Most providers are clueless Originally Posted by whitechocolateIts not that they are clueless its a matter of specification and training. Some are into different things and maybe we are clueless. I have delved into that subject since i am 16 years old and i have challenged many men sexually. Its true what you say about me being more into the consciousness expansion thing.
I just feel that most providers dont appreciate the value and importance of the mental side and erotic imagery in particular when they do a session. Too much concentration of just the physical. The mental side is their friend and a great tool to make the session super. Yes, I would love to meet and have fun with you. I will say though I definitely want to have my hands, mouth etc all over you and have yours all over me while we practice our erotic imagery. Originally Posted by whitechocolateOf course, well my passion artistry is not limited to, but i do appreciate the mental side a lot. I get bored easily from just the physical
Its not that they are clueless its a matter of specification and training. Some are into different things and maybe we are clueless. I have delved into that subject since i am 16 years old and i have challenged many men sexually. Its true what you say about me being more into the consciousness expansion thing. Originally Posted by ninasastriI completely agree. Many, many people have no real sexual training or even a desire to explore beyond the mundane in many areas not just sexuality. I think because it feels good already so why bother. It's a shame really, the best sex comes from a fertile mind and a well trained body with regard to pleasuring oneself and a refined technique for pleasuring one's partner.
But i am sure we would have fun together nevertheless. I have learnde to orgasm without even touching myself or being touched and i dare to say that i can give a man an orgasm without even touching him or him being touched by himself. Its a matter of states of consciousness. Originally Posted by ninasastriI do not know if I actually qualify within the scope of the thread / technique. I can make myself orgasm with out manually stimulating my self, but imagery alone won't do it. I have to contract my muscles. The pubococcygeus is easy. It's the tiny muscles over the clitoris that are dastardly difficult. But when they are contracted, it is like a mini-O right then and there.
I completely agree. Many, many people have no real sexual training or even a desire to explore beyond the mundane in many areas not just sexuality. I think because it feels good already so why bother. It's a shame really, the best sex comes from a fertile mind and a well trained body with regard to pleasuring oneself and a refined technique for pleasuring one's partner.Cool! I do agree with you completely. And this is one thing where i have to say that age matters. No matter how you put it, an older provider is more experienced in that matter :-). I don`t say i am "old" with 35 but i have years of training and no 25 year old can come close to that ;-).
I do not know if I actually qualify within the scope of the thread / technique. I can make myself orgasm with out manually stimulating my self, but imagery alone won't do it. I have to contract my muscles. The pubococcygeus is easy. It's the tiny muscles over the clitoris that are dastardly difficult. But when they are contracted, it is like a mini-O right then and there. Originally Posted by OliviaHoward
Cool! I do agree with you completely. And this is one thing where i have to say that age matters. No matter how you put it, an older provider is more experienced in that matter :-). I don`t say i am "old" with 35 but i have years of training and no 25 year old can come close to that ;-).I actually find that if I don't use to many terms and use a blindfold to let your partner "fly" it's best for someone that isn't accustomed to the sexual energy that can be found if one tries. Maybe it's a bit of dare to hope and masturbation makes you go blind combined that scares people off, but I get your point.
Yes if you contract the muscles that is a good start already. I have to admit i need a man to pleasure himself or feel excited so i can come too by feeling his energies go up and down. And he needs to be on the same mindwave or stimulate me with talk as well. Right now - in one of my friends with benefits constellations we do a lot of exploration of that techniques, so that is why i felt i needed to post here. I am usually a bit shy when it comes to such things, many misunderstand this sex magick stuff , but its a great thing actually - liberating Tantra :-).
Hugs Originally Posted by ninasastri
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PsycholagnyI wish I could! Not like I haven't tried..lol
"Psycholagny is a sexual term that refers to the ability to reach or achieve orgasm without any physical stimulation of the genitalia, usually achieved through mental stimulation or fantasy alone. Also referred to as a "psychic orgasm" [1][2]."
Has anyone else ever practiced or meditated on this? For me sometimes physical contact is absolutely not necessary to achieve an orgasm. Recently i started having cybersex with a friend of mine and we have been discussing this - which i thought was so special to me - and he referred me to this term. Originally Posted by ninasastri
I actually find that if I don't use to many terms and use a blindfold to let your partner "fly" it's best for someone that isn't accustomed to the sexual energy that can be found if one tries. Maybe it's a bit of dare to hope and masturbation makes you go blind combined that scares people off, but I get your point.Yes i agree with that too. Terms limit. For example erotocomatose lucidity. It is used in Tantric practices as well and i am sure many escorts practice it, but if you google the term its only connected with ALeister Crowleys Magick which is great too, but i don`t want my studies to be limited to only one person :-). Besides Crowley scarey a lot of people so i rarely mention him exceopt with friends and with clients i try to use some tantric terms of explanations :-) (lol). Its all the same anyway. Sometimes you do something and then you realize "oh this is that and that practice"....;-). I think especially we escorts do that a lot, because intuitively we all exercise energies and sexual expertise. Labels don`t matter so much, except for discussion :-)
And yes, I agree age does matter. I have always been sexually curious, but obviously, I have not always been sexually advanced. I think people have to want to be. As an example, when I was young, I had a lover that was much older than me. I can categorically say he was not an advanced lover. He was a caring lover, but not into the cerebral. Originally Posted by OliviaHoward
I just feel that most providers dont appreciate the value and importance of the mental side and erotic imagery in particular when they do a session. Too much concentration of just the physical. The mental side is their friend and a great tool to make the session super. Yes, I would love to meet and have fun with you. I will say though I definitely want to have my hands, mouth etc all over you and have yours all over me while we practice our erotic imagery. Originally Posted by whitechocolateI wonder if your first sentence sort of ties in with what Olivia is saying about their being a difference between being sexually experienced but not sexually advanced. I think many people (not just providers) fall into that trap???