taste in her mouth.

I would wait for her to bring up a discount. It's kind of like her asking you to give her a tip.

Get to know her before you can expect to get special rates or special treatment. It would be totally up to her. Originally Posted by rrabbit6926

See her a few times and become a guy that she recognizes and likes to be with and you may see a change in pricing and/or services. This has worked for me with a few SP's that I have seen multiple times. If she likes you, can trust you, and you have a good connection, there are opportunities that may be available.

I would wait for her to bring up a discount. It's kind of like her asking you to give her a tip. Originally Posted by Ansley

If you wait for her, hell will freeze over first. If she thinks she has you at the higher rate forever, you'll never hear about a lower one. This isn't a sweet get together, it's a business, and no businessman or woman is going to give you a break on the price of their own free will.

Now some ladies give discounts. Others don't. I'm just saying it doesn't hurt to ask into which category she falls. If she doesn't give discounts, then you know.

You probably got taken on the first time. And she'll take you again as long as you go back. If she says she doesn't give discounts, I'd hang up and never talk to her again. There are ladies with just as much skill out there as you found in her for a lot less money. It's not shameful for you to expect the best bang for your buck so to speak.

Do your research. You already said you read reviews. Find another fine lady who is $50-100 cheaper, and you'll probably have just as good a time.

Good luck.

Cute choice of words, but I wouldn't try it too often on this board.
. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

When I typed that I didn't mean any innuendo, is there any way to edit my initial post?

It's not shameful for you to expect the best bang for your buck so to speak. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

cute choice of words..

When I typed that I didn't mean any innuendo, is there any way to edit my initial post? Originally Posted by Porsche Führer

No, not this long after the post. I think the window to edit is about an hour...it may be longer. If you see the "Edit" button at the bottom of your post, you can still do so.

I can't speak for any of the ladies here, but from what I read, they kind of despise being called hookers or streetwalkers. Your post was innocent enough and I was just poking a little fun. I have tried to get in the habit (although I break it from time to time) of referring to the ladies here as just that: ladies. I don't see anything derogatory in that. Some take exception to providers, escorts, courtesans, prostitutes and other less flattering epithets out there. I prefer the term "ladies."

And I'll warn you before anyone else does: I'm a crusty, negative, curmudgeon that very few would spend time with unless there were an upcharge involved. So, you can probably take any advice I give with a pound of salt.

Good luck in your quest.

The price wasn't listed, it was verbal on the phone. Originally Posted by Porsche Führer

Decipher what the average rate was from her reviews. Put that in an envelope and maybe a small gift, bottle of her favorite wine, perfume ect. If she likes you she won't mention any discrepancies in the donation. Do this, of course if she never brings up the subject of a donation over the phone. Just treat her like a girl you've known awhile.

Cute choice of words, but I wouldn't try it too often on this board.. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Cum On Chuck, why you bustin' on the newbie for using a harmless idiomatic phrase? You be parsin' these threads too, too fine. And remember, BJ Thomas in '69 had a huge hit with "Hooked on a Feeling". How's that for, excuse the euphemism, "escort " board trivia?

However, in the interest in complete disclosure I once emailed a lady on this board and admitted that I was a "one trick pony", meaning my shtick was limited (and how), and she wrote back, "don't talk to me that way." Whoa, a little bit touchy maybe?

^ "One trick pony" lol -- I feel your pain (not laughing at this)

Sales people in my office (computer hardware/software/services) have been complaining the last several years about clients asking for a price break or is this the best you can do. This is after we (I) spent careful time coming up with a figure. So this asking for discounts is happening in the real world. Buy a car, boat, RV, house: haggle. Bestbuy/McDs/Grocery: no unless you are buying damaged goods.

The last several visiting providers I've seen (first time) I always ask when making an inquiry to what their fee is ignoring the showcase. I have had some that say 300 in the showcase come back with 250-260. Never hurts to ask politely.

As for the OPs question, the best thing is to KISS (keep it simple stupid) and not sound like you are asking for a discount, just what will you charge me next time.

If she wants you as a regular client, she'll figure out a way to reduce the rate to encourage more visits...50 times $250 is better than 2 or 3 times $300. If she doesn't find a way to do this for you and you decide to keep scheduling...it's on you. Be a gentleman, show up clean, be respectful, and pay what's expected.

Decipher what the average rate was from her reviews. Put that in an envelope and maybe a small gift, bottle of her favorite wine, perfume ect. If she likes you she won't mention any discrepancies in the donation. Do this, of course if she never brings up the subject of a donation over the phone. Just treat her like a girl you've known awhile. Originally Posted by acp5762

Or he just created problem for himself by shorting her.

This is really really bad advice.

The OP needs to start shopping for well reviewed ladies who have websites/showcases with the rates clearly posted so there is no question. I think he is being played over the rate and if she can't come up with a set rate, he should move on to someone who does and not allow himself to be played.

I agree this is a bad situation because it seems she is not playing fairly but if he tries to just slip her a reasonable rate in the envelope he is risking blacklisting for shorting her. She sounds unstable and a problem waiting to happen all the way around.

Porsche .... It's a bad idea to give her anything other than what she stated her rate was.

Agreed, you stand a chance of creating problems early on and this is something you really don't want or need.

Another piece of advice...being as you are a newbie, you need to keep in good standing with her for no other reason than to use her as a reference. At this point you kind of need a good reference so you can see other ladies who may be a little closer to your projected rate cap.

Let's get back to etiquette.

One thing I learned a long time ago... Is the discussing of money or rates is not a good idea. If you discover a lady that you really want to see, but her rates are above what you are willing to donate...you have two choices.

1. Save up enough to see her and then go see her!
2. Look for someone else.

You will occasionally run into situations where a lady may not have a website, p411 ad or showcase. So...what is her rate? It isn't posted anywhere so what is it? Granted she may have a few reviews, but you notice they show different rates...so WTF!

There is a tactful way to handle this without raising red flags for her.

Always remember....you are making a donation to her for her TIME!!!!

If you must ask her...ask her what the donation would be for an hour of her "time" and mention that you were having a difficult time finding her rate posted. She may direct you to a website where it is posted or she may just tell you.

Use tact...and be polite.

Don't ask, she may have grandfathered in a rate for her established clients and the new rate may not apply to them. Also if you enjoy her company and can afford it; pay it. Once you have a few references then you can start shopping around. Since you are new, and she was your first provider, keep it lighthearted, enjoy her company and don't mention money. In other words don't screw it up, LOL and remember this is fantasy not reality.
Don't mistake her service for anything that it is not. I have seen to many newbies get their feelings hurt when they find out that this is really just business.
Have fun and be safe, do your home work and you should not be getting quotes over the phone, reputable ladies have it clearly posted and never mention it.
After checking your review I am assuming this is the young lady you are referring to, you can also expect to pay more for Outcall. Now that you know her, you may want to check into an incall that may be the difference in price. ???