Hello Gentlemen,
I understand that the verification process can seem frustrating and complicated. As a provider, I typically request the DL from those who still need to be verified. This is to match a face to a name, not an attempt to invade your privacy. I suggest covering other personal information with a thumb. The aim is to ensure authenticity and avoid any unfortunate instances of deception, which, unfortunately, can occur in the hobby industry.
As for the deposit, I treat my services with a booking calendar like any other business you would go to that requires scheduling. So why can't we ask for a deposit that we can use as a part of our cancellation fee or NCNS fee? Then you guys complain about outcalls requiring deposits? Do you not know how time-consuming it is to travel to your location, hoping that the hobbyist doesn't flake on you in mid-travel or is not there? That deposit is then used to recoup the time and money wasted on the travel.
I know everyone hates their time being wasted, especially if you have to wait for your get-together to happen.
I regret that you've had some negative experiences with other providers. However, many providers in the hobby industry, including myself, are genuine and reputable. We value our clients and strive to offer the best possible service.
Originally Posted by Naughty_Nikkitta
All providers say how great they are at TCB (and for the matter BCD, but that would be another thread) with the hobbyists. So, because they are so good, then they require a deposit just in case the hobbyist flakes, right? Well, nothing is ever 100%, as it goes to the cost of the being in the hobby, but a suggestion is the upgrade your screening/verification process before you set an appointment and ask about his reliability by contacting providers either on his p411 profile that he actually saw for sessions or references he has given you. Then you do not have to worry about all that other stuff.
Speaking of the costs related to the hobby, guys set an appointment, get ready, drive halfway across town to either get told to wait in the parking lot for further instructions because she is not ready yet on the time she agreed to see him, or she ghosts him all together. Is his time and all not as important as yours? If so, are you going to give him cash upfront to make sure you show are on time?
When it comes to asking for personal identifiable info (DL, pay stub from work, ect.), how does that determine if he is affiliated with LE or that he is who he says he is? After all, the nickname on the boards does not have his real info (shouldn't have it anyway).
It sucks on both sides when it comes to NCNS, but it happens way more than it is reported. If you cannot afford costs of the hobby (traveling, gas money, make-up, lingerie, hotel room cost, ect.) and be able to also pay your regular monthly bills, without charging deposits to off set some of those costs, then get another supplemental real life job, see more dependable clients per week or get out of the provider business. Same goes for hobbyists, if they cannot afford the real total cost of being in the hobby, they need to get out.
Personally, I have had way more than my share of flakey provides who NCNS, and some of those providers have turned it around and made it appear it was my fault she NCNSed me! But, guess what, I am still here, most of them are not. I see providers every week because I can afford it.
As I have said before, no one is going to change a provider's mind about how she does her screening or charging of deposits, but you have to realize you are going to have drawbacks and different opinions on it, nothing wrong with it until the opinions turn to arguments and insults start rearing their ugly heads.