question for my fellow providers.. and opinions welcome from men with respect

I rather be honest I believe that all cards should be set on the table a healthy relationship can't be started with lies and secrets..


I stopped watching porn for that same reason I rather make one then watch Originally Posted by raquel santos

problem with that
would you believe I know someone that watch his mothers old porn flicks when he was slamming his girlfriend. och
not by ops at no tell hotel, WTF she knew what he was up to when he was setting up the super 8 movie projector. And let him.

Now that I know mostly older providers This one bothers me. And heard of this from a few providers.

ok
The daughter is in her 20's and dating still looking for Mr. Right. He found out want her mother dos. And like ok whatever not a problem. He or She dumps the other as well not the one. Then He tries to book some time with ma. ahhh ya right
but it seems 90% of young guys when its over with the daughter in a so called normal relation. Will try and book with the mother latter if she is a provider.

Then there is this guy I see buying time with a grandmother in hope to get in the grand daughters pants that is 15 years younger than himself, and the grand daughter is not playing this game. WTF

so I being in this way to long myself, wish you luck girl.

RS, I think do. There are many VPs who have BFs that aren't their pimps and some who are married. I think it would take a special person tho. Originally Posted by Howdy Do Me

would just add that ANY relationship is built on trust first and foremost. If you meet someone who believes in you and what you do it should be possible. But wold add that in general, what you get out of a relationship depends directly on what you put into it. If someone is not committed to making things work - the relationship is doomed to failure

FWIW, I know several (apparently happily) married providers.

Do you think its possible for a woman to be in this line of business and still be able to find a man that will truly love her completely mind heart body and soul..and no judgements, without having to hide what you do... or will we always be____________… in the eyes of others.. I like to believe Its possible.. but everything shows other wise...

PS just a random question cause I'm not trying to do this forever just wondering if this hobby will always be a factor even when I'm done with it .

Please be honest and respectful when you respond to this thread. Thank you Originally Posted by raquel santos

If you tell a guy, you might lose him.

If you tell him, and he is NOT a hobbyist, he will most likely always wonder.

If he IS a hobbyist, do you want to be in a relationship where you met him while providing.

Can you live in an "open" relationship?

If you don't tell him, he may find out later and be angry/hurt, and maybe leave.



Unfortunately, I think it will always be a factor whether you tell a future SO about it or not.


elg........

Now that I know mostly older providers This one bothers me. And heard of this from a few providers.

ok
The daughter is in her 20's and dating still looking for Mr. Right. He found out want her mother dos. And like ok whatever not a problem. He or She dumps the other as well not the one. Then He tries to book some time with ma. ahhh ya right
but it seems 90% of young guys when its over with the daughter in a so called normal relation. Will try and book with the mother latter if she is a provider.

Then there is this guy I see buying time with a grandmother in hope to get in the grand daughters pants that is 15 years younger than himself, and the grand daughter is not playing this game. WTF

so I being in this way to long myself, wish you luck girl. Originally Posted by offshoredrilling

Omg are freaking serious.... wow that's crazy let some boy or man do that to my daughter when she reaches that stage.. only God knows what I will do

Omg are freaking serious.... wow that's crazy let some boy or man do that to my daughter when she reaches that stage.. only God knows what I will do Originally Posted by raquel santos

They just tell them to go away.

I am honest with people when we discuss this topic... I have a bf of 4 months who I told him a month into it...we are already pretty serious... (I tend to fall fast lol- its a bad trait of mine sometimes ha)

I didn't want to be in a relationship that was based off a lie and me having to hide stuff longer and worry all the time about getting caught.

Im an upfront and real person and I want the same in return . I told him and he said he suspected something but not me being a prostitute.

We are now 2 months after that point and he accepts the fact of what I do and we try to have an open relationship in where I dont mind him going out and enjoying another girl... he doesn't hobby though. but its hard to not have a double standard sometimes.

Its definitely NOT easy and sometimes I feel id rather be single and not have to worry about hurting someone with what I do or having to limit the time I work because I need to spend time with him... but like someone up there said if you aren't committed to making it work it is doomed... so I gotta figure it out...make some

GOOD THREAD Raquel! Ive wondered how other providers deal with this and having relationships... and what helps you have a good relationship with your significant other In this....

I hope other comment....

Very tough if youre dating a civ that doesn't hobby. He is not going to undertand what you do, hmm very tough for a civ to adjust to your part time job of fucking guys, just a tough sell.

If he knows that upfront before you start dating ok, but if you wait and tell him amonth in, a year in whatever, wow even tougher.
Raquel if you out of the hobby after school, youre set youll find a guy and much easier than trying to date one now while you do this.

Im no expert fuck im not married and the guys on here will say I know nothing, but ive dated enough with non providers and shit that's hard, very hard.
Good luck im sure youll be ok and find a guy that gets you, shit id date you if I met you outside of this world.

Inside this world tough sometimes very tough.

I am honest with people when we discuss this topic... I have a bf of 4 months who I told him a month into it...we are already pretty serious... (I tend to fall fast lol- its a bad trait of mine sometimes ha)

I didn't want to be in a relationship that was based off a lie and me having to hide stuff longer and worry all the time about getting caught.

Im an upfront and real person and I want the same in return . I told him and he said he suspected something but not me being a prostitute.

We are now 2 months after that point and he accepts the fact of what I do and we try to have an open relationship in where I dont mind him going out and enjoying another girl... he doesn't hobby though. but its hard to not have a double standard sometimes.

Its definitely NOT easy and sometimes I feel id rather be single and not have to worry about hurting someone with what I do or having to limit the time I work because I need to spend time with him... but like someone up there said if you aren't committed to making it work it is doomed... so I gotta figure it out...make some

GOOD THREAD Raquel! Ive wondered how other providers deal with this and having relationships... and what helps you have a good relationship with your significant other In this....

I hope other comment.... Originally Posted by Amber Does

I have a bf I guess he knew what I was doing before he made himself a part of my life. I asked him over and over of he was sire he wanted to be with a woman like me... he was intent on being part of my life. But lately he's been acting a little weird... and my thing is I fall fast and hard also my downfall.. so why wait till I have feelings to switch up... I don't mind being open I've shared and brought girls to our bed but I can't do the sneaky shit and the second degree after an appointment. I would live to make this work.... its different when its personal....just wondering of I'm fighting a loosing battle

P.s thanks

i have to agree with what bj said. you would be better off waiting until after your out of school. it can be tough to find a guy that might be open minded enough to coupe with it. other down fall you will run into is it is a common thing that males tend to confuse lust for love. so you would be setting yourself up for a lot of heart breaks and head aches. i am not saying it is impossible. there are many providers that are married or have a bf. you just need to be able to weed thru what is right and what is not. the best thing is if you do date some one is to be upfront with them. there is one provider i would have actually dated. i am open minded but really picky on who i date. now if i dated a lady and did not know she was a provider and she told me a month or so later. i would dump her on the spot. not because she is a provider. it would be that she waited that long to tell me and be honest. even the best of us in that situation will always have in the back of their head "what else is there that they are not telling me?" you will loose the whole trust issue and with out trust you can not have a healthy relationship.

Great thrEd, thank you so mutch for posting this. Ive lerned a lot

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i have to agree with what bj said. you would be better off waiting until after your out of school. it can be tough to find a guy that might be open minded enough to coupe with it. other down fall you will run into is it is a common thing that males tend to confuse lust for love. so you would be setting yourself up for a lot of heart breaks and head aches. i am not saying it is impossible. there are many providers that are married or have a bf. you just need to be able to weed thru what is right and what is not. the best thing is if you do date some one is to be upfront with them. there is one provider i would have actually dated. i am open minded but really picky on who i date. now if i dated a lady and did not know she was a provider and she told me a month or so later. i would dump her on the spot. not because she is a provider. it would be that she waited that long to tell me and be honest. even the best of us in that situation will always have in the back of their head "what else is there that they are not telling me?" you will loose the whole trust issue and with out trust you can not have a healthy relationship. Originally Posted by tsmtogo

Well said, trust is huge.

No I completely agree with the trust thing... thats the major thing now probably... its definitely hard abd who knows if it will actually work out... trust me I know my odds and am counting the days down probably lol
I expected him to say no I can't handle that and leave and id fully respect that. I dont know how he handles it and I know its hard ....


I've true to FIND girls we both like to bring in our bed but its hard to find truly bi girls and that want a guy too.... any takers?? Lol hes hot!!!