I like a brain. The main reason is that it lets me know that the lady is in the hobby because she wants to be. I don't want to be with someone who feels like she has to be in the hobby, or has a pimp or SO who is forcing her into it or who is doing this to support a habit or something. I don't want to reinforce someone's low opinion of herself. A smart woman is more likely to be in it for fun, and money of course, and has a positive view of herself. There are exceptions of course. Besides, I like to chat.
Originally Posted by CuteOldGuy
Thanks for the thread, Allie, and thanks for your two cents, COG. You expressed my thoughts perfectly, but more succinctly than I could have. I too wouldn't want to reinforce someone's low opinion of herself & therefore be part of the problem. I can't change or deny the sad stats of how many providers have experienced abuse earlier in their lives. But I NEED to believe that the woman in front of me is there of her own volition, period, and if she seems unable to express herself in a way that reveals any trace of self-awareness, I just don't even want to be there anymore.
But in case I've driven off the asphalt on this thread, I'll say that there's a big difference to me between a text/IM that's been hurriedly typed (obviously because she is so excited to see ME, she can spare only one hand for typing & is too distracted to do it correctly), and an ad that a person has paid money for, & may be her sole shout-out to the community about her services, that she hasn't bothered to proofread or use spellcheck on before pressing "send."
Intellect is sexy. Street-smarts are sexy. Saying "It good wether to cuttle up" in your bp ad ain't sexy. What are some other classics? "Don't waist your time with the rest" (if she's a BBW, that would be kinda clever, if intentional).
"If YOUR looking for a good time" doesn't bother me so much.
"I am free sprited" ... slightly more annoying ...
"Perfection at it's finest!" only bugs me because you'd think PERFECTION should include knowing when to use an apostrophe. Oh well...
Allie, have we answered your question? We don't just look at the pics. We just look at the pics first!