Lonely Providers and Clients During the Holidays

I feel this belongs in Coed versus Sandbox so if a Mod disagrees please feel free to move it. My logic is it's a result of the hobby so it belongs here.

Because of our the nature of many of our lives, many in this hobby are lonely people and it's never more pronounced than during the holidays. While I'm very blessed and with family but many ladies I know from here are alone and it breaks my heart to know some of you are sitting alone (if it's by choice fine) and I want to say there are people out there that care about you, are thinking about you, and praying for you.

I know ladies on here whose families have banished them for choices they've made and they are some of the sweetest people I've ever met. They cannot see their children or even talk to their parents because the family solely judges them on the choices they've made in life or specifically for their profession.

I want the ladies to know they are more than just a piece of ass. Some of you console me, lift me up with a random email, or keep me going at home because you give me what I'm missing there.

Think this is too sappy? I don't care a bit - I care about people, girls and guys, who are alone and just want to say it happens to most at some point in our lives and it gets better eventually.

A very sweet lady here tried to get a Thanksgiving dinner going for people on here who are alone. While it didn't work out - she's a Saint in my eyes. Just because people hobby, we all have our own stories and by no means makes anyone a bad person.

For anyone that's seen or chatted with me - thank you. I appreciate you more than words can express. People always say I'm a nice guy - it's because I very, very genuinely care about these ladies as people, not just an object.

If you're alone tonight or tomorrow - you're not the only one. Many people are with family and miserably alone in their hearts. At least if you're physically alone you have a chance to meet someone, if you're with someone and alone it's a true prison of unhappiness.

Maybe I've spent too much time on here the last 7 months but tonight I couldn't stop thinking of those that were alone and possibly depressed. One of my ATFs is going through some depression right now and I just had to throw it out there to everyone that you're not alone and there are people that care.

Merry Christmas everyone, and if you need someone to talk to PM me or email me at EasyLover214@gmail.com.
Originally Posted by EasyLover214

THANK YOU

This is so reflective of your genuinely kind personality! It just goes to show that being kind does not mean you are weak. Thank you for posting this EL214.

Last year I was alone due to the weather and being stuck downtown at my old incall. It was a beautiful view but very lonely. I did a good job convincing myself that I was content to be alone that day but in truth it was very difficult. The only family I have are my kids and it was so hard being away from them. I feel so blessed to have them all with me this year!! I read this last night but wanted to take the time to respond since I feel very much for what your lady friend is experienceing.

Sorry to get personal for a minute but i feel this is appropriate: I lost my mother to suicide brought on by severe depression years ago. She was so lost in her own despair that she didn't consider the short term or long term consequences of that split second decision to pull the trigger. She didn't comprehend that I, her daughter, was the only one in the house to call 911 or try and stop the bleeding (perhaps one of the reasons I went into nursing, now thinking back). I was just a teenager and it completely changed my life, how I look at life and what I chose to do with the time I'm blessed to be living my life. I won't say my life is better because of what she did but I would not change what happened if given the chance. Everything happens for a reason and i believe sorrow can be the most fruitful of all emotions under the right direction.

People need to realize that depression is a chemical imbalance just like diabetes or any number of other "medical" diseases that require routine medication and treatment. Anti-depressants are the boost to get out of the inescapable rut when depression takes over perspective. Therapy is the equivalent of patient teaching just on a more detailed level.

There was very little awareness about depression twenty years ago. Thank God there is more now but we still have a long way to go in terms of acceptance, either for ourselves or others. The most important thing to remember is that you never know what the future holds. Taking matters into your own hands is one of the biggest mistakes a depressed person can make. Thoughts and feelings need to be acknowledged and discussed honestly with a trained professional. Depression is very serious and can get away from us at any given moment - like uncontrolled diabetes or cadiovascular disease.

I share this in hopes that anyone who has a case of "the blues" this holiday (or any day) might feel comforted to know they are not weak, or a mess, or incapable of functioning in the world, or a waste of space - they are NOT! To the contrary, they are a normal, falliable person just like anyone else who matters very much to those around them (obviously, or you would not have been inspired to even post this). I hope they understand that depression is chemical in nature and needs to be treated just like any other chemical imbalance - medically and therapeutically.

My mother missed out on many many special moments over the past two decades and she is dearly missed on days like today. Everything happens for a reason and I have been blessed with being able to pass along the lessons I learned to others in crisis. I hope your friend finds beauty and purpose in the small things today. And tomorrow I hope she feels confident enough to get the help she deserves to have when dealing with feelings as insurmountable as those brought on by depression. If she doesn't end up reading this for some reason, please give her my number and tell her she is welcome to call me just to talk or to get some ideas on where to go for help.

Thank you again for being so kind and caring of others, EL. It is really a special and rare thing.

Merry Christmas! Originally Posted by thathottnurse

THN........Thank you for sharing your story, you are a Angel in so many ways and again I personally thank you for taking the time to share this.

I was alone agian today i have very little family left and they all live so far away was i sad yes but such is life i will go on

Nice thread. I have never been alone on any Holiday. It would be sad. Yo Chung in college i ate a lot of tv dinners. I wonder what the meat really was made from. However i am here and alive. Stay hungry my friend

Such an awesome thread. Thank you so much for this. To THN, you have my number girl. call or text me anytime you want or need to chat. Actually, that goes out to anyone here that just feels a little down or lonely.

Awesome thread!

Thanks Jessica! I am very blessed this year! I would have definitely taken you up on it last year though. )) Hope everyone ended up having a very Merry Christmas!!

Thank you for such thoughtful words from everyone.

I love my kiddos, but they don't spend the holidays with me.

I ordered my traditional chinese food lunch/dinner and gave my dog a new toy.

Didn't get any calls or emails to work, so we waited for the new Doctor Who Christmas special to come on. Yes, it was sad. Didn't make the day much better. But, I went to bed early, dressed in my Christmas jammies, and today is a new day.

Thank you to those who realize depression is a disease. TTH was on the nose about comments people make about it.

I hope everyone made it out ok from yesterday. I got to spend Christmas Eve with some friends at least. Had some yummy food and good laughs.

2014 is almost here and I have a feeling it's gonna be the best year in a long time for everybody!

Tntangie I'm sorry that you didn't have your kids on Christmas. I didn't end up with any appointments either. I just spent the day watching Maury paternity tests hanging with my Kittles cat. With how hectic my life is I actually enjoyed the day off with my little furball.

2014 is almost here and I have a feeling it's gonna be the best year in a long time for everybody! Originally Posted by Jessica Jade

Your positive attitude is very sexy.

Your positive attitude is very sexy. Originally Posted by pfmtony

Thanks babydoll!

I personally hate the holidays... I have been alone for 3 years since my ex-wife cheated on me... I have asked several girls out only to be friend zoned or was told flat out no. I don't think I am a bad looking guy so not sure what the problem is except I just have horrible luck picking women. If not for some ladies in the industry I would be more miserable then I am. I want to thank everyone for their services. They do help and they are very much appreciated by many on here. I hope everyone stays safe during the holidays and gets what they want out of it.

I chose to stay to myself for Christmas ... for the sake of my sanity!

Happy Holidays!

Jessica jade is not only tops in physical beauty, her positive attitude and outlook on life makes her the most desirable and sexiest woman around. That to me is the essence of drop dead sexy. I'm not big on having sex with an empty suite
JJ wrote the book on sexy. I want her to autograph my copy as many times as there are pages in her book!!!