An intriguing question for mature providers

Well personally I love what I do and have always had a high sex drive and I am always aware of my body and health and try and keep it in the best shape I can and improve it....I feel sorry for those females that do have medical issues that affect their sex drive or there is another side of it they have the drive but due to self perceived body images don't feel attractive..i do little things to feel sexy no matter where I am....

Speaking only for myself & as a woman in my mid 40's. (and not speaking in relation to the hobby) rather in life itself.

Regardless of my age, the flaws my body may show. I love myself, I embrace my beauty and I always please me first! If I don't take care of me and enjoy the results. How can I truly enjoy them?

I'm at a place in my life where intimacy is much more a must have for me than it was back in my 20 or 30's. I have to feel a mans touch on my skin in various ways. Or I don't feel like a woman. (some may not understand it) but those who've met me get it. I love sex. But I love my body and I love how I've discovered more erogenous zones just on my skin alone that no matter what age I may be. A man could still curl my toes and make me cum just by pleasing the skin.

And because I have to have my skin touched (it's a must).....I'm more turned on by my partner, I feel more beautiful, desirable under his touch and my internal fires roar even more-so and thus my desire to enjoy a man in every way, is incredible, exciting and beautiful!

Stimulate my mind, please my skin and my internal fires will roar!

. Framed as delicately as possible, what are your secrets for keeping your internal fires hot at an age when those of many other women are barely smoldering, if not utterly extinguished? Originally Posted by BreastLuvr

Another thing about the whole marriage deal and seeming extinguished...

If my ex husband had looked at me like he looked at the fucking deer he killed or the fish he caught, he might have got me to suck his dick and fuck the shit out of him lol

Giving your wife or SO some attention, considering her, making her feel sexy regardless of weight change, building her confidence when she feels blue and unsexy packing a baby on the hip, will go a long way.

After the divorce I now date and expect nothing from a man, so when I get it, the attention and pampered, I LOVE it! And he is deff rewarded. Only problem now is that I get bored after I land him haha, then move on to some new and exciting. Its hard to be committed right now, especially now that Im in my "cougar" years.

Oh did I mention the ex is kickiing himself in the ass now, his new wife is no beauty queen, a total bitch, doesnt put out, and my kids call her a cheeseburger on legs(ronald mcdonald land ring a bell)
and I totally flaunt it haha

when i hit 4o--it was ...wow i gotta have it and have it good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am at my top in the sex game more than ever before...lol
i think its because i was a late bloomer...i did not really feel sexually attractive till i turned 40...i spent most of my early years raisiing kids,so then when they left home i was able to burst out of my cocoon and discover my sexuality

Excellent, excellent points, Chellablaine and Wicked Milf. It never ceases to amaze how many men fail to grasp the simple premise that courtship doesn't end the day you put that ring on her finger; it should continue to be practiced every day of your life together, that is if you want your relationship/marriage to be as rewarding, both sexually and emotionally, as is humanly possible. If we could all successfully live that basic truth, the services of both divorce attorneys and providers would both be in much lower demand.

when i hit 4o--it was ...wow i gotta have it and have it good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am at my top in the sex game more than ever before...lol
i think its because i was a late bloomer...i did not really feel sexually attractive till i turned 40...i spent most of my early years raisiing kids,so then when they left home i was able to burst out of my cocoon and discover my sexuality Originally Posted by DallasRain

In other words, Dallas, you are, at this point in time, like the proverbial fine wine ripened to perfection.

Exactly..... So many have no clue how to just listen. If some would put the same effort into finding out what their wives need as they do building up a rep and screening ect. ect... then their marriages and sex would be a lot stronger.

t... then their marriages and sex would be a lot stronger. Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

... and there will be no escorts lol

The "oldest profession" has persisted so long for a very good reason. But, if we all, as men and women, made the daily practice of romancing our significant other a high priority, the demand for "services" outside the context of a relationship/marriage would definitely decline.

In other words, Dallas, you are, at this point in time, like the proverbial fine wine ripened to perfection. Originally Posted by BreastLuvr

lol--I eat my "wheaties" every day!!!

I think the women who answered here and are mature....are sexy as hell!!!!!!!!!!

Yes indeedy, they are connoisseurs of sensuality. We second your standing ovation with multiple body parts.

well i have several friends who have wives that are dissatisfied with their husbands because they dont stop and take time for them. they complain all he wants is a bj or a fast fuck and hes happy but he never stops to think if she gets off and most complain that we men dont kiss and spend enough time on foreplay.
I think a lot of women get bored and then get disinterested in sex and either go in a shell and get fat and let theirselves go or they start to look for something outside of the house.
it could be that we men are partially to blame because we are to busy with work, sports, friends and looking for strange to keep the fire going at home.
Lets face it ..we all get bored with the same ol thing day in and day out and eventually we loose that loving feeling.
Again you have to remember the providers we see are a whole lot more open than most wives and they keep sex fun and most enjoy it as much as men but they were more active and more sexual intelligent than any SO to begin with and being in the hobby just keeps them going stronger and stronger.
So remember - take your time .take care of your woman . make it fun , make love not sex and listen to what your partner wants and likes and maybe the fire will keep burning like some of the providers

I do not believe biology has everything to do with it. There are some older couples who get it on quite frequently and the sex is still hot. If your wife is still physically able to have sex but just don't want to get it on with you then that really says something...

Wildwooly1, that distinction between making love and having sex is so critically important. We, as men in particular, need to savor every moment and every touch as opposed to the single-minded pursuit/sprint to orgasm.

Wildwooly1, that distinction between making love and having sex is so critically important. We, as men in particular, need to savor every moment and every touch as opposed to the single-minded pursuit/sprint to orgasm. Originally Posted by BreastLuvr

WHAT ????? You mean it isnt a race to the Finish line?? WEll Hell !! Now ya tell me !