Hobbyists - How did you get started?

Sorry but quick reply and not doing all or most of the numbers...


44 years old when the wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer and passed 3 weeks later. Yeah, it was devastating. Professional fit white male and was in no way looking for a new relationship but missed the intimacy. Stumbled upon a reference to P411 and the rest was history. Oh and by the way I was never molested and lost my virginity at 16. Have met some wonderful women here and though I don't hobby alot I have been in the lifestyle for 4 years and thank god for it!


EC

1. 50
2. A partner in my group
3. Separated
4. 12 years
5. Was mentioned in a review on Rubmaps
6. Yes
7. Yes
8. 14
9. Yes

1. How old were you when you first paid for companionship? 59. (62 now.)
2. How did you get the idea to do so? It's all the internet's fault. Reading subversive political material led me to the Radley Balko blog. One day, Maggie McNeill is a "guest host" there. That led me to her site, which led me to her links, which led me to some escorts' sites, all of which had links ... ended up seeing Elisabeth Whispers' site. There, she used the word "concupiscent." She didn't have me at "hello"; she had me at "concupiscent." I'm a pushover for smart, literate women, and she's certainly both of those.
3. What was your life situation when you did (married/single/employed/homeless/other/etc)? Married. Still am.
4. How long have you been a hobbyist? Don't think of myself as one, but I know what you mean ... I've been a client to independent escorts for three years now.
5. How did you find ECCIE? Elisabeth Whispers mentioned to me that she's a moderator here.
6. Are you married? Yup.
7. If so, does she know or suspect that you are a hobbyist? Doesn't know; pretty sure she doesn't suspect. She would not understand.
8. At what age did you lose your virginity? Age 20, as a newlywed.
9. Did you have any abusive parents or relatives and/or had you ever been molested as a minor? No abusive parents; no abusive relatives that I know of; no molestation or similar unhappiness in my life experience.

Demographic Inquiry Incoming!

At the request of some hobbyists for a similar questionnaire to the one I provided the ladies...inquiry for the gentlemen out there.

1. How old were you when you first paid for companionship?
2. How did you get the idea to do so?
3. What was your life situation when you did (married/single/employed/homeless/other/etc)?
4. How long have you been a hobbyist?
5. How did you find ECCIE?
6. Are you married?
7. If so, does she know or suspect that you are a hobbyist?
8. At what age did you lose your virginity?
9. Did you have any abusive parents or relatives and/or had you ever been molested as a minor?

Feel free to expound on any particulars that you like, but these questions provide a decent baseline for comparison. Originally Posted by TravelingGentleman

1. 24 (now 46)
2. Was coming home from a bar late one night and saw a SW strolling and decided to cruise by and chat her up. I got a half and half and was hooked.
3. Single
4. Counting from the first time ever, 22 years. Counting from finding eccie, almost a year.
5. Don't remember for sure. I think I saw it mentioned on a BP ad.
6. Widowed (widowered?), wife passed away just over 2 months ago.
7. She never knew, it would have crushed her.
8. 14
9. Shitty childhood but never molested or abused.

1. 50
2. I bought a new phone and kept getting text messages from both hobbyists and providers on it. I ‘googled’ the number and discovered ASPD. That was a year before I actually took the plunge.
3. Married, but living in a bell tower in Paris to conceal my true nature.
4. Not counting AMP’s which I started in 2004, I did my first in 2006.
5. After ASPD closed, another lady told me about ECCIE
6. Yes
7. No, as I’m alive to type these words.
8. Fifteen, she was twenty-one. Officially, one week after I became legal, then I was 18 and she was thirty-six.
9. Nope

1. Mid 50s.
2. Had a life-changing health issue that left me severly visually impaired. I was forced into a disability retirement and left at home with little to do. Wanted to regain control of my life and regain the initiative. Staerted a few new things (photography—really) and deciced to really step-out.
3. Married.
4. Ten years
5. Was an ASPD member till Christmas 2010 then was told by the manager of a Latin Massage Studio.
6. Still (see item 3)
7. Not at all. Thinks I spend too much on photography.
8. 24 . . .honeymoon—believe it.
9. No. My folks were just like Ward and June Cleaver—no joke.

1. As soon as I am dumb enough
2. to hand out sensitive, incriminating
3. and potentially identifying
4. information on a public
5. website frequented by
6. fucking Piggs with nothing
7. better to do with their lives
8. than to make everyone else's worse,
9. I will answer these.

That is the best answer, could not figure out why men would answer this question, the women sure did not. Are men just more stupid or desperate for attention? I do not understand.

1. As soon as I am dumb enough
2. to hand out sensitive, incriminating
3. and potentially identifying
4. information on a public
5. website frequented by
6. fucking Piggs with nothing
7. better to do with their lives
8. than to make everyone else's worse,
9. I will answer these. Originally Posted by Buying a *Way to Heaven

That is the best answer, could not figure out why men would answer this question, the women sure did not. Are men just more stupid or desperate for attention? I do not understand. Originally Posted by Boudin3112

Wow. Paranoia runs deep here.

So, with all those sleuthing clues skills, please explore what I--or anyone else--posted and tell me much of anything about who I am.

So let me see. I've admitted my age, that I'm married and own a home, menopause killed it at home and that my cherry was popped at 15. Yeah, that narrows it down to me as a suspect. Jesus Christ.

1. How old were you when you first paid for companionship?
mid-40's just a few months ago

2. How did you get the idea to do so?
One of my friends told me about the site; before this I had never hobbied my entire life. Yeah I guess I'm pretty tame in that regard.

3. What was your life situation when you did (married/single/employed/homeless/other/etc)?
married / employed / productive citizen

4. How long have you been a hobbyist?
just a few months now

5. How did you find ECCIE?
buddy told me about it

6. Are you married?
yes

7. If so, does she know or suspect that you are a hobbyist?
no

8. At what age did you lose your virginity?
18

9. Did you have any abusive parents or relatives and/or had you ever been molested as a minor?
Nope, rough childhood though, grew up in inner city, didn't have that much, so had to work my ass off to get me to where I am now career-wise.

That is the best answer, could not figure out why men would answer this question, the women sure did not. Are men just more stupid or desperate for attention? I do not understand. Originally Posted by Boudin3112

Well you are right , in that sometimes it is best to just turn around and walk away . . . .


And yet—here you are.

The best way to keep a secret is to tell no one and to tell as little as possible. There is a reason our real names are not used as our handles. The more info you give out the easier it is to get caught by a wife, lover, SO or others.

1.20
2.Was thinking about it for a long time.
3.Single
4.6 moths or more
5.Maybe google or some review site.
6.No way
7.No
8.Not molested, But it's been a messed up journey.

Florynce Kennedy (1916-2000)
Prostitutes are accused even by feminists of selling their bodies; but prostitutes don’t sell their bodies, they rent their bodies. Housewives sell their bodies when they get married.
.. tobacco kills 52,000 people a year from lung cancer, and there’s no telling how many lives have been ruined through drinking. But to my knowledge, no one has ever died of a blow job.

1. How old were you when you first paid for companionship? 57
2. How did you get the idea to do so? Was approached by working girl at a strip club. She talked me into it.
3. What was your life situation when you did (married/single/employed/homeless/other/etc)? Married and bored
4. How long have you been a hobbyist? 3 yrs, first with escorts then had a SB for a while and now getting back into the hobby
5. How did you find ECCIE? Was member of ASPD and migrated
6. Are you married? yes she owns half of everything or I wouldn't hobby, I would find a new soul mate
7. If so, does she know or suspect that you are a hobbyist? Hell No I like my house, truck and pension
8. At what age did you lose your virginity? 19 she was 21 recently divorced and was missing it
9. Did you have any abusive parents or relatives and/or had you ever been molested as a minor? If you mean no porn, playboy, and told masturbation is evil, then yes