thoughts on reviews...

To me, if it is not against Eccie's rules....then the review is the guy's review...it is not Eccie's, not the ladies or even the other guys review. And any comments about his experiences with a lady, if he chooses to make comparisons to another lady...is his option

Now if his comments have little to do with the review itself...it would probably depend on who the reviewer is as to how much weight his comments are given.

If the guy is being a jerk about it...I'm sure the ladies will find out about it, one way or another.

The guys will be able to make their own determination as to what the reviewer's motivation was.

IMO I would think a confident, well respected provider...who has a solid track record of delivering great experiences...would at best, just have a marginal interest in what is being reviewed about her. When discussing the general topic of reviews, with the ladies that I have been with, that has been what I have been told...do I totally believe that, sometimes...but I love the self confidence shown by them, in addition to be a sexy turn on!!!!!

Ok Ryan, then how about a compromise. If you just can't help yourself, and just have to drop someone else's name in a provider's review, how about you do it as a public comment? That way we know who doesn't respect us, and can make our decisions accordingly.

As a last resort, if you just can't help yourself, and you have to do it in private, how about send the lady a message so that she knows not to humiliate herself by linking a review to her showcase, her P411 account, her personal website, etc that was turned into an ad for someone else?

Fair enough?

Here is food for thought. You say discussion shouldn't be limited to the girl being reviewed. Ok, I get that. But you have a men's lounge, PM's, and an ISO board also intended for that exact purpose. Basically what you are saying is that even though your house comes equipped with a bathroom, you still firmly believe that taking a dump should not be limited to the bathroom, but rather, you ahve the right to take a dump anywhere you please in your own home. Now, that is certainly true enough. But isn't it fair to say that just because you *can* do something doesn't necessarily mean you *should*? Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh

I think the better analogy would be that even though glasses to drink from are in the kitchen I still drink from other faucets in my house because of convience and they can serve the same purpose.

Having the information closest to my initial place of reading is most helpful. The mens lounge and other areas are for more in depth discussions. When I have wanted discuss something more than a quick comment in a review, I make the comment in the review and start a thread in ML. For me that is the most efficient way to use this site.

I guess the problem I have is you make it sound like if the review has your name listed on it that it is your review. I think it is the guys/communities review. It is about the guys experience and about other guys finding their ways to the best experience they can get. Girls have their websites, their p411page, their ads on this site and other sites. The reviews are for the guys (even when about you) as are the other private places on this site.

Also, there are a bunch of reasons to leave the comment in private and not PM you. For example comments are normally related to the review or similar experiences and it is against board rules to share private access information.

Im going to be overly blunt with my last point. I think you need to get over the review that you found mentioned another girl. Just like I think guys should get over you writing false reviews to get private access. A vast majority of comments that I have ever read about you have been positive. Not every comment is going to go your way, but if you continue to provide the services that you are known for it will work out the best way it can in the long run. I really think it is in your best interest to drop this topic. Every time you comment on this topic it reminds me (and Im sure other guys) that you broke the board rules and it also makes it seems like their is a lot of drama around you when traditionally there has been none.

I think Allie has got it spot on also. Giving another providers name in a review other than saying something informative like "she has the same attitude as so and so" is thread hijacking.
If guys read the reviews, or even manned up and PM'd a provider, and adked them, they would know what the provider does and doesn't do and decide for themselves if she's "worth the money" and not have to play the "my ATF does this, this provider doesn't" compare game. In the end we are here to experience a fun relax free time and have some great sex. We don't have to play the "shop n compare the savings" game...we aren't shopping for a new couch.

Bcd.....I'm merely throwing out another way of looking at things. No we are not shopping for a new couch, but we are shopping for an unique experience.

Just as the ladies have every right to do their screening process...we as guys are also screening to have a "fun relax free time..."

And for some guys, not all, part of the screening process is "shop n and compare savings". For others, reading a reviewer (espec a respected one) mention another
provider's name....with no malice...can also help us decide.

Bcdrummer, as long as whatever is mentioned is not against Eccie rules....personally I have a hard time telling people what they can or can not do in their reviews.

And how is it thread hijacking, if in the guy's own review, he decides to name another provider???

No disrespect to the ladies...but the review section and M/L and private comments is for us guys....just as the ladies have their own forums.

You do make some good points VK. A review is a guys review, period. I agree with you on that. We are essentially rating the provider with a review, similar to how ypud rate a car. but its not a car, its a person, so IMHO some decorum and class is needed. I guess I'm personally against the blatant comparisons such as "so and so doesn't do daty but so and so does, so she's not worth the money" type of comments. Simply saying a provider doesn't offer something and this why you may reconsider repeating is both enough information. Most of us can read between the lines of a review...no need to blantantly disparage a provider by comparing her to another negatively is all.

Bcd...I totally get where you are coming from. I think basically we are on the same page, as to the "whatever is or is not said" part...the key is to be honest about it, but show some class.

An example, for your consideration, lol...your point is "so and so doesn't do it"...so she's not worth the $" is crass. However for some, the fact that "doesn't" maybe significant to some @ that particular provider's price point.

I would say, we both agree that saying "so and so doesn't" without the "not worth" part would be cool. Let the guys determine on there own, their own conclusion...the reviewer's comment on the "not worth" part is not needed.

Boy....the G/T Lady has landed...and has brought some especially fine green tea tonight

Cheers Bcd!!!

Yes I have been gone for a while....but (disappointing for some), I'm back. SS...I'm really not tracking....but maybe somebody else will comment. Originally Posted by lacrew_2000

Wow looks like some things happened when I was gone....not sure what the implication is but I am glad to see ya again. I actual am trying to work my way out again. Made it about 4 years last time and the earth cracked again...back on topic! There were lots of comments, thanks for taking this serious folks and I do see a pattern.

I don't think its fair to sway the review ... That's kinda rude imo Originally Posted by b@ileythepistol

Presumably the provider who does ... But if the review in question is a positive one - ostensibly intended to let other guys know she is a great experience thus encouraging them to visit her - why take that away from her because she is not your cup of tea? Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh

There are so many other threads and forums to compare the girls to each other, personally I think a girl's review is just that, hers. If the guy wants to write in his own review that he thinks another girl would have delivered more for less or whatever, than he can write that in there, if guys have other suggestions, there are more discreet methods such as PMs. That's just my opinion though. Originally Posted by Allie_Kat

well the ladies who have shared so far agree with what I was thinking about and some guys agree and others don't. And I think it is a good area for discussion even if we never agree. So any other suggestions of the general concept or specific applications?

SS....no implication. Took a break from the board (but not the hobby). I think I understand the topic better now. I'd say its okay for the OP to make such a statement....but it would be 'bad form' for it to be in a follow on comment.

@ KCjjj

Grow up little boy.

SS....no implication. Took a break from the board (but not the hobby). I think I understand the topic better now. I'd say its okay for the OP to make such a statement....but it would be 'bad form' for it to be in a follow on comment. Originally Posted by lacrew_2000

Would agree with that after some consideration too. Welcome

@ KCjjj

Grow up little boy. Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh

Unlikely to impossible would be a general forcast. Atleast is will not snow! Today.

If you feel the need to pimp whatever manipulative cunt is letting you go bb for publicity in someone else's review, at least be a man about it and put it out there without a private tag.

This kinda behavior....sneaky, narcissistic, rude is shameful and it doesn't make you a baller, it makes you pathetic.

If you feel the need to pimp whatever manipulative cunt is letting you go bb for publicity in someone else's review, at least be a man about it and put it out there without a private tag.

This kinda behavior....sneaky, narcissistic, rude is shameful and it doesn't make you a baller, it makes you pathetic. Originally Posted by Lovely_Lilianna

So that is why some guys talked so highly of you in other girls' reviews. ijs

It isn't right. And if I had known I would have said something. Reviews are for discussion of the woman in the first post, not a time to undermine just cause you want freebies or whatever. There is a difference between commenting on subpar service and turning a review into a threAD for someone else.

"...Basically what you are saying is that even though your house comes equipped with a bathroom, you still firmly believe that taking a dump should not be limited to the bathroom, but rather, you ahve the right to take a dump anywhere you please in your own home. Now, that is certainly true enough. But isn't it fair to say that just because you *can* do something doesn't necessarily mean you *should*?"

My dog sure does.

(I figured I'd help Lacrew stay off track. Lol)