Hello from a significant other.....the wife here and....

You say you're not rich, and live frugally, so I'm wondering why spring for a hotel? Why not meet at the lady's incall? That would save you some money.

Originally Posted by HoneyRose

We can afford a hotel, and I think it would make me more comfortable...thanks for your response.

Ok. I'm so excited for you two to do this together!!! (I'm a dork, I already know)

I'm taking myself out of the running - because I don't really fit the "slender" frame.

So here's how I would address your concerns:

Before we get to your numbered concerns, I have a suggestion. When deciding on the lady, kind of have a consensus on the "rules" of what is "ok" and what is "off limits" as far as what you will do, or not do - what she can do and not do - as well as your husband. (that will prevent a LOT of turmoil for the two of you later on, as well as prevent awkward moments in session). *whenever a husband contacts me first about this type of session, I usually ask him to have the SO contact me to clarify these points BEFORE the session. I don't want to step on any toes.

I am venturing to guess that you would be comfortable with a lady going down on you - especially while your husband watched (maybe while you were taking care of him) but you wouldn't want to reciprocate with the lady. (see? simple issue already laid out in advance!)

#1- No drama. You are already in the right place. Since you are a married couple, I would suggest a girl at least over the age of 25 (no offense younger gals) - just to handle the situation in a bit more "real" manner. I don't know all the girls on the board these days - but maybe even a girl that's been around a couple/few years and has a really solid reputation.

#2- Cleanliness - when you're dealing with the age range I just mentioned, and usually the price range I mention in #3 (and you do your research), there's little to worry about here. When you discuss the situation with the ladies, make it clear that it is a concern...and typically, we all like to please our clients. We'll go above and beyond for the ladies especially to make sure we counter any possible worries.

#3- Cost. Rates on sites vs rates reviewed change based on specials as well as how we adjust our schedules and our availability. What I would do is when you contact the girls you are interested in, refer them to this thread so they understand your position. I'd let them know your budget (I'd suggest $250 and provide drinks - and if you're working with an established provider - I agree, save the cost of the hotel and go to her incall. The level of girls you're working with are going to have a nice set up.) It's not haggling to let a lady know what your price limits are...I mean, if she has rates posted at a minimum booking of 2 hr @ $600...well, you may want to skip her.

#4- Privacy. This is a good one. Typically, you'd have to go through a mess of various reference checks and job checks...but you two own your own biz. Here's my own suggestion...(from experience). Meet a week ahead of time. You and her. He can stay at work...(his little head will over-ride his big head and probably won't allow him to think straight for a whole week straight and you'll get nothing else done at work!) Tell him you'll handle it - and then you two can discuss whatever you need to discuss - except money. Laugh, joke, have fun - and this will also help calm some of your nerves (and possibly hers...hell, I still get nervous sometimes, and that's probably a good sign) and look forward to the actual date.

#5- Fun. Start interviewing via emails or PM's now. You will get a vibe of who is fake and full of shit pretty quick. Understand that there is a bottom line of this being about money - BUT - that there is a LOT of us that really do enjoy many aspects of our job. (even though there are quite a few shitty things that make us roll our eyes or come on here and bitch and moan) For me, couples are a blast. I love knowing that a couple is so trusting of one another - that they can bring another girl into the mix and tear things up! I believe hiring a provider is probably the safest way to go about it, because there is less potential for emotional damage down the road. You can still easily build an ongoing "provider relationship" between the 3 of you, but the chances of emotions or love or backstabbing coming into play go down significantly - because what I said at the beginning of this one....the bottom line is $.

I sincerely wish you the best of luck and I hope you two have the time of your lives! Originally Posted by tntangie

I really appreciate your response. As for rules, we don’t have many. Well, maybe except me going down on her. I really want a woman who will give us equal attention, but this is great advice, and something I hadn’t given much thought.

I like the idea of meeting her prior, and especially doing it alone. Yes, that would drive my husband crazy!

Thank you soooo much for your response. That was very nice of you!

What a very lucky couple!! This website is definitely "the place to go" for this type of adventure! Your concerns are 100% appropriate, and with research I am sure that you will find a wonderful girl to play out some fantasies with.

In my experience with couples, I have found that communication (especially beforehand) is key. If you and your spouse have rules, or boundaries, share them with the provider up front. Lots of email flirting & picture swapping (provider, your husband, and you) can make for a nice "tease" leading up to the set appointment. Sharing specific fantasies is a nice touch...this gives us ideas on how to tailor the session to YOUR specific desires....and surprise you with our creativeness to make the experience completely unforgettable for you!

Watching the "clock" should be out the window when it comes to female on female action...he he he...well that's my opinion ....I believe it depends on the chemistry of the couple with the provider, and if she chooses to "entertain" after the alotted time, I guess that's ultimately up to her.
When playing with a couple, it's hard to really keep an eye on the time anyways, there's usually SO MUCH FUN going on!! It's nice to sit and have a drink (or two) beforehand to chit chat, and sort of get friendly and begin to flirt and tease....


I've always had a nice time with couples. Here's one of my erotic couples adventures: http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=307400&highli ght=italiana+princess



I wish you the best of luck, and "Cheers" to many MULTIPLE "O's" for everyone!!

XOXO,
ItalianaPrincess Originally Posted by ItalianaPrincess

I really appreciate your response. Everything you said is spot on. The time issue is of course for me, but also for my husband, who will probably want to go twice. Makes sense. Thanks again for responding to this. I really appreciate it. Hope you have a wonderful day!

I wanted to thank everyone else for commenting, and making me laugh too. Everyone here is so nice! I'll take everyone's suggestions heavily. Appreciate it!

TSO, i 1000+ what TNT Angie and Italiana Princess has said. they are veritable founts of wisdoms, in addition to being founts of sexiness! i've consulted w/ IP several times and communicated w/ Angie a few months ago.

yep, communication is key - between you and your husband as well as between you two and the provider(s).
when it comes to setting the appt, be clear on what info she requires for screening, her fee, where and when you'll meet, what you might be interested in, etc. if anything doesnt sound good to you, or is overly complicated, or seems like a runaround, step back and rethink that particular woman. when it comes to having the appt, enjoy the flow and energy, while subtle or not so subtly directing the action. if you're like many of us guys, we are looking for a deliteful, no hassles, no drama, no b.s. time.

i hope that you find what you and your husband are looking for.
afterwards, if you feel ok w/ it, you might post a review like that couple that Italiana Princess visited with.

p.s. wrt to time and fees, some women have fees for couples and some dont. it's kinda like other things. i suggest you and your husband decide your upper limits and let the woman know that. dont go in to a long drawn out haggling, but you can let her know what you're willing to offer and see where she goes w/ that. again, communication is key.

pps. wrt hotel, the woman may know a way to get the hotel at way less than rack rate. some women i know use priceline to get a deal. some guys do the same. ask the woman or see if she'll get it and you compensate her for that.

TSO, i 1000+ what TNT Angie and Italiana Princess has said. they are veritable founts of wisdoms, in addition to being founts of sexiness! i've consulted w/ IP several times and communicated w/ Angie a few months ago.

yep, communication is key - between you and your husband as well as between you two and the provider(s).
when it comes to setting the appt, be clear on what info she requires for screening, her fee, where and when you'll meet, what you might be interested in, etc. if anything doesnt sound good to you, or is overly complicated, or seems like a runaround, step back and rethink that particular woman. when it comes to having the appt, enjoy the flow and energy, while subtle or not so subtly directing the action. if you're like many of us guys, we are looking for a deliteful, no hassles, no drama, no b.s. time.

i hope that you find what you and your husband are looking for.
afterwards, if you feel ok w/ it, you might post a review like that couple that Italiana Princess visited with.

p.s. wrt to time and fees, some women have fees for couples and some dont. it's kinda like other things. i suggest you and your husband decide your upper limits and let the woman know that. dont go in to a long drawn out haggling, but you can let her know what you're willing to offer and see where she goes w/ that. again, communication is key.

pps. wrt hotel, the woman may know a way to get the hotel at way less than rack rate. some women i know use priceline to get a deal. some guys do the same. ask the woman or see if she'll get it and you compensate her for that. Originally Posted by pmdelites

Thank you for your response. Much appreciated. I will post a review too. Figured there are few women posting reviews here, so that would be fun. As for the hotel, I get discounts as well, which is why we're thinking of getting one instead of an incall.

Thank you again!!!

Plus if they get a hotel, they can get tipsy after she leaves and keep reliving the whole thing in their minds and playing it out across every inch of the hotel...no drunk driving concerns, no "ugh, look at the mess we just made" worries...(leave $10 for the maid). Hotel sounds better and its nuetral

Something to think about is to pick a busy hotel "one with a lot of traffic".

Less chance of running in to someone U know but all so visit the hotel as a dry run.

"...(he's never seen a provider)..."

Oh... I guess he was here for the articles then?

LOL. Naive women are hot.

"...(he's never seen a provider)..."

Oh... I guess he was here for the articles then?

LOL. Naive women are hot. Originally Posted by Lust4xxxLife

behave

Hi! My Name is Berkleigh....and I love Couples....and they love me

LOL

Plus if they get a hotel, they can get tipsy after she leaves and keep reliving the whole thing in their minds and playing it out across every inch of the hotel...no drunk driving concerns, no "ugh, look at the mess we just made" worries...(leave $10 for the maid). Hotel sounds better and its nuetral Originally Posted by tntangie

Exactly!!!

Something to think about is to pick a busy hotel "one with a lot of traffic".

Less chance of running in to someone U know but all so visit the hotel as a dry run. Originally Posted by BossyWillson

Very good point.

"...(he's never seen a provider)..."

Oh... I guess he was here for the articles then?

LOL. Naive women are hot. Originally Posted by Lust4xxxLife

Ha! I figured I'd get this....believe what you will, but he hasn't.

Warning Warning Danger Danger Danger,

If you choose the Italian Princess you better be ready for a night of passion and raw sex. She might tie up the male half and just make him watch you and the Princess together. Of course if you are truly brave, have the Princess and TNTAngie both join the two of you. That way no one person is left out of any activities. Lucky bastard, he would never be the same after being with three ladies. Hey TNT and Princess, if you need some practice before such an evening, you know where I live!!!!! Originally Posted by durango95

We've actually discussed having two girls come over, one for each of us.