No, sweetie-- it was only the OP...
Employing the ol' "when lacking a good defense, go on offense..."
I hope this will be a lesson to all. Why is venom being slammed so hard? Because of the utter lack of civility from so many hobbyists on these boards. (Not all...so if you can stand proudly behind your conduct, then don't get all defensive, please. And thanks to those who are able to consistently be gentlemen here rather than claiming they are so different in person.)
One need not use the traditional slurs to be disrespectful to the providers. Disrespect can be ever so subtle yet equally venomous. All too many fail to even attempt subtelty. The result has been a devolution from civility to a mob mentality. The norms of conduct have sunk perilously low, such as to serve the lowest commom denominator of society. The patient has cancer and it is spreading.
Many providers have stopped kidding themselves that we are a valued part of this community. Prove us wrong. Police your own.
Thanks,
Casey
Originally Posted by CaseyTaylor
I do agree the OP was uncouth, and needed a wake up call, but I am a little concerned that most of the hobbyists are getting painted with one giant swath of the same brush here.
While we had some flame wars in weeks past, there were reasons for a lot of that. And truth about some things came to light. But "police your own"? I think that is going on quite well. Most of the men who replied to this thread agreed that Venom was out of line.
I would like to see proof that women are not valued in participating in RECENT threads on this site. One thread started WEEKS ago by Sophia thanking providers for giving references is STILL alive and well. It has stayed on the front page longer than any thread in recent history.
I looked and there was a thread exposing the lack of TCB for a provider. That is needed so we don't WASTE our hard earned money on someone with no business sense. There was a little back and forth about some provider's age in one thread. But if providers would be truthful about their age then that wouldn't have occured. This board exists for the free exchange of useful information. And hobbyists need it to know where to spend their money. Providers need it to advertise.
It SEEMS like when a hobbyist comes out and is HONEST and TRUTHFULL about something that affects a provider or group of providers, the shit starts flying around here. Rather than cackling like a bunch of hens, change your ways. If your pics are not accurate REPLACE them. (edited, I did say 'FIX' them, but that could translate to photoshop) If your TCB sucks, get better! If you don't provide BBBJ, but you advertise it, don't get mad when the review slams you for it. If business is slow, and you are charging above market, ch.... never mind that won't go over well.
In this thread we have providers telling hobbyists how to act, but who tells providers how to act? LORD knows WE don't or we get labeled as those who harrass etc... The truth is no one polices providers, it can't be done. Only Benjamin Franklin has any effect on the who, what, when, and how.
This is no attack on anyone in particular. But if hobbyists are being told how to behave by providers, then walk a mile in our shoes, and let us tell you a thing or two.
AND the OP had appologized. This thread has become a dogpile on a hobbyist and hobbyists in general.