Wtf is up with these text conversations that end in abrupt silence?

Omnivor's Avatar
If it was just one of them, I would just have moved on already. It's been one after the other. I'm going to go try for some "civvies" , oh and I might have a sugar baby to pick up and see how that goes.
Loxly's Avatar
  • Loxly
  • 03-12-2017, 01:41 PM
At least it might be nice to AT LEAST know that the person got your text msg.

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Guest121917-1's Avatar
Ok...lets calm down...

What was the context of the conversation? Was it an attempt to booking or just regular conversation?

If it were attempt to book then try and send all informative text asap. I know from personal experience it frustrates me when a guy is trying to book but also trying to have regular convo. If you are booking then save the regular convo for the date. I am very busy and trying to juggle multiple task.

If its just convo without an appointment....maybe she had an appointment, she has personal stuff to take care of and or she is taking care of her child. I know I cant just text all day and night...i have two different phones so I am not attached to my "work" phone at all times due to the normalcy of my real world life.

Now I dont think its fair to throw all providers under the bus, Simply call out the ladies that are doing this if in fact the tcb for booking is not on point.

I have to agree with Whispers...we dont get paid to talk on the phone...when appointments arise we are going to take them. Then depending on the time we are finished we are not obligated to respond to a hobbyist. You are not our boyfriends, husbands, mothers, fathers, or children. Therefore we choose who we talk to as well as see..great thing about the hobby from both perspectives.

I cant tell you how many times I get texted for an appointment and then hear nothing back from the guy. I dont get upset..I simply move on. They obviously arent worth my time.
Its called shitty TCB and girls get flames for it Alllll the time. Call the girls out and it'll change or your options of girls will change....also a lot of us gals with "on point" TCB sleep between 10pm and nowish which is likely the cause for our lack of response goodmorning and happy hobbying! Originally Posted by GingerLyn Harte
+1
Possibilities:
1) you're coming off as needy and they're ghosting you
2) you're trying to have a conversation, rather than booking, and they have shit to do
3) their appointment just walked in, and their TCB sucks so they don't get back to you after their client leaves
4) they're on mommy duty
5) you've tried to haggle and they've now ghosted you
6) you're texting after she went to bed
7) she's at her RW job
8) RW friend, bf, family member walked in/called, etc

Really, the list is endless. If you really want to see that specific provider, try again. After that, move the fuck on, because either a) she has shitty TCB and who knows if she'll show up/be ready on time, or b) she's too busy with her current clients and doesn't have time to fit you in anyway (and doesn't have the courtesy to say she's too busy.
playingnthedark's Avatar
Possibilities:
1) you're coming off as needy and they're ghosting you
2) you're trying to have a conversation, rather than booking, and they have shit to do
3) their appointment just walked in, and their TCB sucks so they don't get back to you after their client leaves
4) they're on mommy duty
5) you've tried to haggle and they've now ghosted you
6) you're texting after she went to bed
7) she's at her RW job
8) RW friend, bf, family member walked in/called, etc

Really, the list is endless. If you really want to see that specific provider, try again. After that, move the fuck on, because either a) she has shitty TCB and who knows if she'll show up/be ready on time, or b) she's too busy with her current clients and doesn't have time to fit you in anyway (and doesn't have the courtesy to say she's too busy. Originally Posted by Claire She Blows
See its all your fault.
TemptationTammie's Avatar
I agree with both CSB & Ginger.
Personally, there have been times that I might be texting and get an appt that I have to get ready for or one that shows up. But I will usually reply after that appt is over.
I've also been texting a guy when I'm laying in bed and fall asleep. But my phone goes on "do not disturb" automatically at a certain time so after that time, I won't know if I get a text back unless I'm looking at my phone.

There are times that guys text to say hi or have a question and I might assume it's just to chat and the topic seems to be exhausted.

Unless the guy is specifically asking if I'm available and trying to set a time, I might let the conversation lapse until the guy says something again. It's not meant to be rude , but it happens.
It happens to me, all the fucking time. I always plan to contact at least 10 girls before 1 comes through. I'm a dirt bag, I know. But at least fucking tell me you don't want to see me because you think I'm a piece of shit or whatever the reason is.

Strangely, more often than not I get a text the next day asking if I still want to see them. The frustration of this addiction gets overwhelming. Name any other $300+ an hour professional that we would tolerate this kind of treatment from.
I personally don't care, eventually I just do it back to them..
Maybe she had to take a dump, run an errand, pick up her kids or go to her dead gramma's funeral. Maybe she had to go ya know... Do real world shit cuz uhhh most of us aren't known for having the TCB or drive of a CEO. Unless your Claire or Asian Ann. Those two need to teach classes on how to be a model hooker with the self discipline of the corporate 8 to 5 job.
Whip it. Whip it good!
Parsifal's Avatar
I get the frustration, I truly do...this is a lesson that I have had to learn the hard way, and I speak from experience.

We are paying them not to have to chase them..."hard to get" in the RW can provide some flair or intrigue; in the hobby world it's just a pain in the ass and bad TCB.

If it's someone I've not yet met, I move along...no sense in chasing bad TCB with good money when there are more proven, solid options out there.

This one's more tricky and reinforces the idea that there are no relationships in the hobby, only arrangements...If it's a long time ATF you've seen multiple times and bad TCB starts to rear it's ugly head, you need to recognize the signs that the arrangement is likely coming to an end for one reason or another.

Assuming you've not done something that totally pissed her off in a session (you'd likely know immediately), she's clearly got other shit going on and needs to take care of it before she can get to you.

In either case, just move along...if they can't make the time to respond to your reaching out to them, then you have your answer: time to move on.
avalanche16's Avatar
This definitely happens more frequently than it should and I'm sure majority of us guys have sadly come to expect it at this point. I'm glad you made this thread. Hopefully things change and providers realize that this is a main part of TCB!
If you are getting this pissed off to spend your money on a provider that is obviously showing she does not want it at the moment, then it may be time to do something else for awhile. 46 reviews (not counting the ones you didn't write) in only a few months of being on here will cause you to feel entitled and taking shit too personal. Take a break, have fun doing something else, and I'm sure you'll be able to spend your money another day.
Cap'n Crunch's Avatar
Possibilities:
1) you're coming off as needy and they're ghosting you
2) you're trying to have a conversation, rather than booking, and they have shit to do
3) their appointment just walked in, and their TCB sucks so they don't get back to you after their client leaves
4) they're on mommy duty
5) you've tried to haggle and they've now ghosted you
6) you're texting after she went to bed
7) she's at her RW job
8) RW friend, bf, family member walked in/called, etc

Really, the list is endless. Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

1) The majority of ladies posting in co-ed have reputations for good TCB. Mostly this is due to years of experience and having decent heads on their shoulders. (not to mention reputations for giving decent head ). If THEY ghost you, it's probably for a good reason.

However,

2) The girls Omnivor is referring to are relatively young. They are not as experienced in the nuances of a business. A good percentage of these young girls do not have their shit together in any way shape or form. If THEY are ghosting you, it often is because they cannot concentrate on anything that didn't happen 5 minutes ago. A text message from yesterday is absolutely forgotten. Two days ago is ancient history. Many do not have the business sense to keep track of multiple guys contacting her.

"I forgot because I saw this dress in a window and then I had lunch. Another guy texted me, I did 3 sessions and by then I didn't even remember setting up an appointment with you. Going over old text messages is so boring. So later at night, I posted on snapchat until I fell asleep."

Many of these young girls become independent without the mental capacity or maturity to perform the mundane business side of their job.