Blacklisted?????

"Hey, Sara, why did you disable your account?"

"Hmmmmm....I have nooooooooo fucking clue!!!" Originally Posted by MissSaraXXX

I apologize but I don't feel that my simple question warranted the response from husker_do nor will I allow anyone to talk down to me for something I have nothing to do with. It's rather frustrating. You will NEVER find me attacking anyone on or off these boards and I expect the same respect.

Carry on. Stay hydrated today and GOOOOO BIIIIG GO REEEEEEED! GO BIG RED!

So do you blacklist or block them when the call you when you're "closed"? I would think maybe just turning off your phone when you're not working could be more helpful than using an actual blacklist for that? I typically only blacklist when something noteworthy happens during an appointment or something weird I discover during screening. Originally Posted by DesireMeDestiny

I won't put them on any site or blacklist them for other girls lol sorry don't want to give that impression. But I explicitly state on my website to not call during those hours, and if they do it shows a clear lack of respect. If they can't even follow that rule then what else will they try and pull during the session?

It's only ever happened twice though and that's when someone kept calling me about every 20 minutes from 2 to 4 am. For other reasons, I cannot turn my phone off so it disturbs my sleep.

I advertise on a few different sites. That's why I ask people from eccie especially, to include their handle upon initial contact. "Hey it's love.tiffany (insert your handle here). Are you available around 3pm today? Let me know. Thanks!"

If I'm busy at the time I'm contacted I'll usually get back to people when I'm available to use my phone freely again. If it has been an extended period of time I may not bother responding (only if you haven't made it clear you're a member, since I also advertise on bp). Say you contacted me at 10PM & I can't call you back until 1AM, 9 times out of 10 that wasn't the time you were looking for to set an appointment anyway. & people may have personal lives they don't want tampered with at a later time.

If I'm not advertised the day of, I'm taking the day off. & I usually avoid my phone completely for work related purposes.

Now I absolutely won't respond to lewd language if that's the first thing I'm text. If I've been texting back & forth with a potential client & they introduce explicit content into the conversation I reply with "Sorry I can't help you." & that's the last thing you'll hear from me.

As far as blacklisting a gentleman...

• If you blatantly disrespect me, I'll make it clear I have no interest in meeting in the future. & there's no reason to contact me further.
• If you're a time waster, I'll take note & more than likely you won't be hearing from me.
• If there's any threat to my safety, that's a no brainer.

People may not want to say this one. But you're asking -
• If your online persona is clearly read as an asshole, yeah sorry... probably not happening! Just like you men lurk & monitor women you'd like to potentially meet. I know I personally do the same & I know what kind of tea I like in my cup!

But I wouldn't call that blacklisted. How about indefinitely uninterested?

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If they call in the middle if the night i just let them politely know my hours in which its okay to contact ... if they dont respect that after being told personally i block their number so i wont recieve their msgs anymore. I cant remember the last time i actually blacklisted someone. You have to be a total dick to earn that honor.
On the flip side ive seen guys i known for years blacklisted for some of the most trivial things. SOME people are a little too blacklist happy lol . So i usually take most of the listings with a grain of salt.
I wish the blacklist label were saved for Rape/Robbery/LEO/Habitual NCNS and the such... but sometimes i see listings like simply just for being annoying or asking rates/services.. or good guys that cancel very very seldomly but somestime RL happens n they get blacklisted.. little stuff..

If they call in the middle if the night i just let them politely know my hours in which its okay to contact ... if they dont respect that after being told personally i block their number so i wont recieve their msgs anymore. I cant remember the last time i actually blacklisted someone. You have to be a total dick to earn that honor.
On the flip side ive seen guys i known for years blacklisted for some of the most trivial things. SOME people are a little too blacklist happy lol . So i usually take most of the listings with a grain of salt.
I wish the blacklist label were saved for Rape/Robbery/LEO/Habitual NCNS and the such... but sometimes i see listings like simply just for being annoying or asking rates/services.. or good guys that cancel very very seldomly but somestime RL happens n they get blacklisted.. little stuff.. Originally Posted by Kay2Day

Great attitude Kay !!! Too bad all providers don't do this.

Not sure what I said that pissed Miss Sara off so much. The girl in my situation happened to be a friend of hers, I guess. And therefore she couldn't say ... thats what u get for scheduling a bp wannabe.

Ironic on the Donovan thing. If you look at the history, I gave Donovan grief for reporting a NCNS too early and then not correcting it after it was fixed. I defended the girl in question and it was clear from my posts that I had seen her before multiple times and she had my respect. And, yeah, it was the very same girl who just did the exact same thing to me. Life has a way of biting you in the ass when ur least expecting it !!!

There are plenty of other fish in the sea. I won't contact that provider again. Problem solved.

That's another problem, the blacklist has gotten so full of pure bullshit that you never know what to believe and what not. Girl gets mad at her sugar daddy and pow on the black list. Girl dates trick they break up, there you go another on the black list. Guy don't show up blacklist without even giving him a chance to say why.
I've always thought it was for serious or repeat offenders not revenge.

Also if i see one of the gents I know on the blacklist for stupid crap I go and write another to tell how great he is and i mention the other black list when I do it.

Lol, maybe my word choice was too strong. I should say I ignore them. I definitely agree the blacklist should only be for serious infractions. My bad on word choice.

Edit: I have actually only added one person to the black list because of a very serious issue.

My ncns prob has been mostly BP ans Sipsap girls. My VP issues have been setting up first dates with new (to me) providers. Would any lady be kind enough to PM me if they have seen me on a blacklist site? I wouldnt know where to look.

I had this issue twice this summer with VP providers. Initial contact goes well but once I try to confirm the date dead silence. Not even the courtesy of a "sorry, can't meet". I mentioned this problem to the last lady I visited and she said she had heard the same complaint from other several hobbyists, including those with dozens of reviews and stellar reputations. So it's nothing personal I guess, just ladies who aren't as professional as they should be, even those who come on here and complain about it when they get the same treatment from guys.

I've been watching this thread for a few days now, and I'm calling BULLSHIT! People, this is the hobby we've chosen! There are going to be bad, good and great providers, and bad, good and great clients. "Professionalism" is an INDIVIDUAL trait; just because your on ECCIE,, or BP or Sipsap for that matter is NO indication of having or lacking it. No one on his has a diploma stating "I'm a graduate of 'Patrice's School of Professional Providers" versus 'Ernie's Escuela of Escort' or the client equivalent. It's gonna happen; NCNS, on both sides. Sometimes it's real life issues; sometimes the person is just a flake (as the VP who has been mentioned; she's been famous for doing that for YEARS, to both clients AND co-workers).

Bottom line...... get off your high horses. Yup, there are Blacklists on both sides of the fence. Use your brain when looking at them to read though the bullshit; and then above all, TRUST YOUR GUT. Now get back out there and have fun and be safe. DISMISSED!

NewYorkBoy

No one on his has a diploma stating "I'm a graduate of 'Patrice's School of Professional Providers" versus 'Ernie's Escuela of Escort' or the client equivalent. It's gonna happen; NCNS, on both sides. Sometimes it's real life issues; sometimes the person is just a flake (as the VP who has been mentioned; she's been famous for doing that for YEARS, to both clients AND co-workers). Originally Posted by newyorkboy

I've been lurking and watching as well. I don't contribute very much, but I know what it is like to be blacklisted for trivial reasons. It hurts.......but that which doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I got a new hobby phone. I contacted P411 and changed my account info.....they were quite helpful. I'm still getting laid whenever I want. And for the record, I've never done anything, nor would I ever do anything to harm a provider.

There ARE textbooks on escorting. Some of them I've read. Here's one of them:



They are interesting in that they help you understand the reasons a lot of professional providers do the things they do. There are a lot of very professional ladies here who provide excellent service for an honest day's wage. Those of you who have seen our true professionals like Lady Y, or Kay2Day, or many others here, are nodding your heads in understanding. And there are some ladies who should sit down and read the book.

But everyone needs to understand: Sometimes shit happens, and life intrudes. And misunderstandings can and will happen. I had been avoiding a provider here for years because of an early NCNS misunderstanding. I finally had a chance to meet her and she was wonderful. Yes.....I'm an idiot.

So, everyone needs to forgive and forget when honest mistakes are made. Do some homework. Learn what it is like to walk a mile in someone else's moccasins.

Checking out again. Be excellent to one another.

Well said.

NYB

I've been lurking and watching as well. I don't contribute very much, but I know what it is like to be blacklisted for trivial reasons. It hurts.......but that which doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I got a new hobby phone. I contacted P411 and changed my account info.....they were quite helpful. I'm still getting laid whenever I want. And for the record, I've never done anything, nor would I ever do anything to harm a provider.

There ARE textbooks on escorting. Some of them I've read. Here's one of them:



They are interesting in that they help you understand the reasons a lot of professional providers do the things they do. There are a lot of very professional ladies here who provide excellent service for an honest day's wage. Those of you who have seen our true professionals like Lady Y, or Kay2Day, or many others here, are nodding your heads in understanding. And there are some ladies who should sit down and read the book.

But everyone needs to understand: Sometimes shit happens, and life intrudes. And misunderstandings can and will happen. I had been avoiding a provider here for years because of an early NCNS misunderstanding. I finally had a chance to meet her and she was wonderful. Yes.....I'm an idiot.

So, everyone needs to forgive and forget when honest mistakes are made. Do some homework. Learn what it is like to walk a mile in someone else's moccasins.

Checking out again. Be excellent to one another. Originally Posted by hgritstoo

There are a lot of very professional ladies here who provide excellent service for an honest day's wage. Those of you who have seen our true professionals like Lady Y, or Kay2Day, or many others here, are nodding your heads in understanding.. Originally Posted by hgritstoo

Yeah thats right Im professional... at being AWESOME LoL.
Ty for the love mr grits ive been wondering where youve been. Glad to see you are doing well sir XoxoX

Yeah thats right Im professional... at being AWESOME LoL. Originally Posted by Kay2Day

Yes, that and being clever and a tease also!

Yes, that and being clever and a tease also!

Originally Posted by scorpio31

You know you like it ... But if u like that just wait until i please you lol