What’s the highest priority for you when considering a provider?

For me it's her posts that usually first attract my interest. Then I'll look some more: her web page, any blog she has, her profile, comments others make about her attitude in their reviews.

Add in PMs back and forth, and how she responds to a long e-mail or three. Put it all together and I can usually have a pretty good feel. Originally Posted by Old-T

Thank you. That's about how I thought it went but wanted to confirm. And yes, the attitude and personality displayed in ECCIE posts can often tweak my interest before I ever looked at a showcase or provider pictures, so I get that part.

I read the OP's request as "When you have no idea what provider you are interested in, how do you pick one". But I can see your interpretation of the question and your answer matches what mine would have been if I'd read it that way.

Again, appreciate the clarification.

Attitude is revealed a bit in profiles and on websites, but those are advertisements and the smart business woman advertises well. Truthful but exagerated. The give and take when they post on the boards is a better indicator. You can see who is smart, who writes well, who writes poorly or cannot spell, who is quick to take offense, who is always playful and teasing, who gets mad, who makes illogical statements, who gives as well as she gets, etc. The the smartest business woman knows that all posts are advertisements in the end, but the spontaneous give and take is harder to fake. If they do it well and are faking they are very good and very smart.

Did I mention I like smart providers, good conversationalists as well as good BCD?

Actually I would look for a smart and sassy provider who is playful and attractive and fit and petite, and mature enough to engage in great conversation between events. Really I am not very picky.... I just want someone who is almost perfect!

Looks and menu. They go hand in hand. I have to have some type of attraction to her. Once I do, then she has to offer what I want. Even if she is hotter than the current Playmate of the Month (do they still exist?), but she has a bunch of "don'ts" on her menu then it isn't worth my effort, Hot and open menu will always get my attention.

physical atractiveness,personality.

For me, intelligence and sense of humor are very high on the scale. I would typically check out her website and her postings here as my initial homework. Yes, she must be physically attractive to me, but remember, the mind is the most sensual organ in the body. Originally Posted by stimulatethemind

And how do you like your mind to be stimulated...

this probably may seem shallow, but it's gotta be her looks. especially her eyes Originally Posted by speeedracer

Nothing inherently wrong with that. We judge by what we first see ...and sometimes the story doesn't match the cover

Sense of humor, able to carry on an intelligent conversation, physical and mental attraction. Originally Posted by LA Man

yes, mutually

Attitude is revealed a bit in profiles and on websites, but those are advertisements and the smart business woman advertises well. Truthful but exagerated. The give and take when they post on the boards is a better indicator. You can see who is smart, who writes well, who writes poorly or cannot spell, who is quick to take offense, who is always playful and teasing, who gets mad, who makes illogical statements, who gives as well as she gets, etc. The the smartest business woman knows that all posts are advertisements in the end, but the spontaneous give and take is harder to fake. If they do it well and are faking they are very good and very smart.

Did I mention I like smart providers, good conversationalists as well as good BCD?

Actually I would look for a smart and sassy provider who is playful and attractive and fit and petite, and mature enough to engage in great conversation between events. Really I am not very picky.... I just want someone who is almost perfect! Originally Posted by davidsmith0123

I admire gentlemen who notice these things ...you should be very picky

For a man, feminine beauty is always the front door ... Originally Posted by Fast Gunn

You got a mouse in your pocket, FG?

Then who anointed you spokesman for all the males on the planet?

The FIRST thing I notice may be looks, it may be wit, it may be services offered... it all depends. However, the initial attraction is VERY quickly ruined if intellect is missing.

And how do you like your mind to be stimulated... Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina

Usually with a car battery.

Personality and then menu. Not so much looks as long as she takes care of herself and it looks like she fixed herself up for the date.

I enjoy stories. In stories I find meaning, and behind the meaning, pleasure.

So here, all the words make a story. And what I find interesting, and in some cases irresistible, is how you narrate your story. Any narrator will invariably reveal how they feel about their characters, and their readers, given time. Lying is easy. Lying well is not.

I also look at the showcases. Some bodies are more appealing than others. But, with rare exception, they all are sufficiently enticing to me. Your body is warm flesh filled with a living breathing smart sexy-minded woman who has agreed to spend an indeterminate amount of time with me catering to my needs and wants - I mean, spinner, a few extra pounds, bbw, tall short, it's all good. Just say something honest.

There are many traits that weigh into the final analysis as to whether I will see a provider. However, if I don't have a fairly high level of physical attraction toward the provider, I'm not spending much time in determining whether the other traits are present are not. It all starts with physical attraction!

There are many traits that weigh into the final analysis as to whether I will see a provider. However, if I don't have a fairly high level of physical attraction toward the provider, I'm not spending much time in determining whether the other traits are present are not. It all starts with physical attraction! Originally Posted by EastTxGent

I agree completely. After all, I'm doing this for recreational sex. After physical attraction comes menu, level of service as described in reviews, price, and location. Actually, location may be ahead of price. I am getting to the point that I will no longer drive an hour each way for a visit with a provider.

And how do you like your mind to be stimulated...



Nothing inherently wrong with that. We judge by what we first see ...and sometimes the story doesn't match the cover



yes, mutually



I admire gentlemen who notice these things ...you should be very picky Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina

Zabrina, my mind is stimulated by intelligent conversation, a sense of humor and some subtle flirting. My ATF stimulates me with wonderful conversations. We talk about many things......psychology, religion, politics, history. human nature, etc. We have had two hour conversations, both in person and on the phone. She also has a fantastic sense of humor, including the ability to laugh at herself and can get my motor running with a gentle touch of her hand on mine or a soft, gentle kiss. I've been seeing her for almost a year (probably 50-75 dates) and I never tire of her. I look forward to each time I see her with the same anticipation as our first date. My favorite time with her was the 5 days we spent together at a wonderful, all-inclusive resort in Mexico. She is an amazing woman!!!! Oh yeah, she is also stunningly beautiful, but that's just a bonus.

Zabrina, my mind is stimulated by intelligent conversation, a sense of humor and some subtle flirting. My ATF stimulates me with wonderful conversations. We talk about many things......psychology, religion, politics, history. human nature, etc. We have had two hour conversations, both in person and on the phone. She also has a fantastic sense of humor, including the ability to laugh at herself and can get my motor running with a gentle touch of her hand on mine or a soft, gentle kiss. I've been seeing her for almost a year (probably 50-75 dates) and I never tire of her. I look forward to each time I see her with the same anticipation as our first date. My favorite time with her was the 5 days we spent together at a wonderful, all-inclusive resort in Mexico. She is an amazing woman!!!! Oh yeah, she is also stunningly beautiful, but that's just a bonus. Originally Posted by stimulatethemind

That sounds like a beautiful "relationship"....you know how hard it is to find. I'm glad you acknowledge and appreciate it

An old man told me 40 years ago that 90% of sex is between the ears. Being young I did not understand or comprehend what he was stating. Being young I was too stupid to ask for an explanation. It took me until I was 35 to understand the statement. Slow and tainted through life ...