These are real good points I guess maybe I am just into finding a single provider that I can just have a good vide with for some reason that has become important to me I don't know why
Originally Posted by James_Bond_007
james, after that first episode [in fall of 2001], i learned my lesson and now interact w/ the women i visit in a wholly different way. i experience them as people who can help me experience something that i normally cannot experience in my real life. the icing on the cake is that with some of them, i can talk with them very freely about all kinds of things - things going on in the world, some of the fun i've had recently with others [both RW and HW, both sexually and just weekend events (like craft shows or museums or movies)], whty they've been up to, what were going to do the next time we meet :^), etc. things friends and/or lovers would shoot the breeze about.
however, as i navigate into and in this sub-culture, there is a BIG sign saying "you are now entering hobbyworld". so, i chose not to extend our relationship to a much deeper and more intimate friendship, much less a life partner level. we're friendly w/ each other, but i cant easily at the drop of a handkerchief go be with them or help them out of a jam or take them to the doctor's when they're sick or invite them over for dinner at my house. so, i cannot be close buddy-buddy friends with them. that's one thing i wish i could do w/ some of them, i like them so much.
and for the ones who i really enjoy being with, i've never sat down w/ them and said "ok, here's the deal. i like being with you. here's what i want in the future." it's more, let's meet at 7pm on nov 18 for 2 hrs and enjoy ourselves. if that encounter goes well, i'll keep her on my gvha list and i'll contact her in the future for another encounter. i might send fun or sexy or "hi there" emails every once in a while, maybe even schedule a time to call and talk for a while. but that's about as far as i chose to take it.
so, i would suggest you look for women whose offerings are enjoyable and deliteful and affordable for you and that might appear to be someone you'd like to hang out with for an hour or two or three. then go visit them once or twice and see if you like them, have fun, and want to do it some more. either you will continue or you dont [too many red flags show up].
more power to you in your search for whatever it is you're searching for.