Before meeting a provider, where do you like taking her for a date?

If it's an OTC activity -- and that's the only way I'd be involved -- I can promise you a nice evening. The establishments mentioned by Johnny Ringo would be on my list, as well. I think it's so important, however, that the parties have already met before engaging in that kind of date. Can you imagine the awkwardness of going out for drinks and dinner at a nice restaurant, discovering you have nothing in common to talk about, and THEN heading back to wherever for BCD? Man, in the real world, at least you get to walk away after a bad date. Anything involving that kind of time commitment/investment should entail the parties already knowing that they'll enjoy one another's company away from the bedroom for an hour or two, so an elaborate dinner date would never be a first meeting option for me. But, if a good rapport has already been established beforehand, then it's just a couple of friends going out for a nice evening, with guaranteed "benefits" waiting at evening's end. That's hard to beat.

I'd really enjoy taking her wherever she wants to go, and do whatever she wants to do ... if there is a new restaurant or club, or event on the town, or just shopping ... it my sound ridiculous but if I want something, or to go somewhere to eat, or check out sexy entertainers, I'll just do it ... so if a lady would enjoy some pampering, or a nice dinner, maybe a wine or champagne or cognac tasting ... I'd really enjoy taking her, so long as I knew she was enjoying the evening.

One idea on my bucket list ... two ladies join me around noon, at my hotel ... we chat for a bit, then I send them down to the spa for an afternoon of pampering ... then we take a limo over to a Boutique to find them some sexy outfits for the evening, and of course they will need some new shoes for those new outfits! Back to the hotel. Everyone gets showered, dressed and we are back out in the limo, headed to dinner anywhere they want ... then we are off to a party, fashionably late of course ... then we leave the party, head out to one of the hottest nightclubs or gentlemans clubs in Dallas ... close the place down, maybe even bring a lady or two back to the hotel and then ... so when would the clock start running?

I have several regulars that I take out to lunch or dinner OTC after a date. It is my way of showing them that I enjoyed their date and appreciate them. That they are more than just a warm body for 60 minutes. My BFE experience.

tatman49,

I think there are a good deal of ladies here in the DFW area that will enjoy the extras without the expectation of payment. Communication is they key here. Don't go and NOT ask beforehand. This thread comes up on occasion with select ladies posting their like for the practice and I have had the pleasure of simply hanging out with them. Amber Rain and I went to a Cowboy game, Berkleigh and I have been to a couple of clubs and there are a few select others. They are good people in my book but it wasn't the first time ever talking like a blind date. Amber and I had met at a local club through a fellow provider friend and Berkleigh and I had been chatting about a possible meet beforehand for a few months. It all just worked out and it was a ton of fun for what I think was both parties.

Yes, there are some ladies who aren't interested in hanging out with their johns. Oh well, their choice. Originally Posted by Boltfan

Boltfan and I had a Fabulous 1st time out!
And many great times after that!

EPIC!

I have had some kick-ass times over the years with Surge as well as a handful of Hobbyists turned good friends.
Promised to create an awesome memory as its always an experience to see what we can get into! Good Times

OTC??? You must know girls I don't. Last time I suggested this, to a girl I'd seen a few times before, she said for a date that length, be sure to remember to give her half up front (this destroyed the IOP pretty quick, and off to find other favorites).

I would feel awkward asking a provider for an OTC date, that was to be followed by "time" that was paid for.

If she suggested it, I'd be all over it, but I'd feel bad asking a girl to give up her time for free. Every girl I know in this has a life outside hobby world.

My best times include dinner and shopping. I try to talk to the lady on the phone to determine if she is up for a dinner date. Several have accepted the idea and I always put them on my see again list. Alecia where shall we go the next time?

OTC??? You must know girls I don't. Last time I suggested this, to a girl I'd seen a few times before, she said for a date that length, be sure to remember to give her half up front (this destroyed the IOP pretty quick, and off to find other favorites).

I would feel awkward asking a provider for an OTC date, that was to be followed by "time" that was paid for.

If she suggested it, I'd be all over it, but I'd feel bad asking a girl to give up her time for free. Every girl I know in this has a life outside hobby world. Originally Posted by dallasBP

I guess I am not afraid to ask. As other ladies have said here, they have to eat, they enjoy movies, they enjoy clubbing. If they get offended because you ask oh well. It's not like you are asking them to tie you up, take out the lube and, errrr, wait that is for another thread.

I think the practive is more common than people think. If a provider looks at this as devaluing her rate then she needs understand gentleman ask because others do offer it. If she still gets offended then guess what, maybe you just saved yourself some future headaches and opened the door to a fun time with someone else.

If you know what she will charge for a two hour session suggest you will pay her that amount and take her to dinner and some BCD time after. Than ask her where she would like to eat. The thought of a nice dinner or lunch will let her know you are not going to Mickey Ds. I have found the provider is eager to go out. Now if you are in a small town there could be a problem with someone seeing you so pick a place to eat away from your area if you must. If you see someone you know use my old standby she is my physical therapist. She brought my blood pressure down and I am paying off the bet. I have never been turned down. I do set up dates well ahead of time not a last minute thing.