Txcwby,
I understand your reason and logic behind only seeking women over 35 years old. It makes sense to me, because the clients I am personally most compatible with are those 45 and over. It isn't because I dislike or have anything against younger men, it is just a compatibility pattern I have recognized. At the same time, if I were to find a client that liked all of the same bands as I do, I don't think that alone would tell me anything about our compatibility.
A person who knows the members in a band might still get on my nerves. We can have everything in common, but if the person is immature and loud and talking about girlfriend or boyfriend issues, I am sorry but I need to run the other way. I don't find someone's knowledge of band members to be grounds for determining whom to arrange a date.
I like to learn. If I only meet with people who have the same knowledge as myself, I'm less likely to learn new things. If I could paint a picture, it would be of two people facing each other, and in my hand is a thought. My fist is closed, holding on tightly to a thought. Now, do I want to give the thought to the person in front of me, putting it in their head, teaching them something new. Or do I want to take the thought, putting it in my head, and me learning something new. Do I want to add to my brain and my knowledge and understanding, or do I want merely voice what I have already mulled over. I like to learn, which is why I find it fun meeting with friends with whom I honestly have very little in common.
There's the physical aspect to the hobby, but for me, it's nice to have at least an ounce of chemistry. My reason for age is maturity, being able to carry an adult conversation, and the challenge. I am not sure I would need the same likes and similar interests to hit it off with someone.
It appears you're tired of meeting dummies and bimbos and you want something more than just a hot body in front of you. To providers in their 20's, I can almost see you saying, "Dammit you fucking idiots!" While age and experience brings wisdom, I wouldn't throw every provider under the bus who is under 35. In the same way, I wouldn't assume every provider over 35 will be your heaven on earth.
I appreciate your post. It is nice to see people out there who need more than a hot body to get turned on.