Anxious a bad thing?

Not every client looks for NOW and not every provider books for NOW. I personally don't ever book for the same day, even with clients I already met. I plan my days ahead of time and that includes my personal life and Natasha's.

Ladies often have their preferred way of contact posted on their website.

Also, the messages I get from P411 for some reason end up in my junk folder, so I don't even get a notification.

A lot of factors as you see.

Ladies thanks for the replies. Some of the in-site on how 411 works. I never text or call a lady first I always pm via p411. Hearing that some of those end up in a junk mail file could be an issue.

Thanks

There are different types of 'anxious'... The harmless type like a wide eyed little kid at Christmas who can't wait to open his gifts... And then the overbearing type who wants to rush everything. With the latter its hard not to wonder If he's trying to cover up details that a more drawn out screening would hopefully reveal (NCNS, LE, no pay, etc) Sometimes we just trust a gut feeling (and in all fairness, sometimes its wrong) and drop a conversation like a hot potato...

The ladies have no idea you want to see them until the lady is contacted. They respond as time allows but if you spaz out or make them nervous then you may well be out of luck. I have found scheduling is easy, I just send a photo of my 1.3" of dangling death ,wearing its proper holiday outfit,and the ladies respond... Originally Posted by pyramider

Cuteness goes a long way...

Personally, I can be either really prompt or days, maybe even weeks before I respond via email or inbox. Most people just call. You can text. I'm not on my computer all day anymore so it's better to contact on my handheld device lol. Emails texts and calls.

Yeah but they will also claim (correctly) that they are running a business. Some of them will even bust your balls if you insinuate they are inept at doing so.. Originally Posted by atlcomedy

yes but even businessmen have lives too...

sometimes life comes before business.

if a provider doesn't get back to me then I move on to the next one. as simple as that.

now if every provider starts not responding like the OP's situation then obviously his approach needs to be changed.. he should get better references, do a better job of communicating and not looking like a weirdo in his messages, invest in P411, etc etc. a big tip is in the first email to them to mention your P411 page so they know you have been screened already and they can let their guard down

In general. Not a specific provider. Just seems to be the case. Takes a while for responses. I think when a guy is looking. He is looking now not 1-3 days from now Originally Posted by PA30

If you are looking for now, then private message may not be the ideal form of communication. Even if by your use of the word "now", you really mean the same day.

But this too is subjective, there are those that will and those that won't operate on a same day basis via pm or phone call for that matter.

Communication is the key. How clear are your messages or said another way what's the purpose of the message? Is there a specific date you would like to meet or is this a general inquiry?

How often does this happen to you? It could be you just aren't clear in messages or you could be you are giving off a weird vibe.

How about copying and pasting us a sample of your messages (just remove provider details), then the ladies may be able to provide more helpful advice.

When you send a message you need to ask a question. As one provider has pointed out messages get overlooked because they get so many. On p411, if you know this is the provider you want to see then sent in the appointment request. You will get a faster response because she know you mean business and ready to do business. When you send pre- screening messages don't expect a fast response, but after a few days move to the next selection. Don't waste your time!

I have seen the providers that caused me to ask this question. Both of them had the same response. PM messages from 411 go to their junk mail inbox. So that can delay the response time. Using p411 it is best to call / text if number is provided. If not use the sched link and make the request there. ( neither found my messages offensive ). Thanks for all the replies.

I think the providers should make it clear in their profiles somewhere how best to communicate with them. that would simplify things so much more

If the guy sends a one-liner like "hey bb, how u doin?" that is likely to be ignored. If they send a message with business content like "I'd like to set up an appointment to see you on X date at Y time for Z hours and here are my references. Are you available?" That is highly likely to get a response. If you are sending a message similar to the latter and are getting no response, you might be blacklisted, or the lady is probably too busy and you should seek someone else. I don't know how others do it, but I try to screen and check references before I respond. If the man is blacklisted I usually let them know we are probably not a good match. Not responding at all is unprofessional.