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But the other scenario you offer is WAY unlikely. What kind of an asshole gets on Eccie to look for girls, then decides to take up the mantle of modesty and propriety to report her? I'm not buying it. Originally Posted by 3daygetaway

Sadly, there are plenty of assholes who do just that.

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Back in the day, privacy and discretion were held in the highest regard in the hobby. Sure, there were always those idiots who didn't value such. But on the whole, it was the unspoken/unwritten hobby rule; keep your fuckin' mouth shut. Nowadays, we have folks on both sides of the spectrum talking too damn much, outing him or outing her, discussing business they shouldn't, revealing rw info, etc.

So in answer to why don't many providers post face pics of themselves? Well, that's pretty obvious, isn't it? Under the right circumstances (or wrong ones), the end result could lead to lives literally being turned upside down, households ruined, kids compromised, and life as they once knew it evaporated. I think sometimes people lose sight of the fact of just how fucked up, potentially dangerous, and downright sketchy this thing we call the hobby can potentially be for any one of us.

Sure, the hobby is fun. But in that same breath, it can also wreak some serious havoc on someone if they lose sight of this rather unique playground and all its characters.

I think ms. V post was about most if us wanting discretion and anonimity. Esp. from those outside this world.
You use that rule as an " if only it was allowed" excuse, when in reality. Even if the rule wasnt there 90% of us still wouldnt show our faces Originally Posted by knotty man

My Amazon account doesn't even have a place for a profile pic; do you know why? Because no one cares about the shopper; I get on Amazon to shop, and I use Amazon over other sites because there are USUALLY good pictures, thorough specifications, and reviews. But all that transaction requires is my address and my money...just like this one.

I get that most men want the discretion. The privacy issue is not lost on me. I just don't think the privacy for providers argument makes good sense.

Sadly, there are plenty of assholes who do just that.

z Originally Posted by ztonk

So, why don't we have better screening for Eccie members? Does p411 vet its men better? Do women show their faces there?

Of course, that's the worst case scenario. And if we have teachers, they know they have an ethical clause in their contracts and/or license. No problem, they SHOULD hide their faces.

But the other scenario you offer is WAY unlikely. What kind of an asshole gets on Eccie to look for girls, then decides to take up the mantle of modesty and propriety to report her? I'm not buying it. Originally Posted by 3daygetaway

If you believe outings to be a rare anomaly or "WAY unlikely" as you put it, then perhaps you can ask ztonk for permission and kindly post a real photo of your face here sir. Since you're not "buying it" that this happens, it shouldn't be a problem for you to do so right? What have you to lose???

I for one am practically quivering in anticipation!!! (rubs fingertips together)

It's a very active reality for providers, all kinds.

If you believe outings to be a rare anomaly or "WAY unlikely" as you put it, then perhaps you can ask ztonk for permission and kindly post a real photo of your face here sir. Since you're not "buying it" that this happens, it shouldn't be a problem for you to do so right? What have you to lose???

I for one am practically quivering in anticipation!!! (rubs fingertips together) Originally Posted by Miss Valentina

Yeah; I wouldn't have a problem with it, but I get your point.

If outing is a bigger deal than I've thought, forgive my ignorance and disbelief. I'm sorry that's happened to some of you.

But the other scenario you offer is WAY unlikely. What kind of an asshole gets on Eccie to look for girls, then decides to take up the mantle of modesty and propriety to report her? I'm not buying it. Originally Posted by 3daygetaway

Actually this happens A LOT.. There is one guy who's full time hobby on here is doing just that

You should hire Deadpool to threaten him into submission. Or a PI to investigate and get some dirt on him. Expose him. Two can play the extortion game, right?

Because one of these days their future husband might run for president and they might appear on the cover of The New York Post

e front page of The New York Post

My Amazon account doesn't even have a place for a profile pic; .......and I use Amazon over other sites because there are USUALLY good pictures, thorough specifications, and reviews. Originally Posted by 3daygetaway

Well, and there IS that whole, "if you weren't satisfied with the product, you get your money back"... lol

Well, and there IS that whole, "if you weren't satisfied with the product, you get your money back"... lol Originally Posted by nuglet

Ha!! True. I can't recall a discussion guided primarily by our providers answering the question "how would you prefer an unsatisfying experience to be resolved?" Maybe someone will start that thread.

It's been years since I used a site like Backpage to schedule a date with a provider. One of the main reasons I was glad to find sites like Eccie and P411 is because most of the women here are legitimate and reliable. When I used sites like Backpage, there were so many fake pictures, bait and switches and general bullshit, that I was thrilled to leave it behind. Backpage is like a junior high version of escort sites.

Back in the day, privacy and discretion were held in the highest regard in the hobby. Sure, there were always those idiots who didn't value such. But on the whole, it was the unspoken/unwritten hobby rule; keep your fuckin' mouth shut. Nowadays, we have folks on both sides of the spectrum talking too damn much, outing him or outing her, discussing business they shouldn't, revealing rw info, etc.

So in answer to why don't many providers post face pics of themselves? Well, that's pretty obvious, isn't it? Under the right circumstances (or wrong ones), the end result could lead to lives literally being turned upside down, households ruined, kids compromised, and life as they once knew it evaporated. I think sometimes people lose sight of the fact of just how fucked up, potentially dangerous, and downright sketchy this thing we call the hobby can potentially be for any one of us.

Sure, the hobby is fun. But in that same breath, it can also wreak some serious havoc on someone if they lose sight of this rather unique playground and all its characters. Originally Posted by TxHarleyGuy

You hit the nail right on the head! Thank you for "getting it".

Legitimate privacy corncerns aside (haven't you heard of reverse image search or facial recognition technology?), I'd much rather watch a quality film with fantastic reviews in a nice theater than rent a Redbox DVD because it has an exciting dustjacket.