Chemistry

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It would have to be really bad for me to not get thru 30 or 60 minutes. I can get along fine with most people. If the sexual chemistry isn't there I'm sure we could make do for the scheduled time but I wouldn't repeat. It would take more than a lack of chemistry to cancel the session once I'm already there.

Chemistry is not important... until after the first pop. For me anyway. I have gone into appointments thinking this should have been a qv not an hour. I am also sure some of the ladies have felt the same way.
If the lady is ok saying, “no chemistry here, take your donations and go”, then ok it is important. But work is work, and is better if enjoy the people you work with. Sometimes just gotta work with what you got.

Happened to me recently, the main issue was she was VERY painfully shy and soft spoken, and just didn't communicate hardly at all. I had to resort to open ended questions to force answers and dialogue.

But - over a little time, things got better, and we had a good time (at least I hope she did?). I'll likely see her again, but I'm hoping the communication is better.

Sure, I've had other visits where it's obvious things aren't aligned personality wise, but we've still both had a good time (I hope, for her), and I've never ever left an appt.

Imagine you show up at someones incall and from the get go you notice there is ZERO chemistry between you two. Do you politely cut it off and leave or try to push through to see if something clicks?

I could've posted this in ladies area but I already know (for me anyway) I at least try to push through and find something about them I like or hope they have hidden talents. I mean who likes those weird moments, right? Originally Posted by LadyAnastasia

I truly do not understand the question.

In my mind, and I don't mean to be objectifying women or anything, but this business/hobby is absolutely one-sided, you're being paid to do a job. The extent of your job is debatable, but I don't think it's unreasonable to say your job is to please your client. So, I'm thinking that if you're good at your job, you're going to adapt to whatever vibe the dude is putting off and fix the chemistry. Whether he wants to talk, sit and hold hands in silence, or just climb on and pound away, your job is to please him.

At the same time, nowhere in that process do you have to give up any of your rights to be treated with respect and to consent to every single thing that happens. So if dude comes in and wants to be rough, and you're not into that, we're no longer talking about a lack of chemistry.

For me, chemistry is what makes a good visit great. I can't see chemistry ruining an appointment.

What am I missing here?

I don’t expect much in terms of chemistry, though it’s great when it seems to be there. I expect that we’ll both try to have a good time. Of course, as a client I expect to be pleased, but I want the provider to enjoy herself, if possible. That usually requires physical compatibility combined with a personal connection. Like Crock says, chemistry makes a good visit great. But it’s not always there. I feel lucky when it is. I’ve had appointments where there was zero connection, and it wasn’t much fun. I’m glad those are rare.

I truly do not understand the question.

In my mind, and I don't mean to be objectifying women or anything, but this business/hobby is absolutely one-sided, you're being paid to do a job. The extent of your job is debatable, but I don't think it's unreasonable to say your job is to please your client. So, I'm thinking that if you're good at your job, you're going to adapt to whatever vibe the dude is putting off and fix the chemistry. Whether he wants to talk, sit and hold hands in silence, or just climb on and pound away, your job is to please him.

At the same time, nowhere in that process do you have to give up any of your rights to be treated with respect and to consent to every single thing that happens. So if dude comes in and wants to be rough, and you're not into that, we're no longer talking about a lack of chemistry.

For me, chemistry is what makes a good visit great. I can't see chemistry ruining an appointment.

What am I missing here? Originally Posted by Crock

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I try to research ahead of time and know what kind of lady I'll be dealing with. I like to treat these sessions as RW dates that forego the awkward "will she/won't she" part of the equation. It's still about making a connection. So, on occasion, it's not gone as well as I'd anticipated. I've never left, never found something so objectionable about a lady that I would turn around and walk out or leave after 5 minutes. However, I do not return to see ladies that I don't mesh well with, spend too much time talking about their kids, come off as demanding, etc. I consider it market research and move on.

I'm P411 and never had a compliant with providers. That said, I've definitely been surprised by misrepresented pics on P411. Sense I host, my attitude is, I paid for it, she went to trouble to visit and I'm following through. Never turned anyone down and always done my best to soldier on. It is frustrating, but I mark it down to lesson learned. Unfortunately I rarely achieve my ultimate goal from such circumstances. I just sharpen my pen and research the best I can. Ultimately I rely heavily on eccie reviews, so if the provider is not on eccie I am very dubious.

I felt horrible as normally I can click with just about anyone. This gent was clean, well mannered and trying his best. However it just wasn't clicking for us. I would feel like a bitch to just stand up and say "hey this isn't working, so I'm gonna have to end this."

I gave it my all and hopefully it showed at the very least. Originally Posted by LadyAnastasia

I'm sure it was fine and the guy had a blast! It's unfortunate that you didn't feel the same. He was probably completely oblivious. The only thing that would let him onto the fact you weren't would be if you ended it early. In case like those I guess you use a little more lube and put your game face on. Who knows he may call you again and with the nervousness of first contact out of the way, it may go great the second time round. We skip past almost every base that we'd have to hit in a civilian situation before getting to home plate.

I'm sure it's no surprise that not every guy that call you ladies up to fuck will be able to make a connection. If we're hard, most of us can make the best of it.