Outside the hobby? Probably 50-60. In the hobby? No idea.
I used to be ashamed of my "number" because it was so low, now I'm ashamed because it's so high.
9 seems like Wilt Chamberlain or King Solomon numbers compared to mine in the civie world.
But I'm kinda cool with that nowadays. I can honestly say that every woman on my modest list of real world conquests meant something to me, and it wasn't just empty sex. Well, there is one exception, but she and I are still cool.