Single Hobbyist and Their Impact on the Hobby

posted by nameless one
It is nice to be able to take a provider out in public without having to worry about running into people I know in the outside world. If it does happen, they just assume I'm on a regular date.

+1 on this.
I have had providers over to my house and they have met friends and family.As far as they know she is just a regular date.We both get to enjoy our time together and do things that a married provider could never chance.

Single too. Limited to FBSM (B2B/FV/L1) when married, with her permission and encouragement (That's a fun bit of dirty talk). I guess that got her bad boy fix done. This dude abided. FBSM is still less... worry, and less chance for any possible infatuation.

Fact is, I don't know if I'd be able to date in the real world. "What? No L2? Common baby. At least gimme me some L1..." The hobby is sex without begging. What an amazing concept. Originally Posted by PT-109

As for civilians you just need a little coaching: the situation is naked and in bed: You're still making out hot and heavy and you say "I want you to suck my cock right now." No compliance and later her response is "I'm still a little shocked you said that to me!" ? Try not to laugh and then move on.

Not really sure how to respond to this thread...

Discretion! Discretion!

If you bother a hobbyist married or single about business, you may just run him and his money off.

I do not think single hobbyist mess it up. Most have a side piece somewhere.

Pick the right provider who has a half of a brain who knows the meaning of discretion.

+1 Lisa!

Does it really matter, single or married? Really?!

Can we just get back to F*cking and sucking like the good ol days?

Can we just get back to F*cking and sucking like the good ol days? Originally Posted by Dannie

Amen Sister!

I suppose that so long as the Hobbyist has genitals that match up with those of the Provider and a pulse it doesn't matter if the owner of the male parts is single, married, divorced, widowed, military, veteran, atheists, buddhist, or whatever other label can be applied.

I'm only single cuz no one's liked it enough to put a ring on it. Originally Posted by Sum1Else

You know "if you like you can put a ring on it"

Curious about this other thread? People who are uneducated and/or naive cause issues, mainly for themselves. Has nothing to do with single or married.

+1 more Lisa & Dannie:

Totally agreed. I would think, married or not, discretion is something you NEVER slack on. I don't care if you have an SO, a wife, a dog, whatever. The fact is that neither your acquaintances or mine need know the nature of our relationship. If we're in public, it should seem natural. If we're in private, we should be free to do as we like. But either way, the liaison and the details should be kept absolutely private, without exception.

I fail to see why any aspect of the experience would differ between the company of a married gent vs. a single one. Its all in good fun. LOL.

I'm one single hobbiest with an impact.

I am single, no SO, never married. At this point not too sure if I would know what to do on a normal date. Hate to slip and ask do I get a bbbj with cim!!

I hear U Hawk, gfe on the first date might be pressing it too...incall or outcall. But stripper slide with cot...you never know.

I hear U Hawk, gfe on the first date might be pressing it too...incall or outcall. But stripper slide with cot...you never know. Originally Posted by Int3rested

Heh, you guys are going to fuck me up if I start thinking back on first dates in hobbying terms.

The last ginger-maned unicorn candidate ended with the evening at her "incall" with the "stripper slide", "L1", and "COT". See, there was restraint, no CFS or even L2! Pretty sure if I had called it by those terms I would NOT have experience CFS and L2 the next time.

But of course, then she put on her flannel pajamas. Providers don't ever let us see them put on the flannel pajamas afterwards. And really, they shouldn't.

I hobby mostly because providers are easier to deal with than regular women. There's one civilian I'm seeing now. We agreed looooong ago that everything between us was just physical, but she's trying her DAMNDEST to turn it into a relationship. Told her ass, I'm not looking for a relationship. And it irks me that she's trying to pull me over into BF/GF territory. I mean, I know I'm fine....but damn! We had an agreement.

With providers everything is cut and dry. You set things up, meet, make it happen and you're done. Civvie women wanna fall in love and shit, after making you wait forever to pull down the panties. Wanna get a provider off ya back? Five magic words: I ain't got no money!

Those 5 words got POWER. The only equally powerful words are: Can I get a freebie?

All kidding aside, I like seeing providers because of the convenience. Takes too much effort and time with regular women. Seeking action from a provider could take 2 hours from start to finish, give or take. Trying to get lucky with civvie women could take days, weeks, months, and even YEARS.

Who has time for all that.

I am upper middle aged . . . Originally Posted by looiecypher

Would love to know what that means to Looie, but am afraid to ask as I fear it's older than I am.