Would you do it ?

So what you’re saying is that marriage to a SW is roughly on par with prostate cancer survival rates? Originally Posted by JoeNegative

No, that's what you said. He quoted a relatively well known and verified statistic. Like most statistics, it's a bit misleading. Roughly 50% of marriages fail, not 50% of people who marry. That average includes the people marry and divorce multiple times.

And to answer the original question....yes

No, never

Never

Having looked around (also have been involved in teying to preserve marriages) at the ststus if relationships in this country, I would be curious why anybody would think one choice is worse than another? With probably more than 50 percent ending in divorce, the odds of people acting to preserve any marriage is getting slimmer and slimmer. With more and more simply cohabitating and having more open relationships (again, with most not working out), again, what are the odds of any relationship working out? Is there a difference between a lady who has had many partners (simply because of choice) and a lady having multiple partners to make ends meet? How about all the horn dogs here with multiple encounters while being married? My point is that keeping a marriage together is much more than how many partners one has or why one had many partners.
Seems the secret to me is some simple choices. First, honesty and trust. Very few are very honest so trust is a issue. That goes both ways. If you're dishonest with your partner, it's almost impossable to trust them because of your own dishonesty. Secondly, open and honest communication with a loving and forgiving attitude towards each other, is critical in all relationships. I've seen too many "normal relationships" that fall appart because one or both parties fail in these two simple points. Most problems are not because we can't, but rather because we won't!
Maybe the reason why we are so skeptical of two from this community developing a relationship that can work is because we are really unable or unwilling to do the things that are needed, to not need to be here? But, that in itself is the choice we make. My point is, if two want it to work out and are commited to make it work, it can work! Simple principle of life is, your yesterday doesn't have to be your tomorrow! But enough of the seriousness. Let the two do what they want! That's just what we all do.
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Now, maybe some pretty ladies will send me some saucy pictures or a free session? That's what I want!

Right now there are several topics on the subject of this hobby and if it’s about the money or emotion, my question is, would any of you hobbyist or providers marry someone that you are currently paying for sex or getting paid to have sexy with, and do you realistically think it would work after the wallet was closed? Originally Posted by Gucci

It's a fantasy but No! 🍆✊💦

How would you know if she actually quit ? Most providers have very private lives, attend pta meetings, hang out with the sister and mom and no one is the wiser. How would you know after marrying a provider that she really did quit ? If you leave for work at 7 and return at 6, she can still be working and you’ll be thinking you have her on lock not knowing some of your eccie buddies are putting it to your wife three times a month.

I have dated providers, 1 hour at a time.

How would you know if she actually quit ? Most providers have very private lives, attend pta meetings, hang out with the sister and mom and no one is the wiser. How would you know after marrying a provider that she really did quit ? If you leave for work at 7 and return at 6, she can still be working and you’ll be thinking you have her on lock not knowing some of your eccie buddies is putting it to your wife three times a month. Originally Posted by Gucci

Of course the same suspicion can be cast back at you--is the guy really staying late at work, plaing poker, at the ballgame, etc.?

If there is that much suspicion then it was a bad marriage choice regardless of the occupation. And if you don't know each other well enough to know whether she/he is, then the marriage has other problems.

She will often not be up for his romantic desires, or fall into getting through it like it's another session with a john. Originally Posted by ICU 812

That would suck. Imagine playing the role of boyfriend without getting any pussy while other guys are fucking the shit out of her porno-style. What a nightmare.

How would you know if she actually quit ? Most providers have very private lives, attend pta meetings, hang out with the sister and mom and no one is the wiser. How would you know after marrying a provider that she really did quit ? If you leave for work at 7 and return at 6, she can still be working and you’ll be thinking you have her on lock not knowing some of your eccie buddies are putting it to your wife three times a month. Originally Posted by Gucci

You can't. You just have to take her word for it.. Much like wives do with their hubbies on the road a lot, having to trust they are not cheating on them..

Seriously, relationships are difficult and they take both people putting effort in. When choosing a person to spend the rest of your life with her past activities help indicate what type of person she is today. Did she have have 5 guys a day whether paid or not, tells me she tends to be less serious about commitment and means less trustworthy. If your not committed then she is apt to be deceitful.

If your son came home with great news! I am marrying a pretty lady and you knew she was a provider, would you congratulate him or warn him? Most likely warn him. Why because we know providers are not known for their trust and morals.

Without trust a relationship is doomed.

Turn the tables around, what makes us so worthy of marriage, we pay for sex! Hobbyists are not known for their honor nor trust either. A hobbyist and provider marrying is filled with mistrust, a very very large barrier to marrital euphoria. Because of their recent past neither can be trusted all that much.

I also would not marry a woman that has served time for manslaughter or other felonies. Trust is difficult in these situations depending on circumstances. Also would not marry a woman that has been divorced multiple times, makes me wonder who she really is today. Trust factor again, why is this, her fifth marriage, going to work when the others did not? Is she willing to work at this relationship or when she gets tired just quit and file for divorce?

Someone said it, trust is vital in a marriage and providers cannot be trusted as hobbyists cannot either.

How is love and faith connected?

before I discovered that she was a provider.... Actually googled her number and a review here popped up. then I dug a little further, it was not pretty. I asked her about it nicely and she went on radio silence. So for me, no it would never work

That would suck. Imagine playing the role of boyfriend without getting any pussy while other guys are fucking the shit out of her porno-style. What a nightmare. Originally Posted by yitzchak

Yeah, and a guy could only blame himself because he knew what he was getting into. A leopard can never change its spots !