Providers with husbands or boyfriends

Hell it it actually turns me on even more because she is "being naughty" and doing something that she "shouldn't".. Hell I even ask her questions, about her signficant other(like does he fuck you like this, or is his dick as big as mine) and it turns me on even more, but I am kind of a pervert.... hehehehe

bolded text = the main point. for me, unless i ask [and i rarely do] i dont want to know about their real lfe relationships, their finances problems, their kids' problems, their car problem, their real life world problems.

i have discussed w/ providers things about their real life, but it's usually things we have in common or might, like music, art, the arboretum, restaurants, travel, etc.


the underlined text = like samantha thom asked, what fantasy??
you know that the provider is seeing other guys. and probably has a significant other or husband.
what fantasy of yours is being ruined?

and she probably knows you are seeing other providers. i imagine that most providers dont have a fantasy being ruined like yours might be.


like samantha thom wrote, providers are people, just like you and me, w/ all the ups/downs, head screwed on straight/crooked, likes/dislikes, laughs/cries, etc.
i say - treat em with respect and compassion and they'll probably treat you the same way. Originally Posted by pmdelites

Right on, pmdelites!
I cannot comprehend what 'fantasy' is being ruined? We have fun in our session and will go on our separate lives.
I think some guys (I'm not saying the OP) think we providers are not allowed to have real normal lives. That we're supposed to be single, broke, depressed, screwed up, waiting for the phone to ring for appt, and available 24/7 to satisfy their needs. They need to realize we are no different from them. We have family, real friends, social circles, other hobbies, interests, love interest, life goals, etc, etc, etc. A lot of us do quite well, have a good balanced lifestyle, and actually normal enough to have normal men to be in love with us. And some of us even thrive in competitive sports or arts. Do not underestimate us. :-)

What if she made a decent amount of money and was able to help with the bills around the house? What if her only job was to provide? (Assuming she has a lengthy criminal background, or lack of education)

What can you do with a woman who has (any) profession in the sex industry?

The same is to be said for strippers and porn stars as well. Originally Posted by brownsugarbaby

BSB good point, I should have added the caviot I would be willing to make it worth her while. Also I said her still providing. If she wants to run an agency, run an incall etc etc etc no biggie to me. But actively fucking another dick other than mine is not cool with me

Hmmm? Ruins the fantasy of what? That the provider is your soul mate, and she wants you and you only, that she doesn't see other guys, and she's all yours mind, body and soul?
I don't get it. Why does it matter? Just because we are 'providers', it doesn't mean we are not real women with feelings and emotion. We, too, have the right and ability to love and be loved and live a normal life just like everyone else. Treat us like real people and you will have a much better time in the hobby. Originally Posted by samantha thom

If I'm knocking boots with you, of course I'm your SOLE-mate...heh


Okay, bad joke...sorry, I tried. I needed a laugh, even it was at myself

I think most very openminded guys find it a turn on that the provider has a SO and they are making passionate love to her. If they dont have a SO, providers certainly have their favorite clients so why worry about it. Having your wife or gf as a provider is another thread and another issue.

i think lisa and samantha hit it right on ........ one of the providers i see is married and i met him a few times..... been married forever and now he is in bad health. i have even done a few things to help them out. if it bothered me about them havin others it would bother me about my SO..
just sayin

this post is kind of odd. we pay a girl for her time and then are put off by what she does in her off time if she has a husband? i fail to see the logic there. i also was agreeing with the do not talk about her SO part but then my hypocrite detector went off and i remember how many times i have told a provider about my wife. what a terrible double standard that shows how fickle men can be.

Treat us like real people and you will have a much better time in the hobby. Originally Posted by samantha thom

Wise words if ever any were written here.

BSB good point, I should have added the caviot I would be willing to make it worth her while. Also I said her still providing. If she wants to run an agency, run an incall etc etc etc no biggie to me. But actively fucking another dick other than mine is not cool with me Originally Posted by Thatdude

So you wouldn't mind her being a pimpette?

just so long as the BF or SO is not in the room next door waiting for you to leave... i think it's ok!

Right on, pmdelites!
I cannot comprehend what 'fantasy' is being ruined? We have fun in our session and will go on our separate lives.
I think some guys (I'm not saying the OP) think we providers are not allowed to have real normal lives. That we're supposed to be single, broke, depressed, screwed up, waiting for the phone to ring for appt, and available 24/7 to satisfy their needs. They need to realize we are no different from them. We have family, real friends, social circles, other hobbies, interests, love interest, life goals, etc, etc, etc. A lot of us do quite well, have a good balanced lifestyle, and actually normal enough to have normal men to be in love with us. And some of us even thrive in competitive sports or arts. Do not underestimate us. :-) Originally Posted by samantha thom

Tennis is right behind golf as an activity, not a sport.

Ruin the fantasy? If it is not a SO, she will be seeing other hobbyists.

I agree. If the provider doesn't have an SO that she is really into, she will most certainly have other hobbyists that she is more into than she is with you. As I previously stated, there is no point thinking about or worrying about other men in her life. Just enjoy the pleasure and the fantasy she provides you during your time with her.

I use to have a provider who I use to call at home and her husband would answer the home phone, I would also pick her up at their place and drop her off after some cim action, mostly car or public places dates. They moved apartments and she is missed now. She was a white mid-30s spinner housewife.

I was married to a provider for many years and she didnt hide the fact that she was married and I also talked to many of her clients on the phone and even met some in person. I know that many of her clients were turned on by the fact that she was married.