correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds like you would like someone to settle down with. Especially if you say that you want the father to be a participant. If it were me I would want the child to grow up in a household with a mother and a father that has a strong relationship. Being a single parent is no joke for the parent or the child. Originally Posted by bustitbigIt is what my heart seeks and my mind curious enough to talk about it
She's come to the right place. Originally Posted by SisterTwisterPut another way, this thread could be titled as I've done on my post.
Put another way, this thread could be titled as I've done on my post.I would make sure it happened at the right timing of my life when Im ready to ensure I wouldnt have any issues for anything to ever happen or anybody to interfere whatsoever. It doesnt hurt to talk about this in the meantime.
OP...your feelings on the topic were genuine when you posted I am sure. However, you say you won't bring in the legal system but I would daresay the legal system could interject itself into this matter somewhere along the way. That would depend on your status as a parent, a provider, an adult role model for your child, etc.
Social workers, CPS, and teachers who become attentively concerned could become part of you and the child's life. And it boils down to the illusion of what they think is a good environment for the child. If you are independently wealthy, you could pull it off. If not, it could be tough. Most gals I have run into on the board are not independently wealthy. Originally Posted by Luv2Munch
As you know, the child must be raised for eighteen years to ensure he/she develops into a productive member of society. Originally Posted by HUMP!Of course
Legal issues? Uhm, no. None of that. I prefer to not be bound by any legal issues at all. I dont even see why that would be put into the equation. Originally Posted by Misti RyderWow. If u don't think there are potential legal issues involved in this u r very naive (to put it nicely). What if the father decides that he want custody at some point? Visitation? What if.....never mind, good luck
You are looking in the wrong place. Most men here are in relationships, I doubt they want to complicate it by having kids with someone else. The single ones are just here for fun, I'm sure some men genuinely care about providers but I doubt it's to the point of wanting a kid with any of us. You risk just getting some dishonest guys looking for bareback, that won't tell you they had a vasectomy. Maybe try a dating website. A household with the two parents present is the best thing in the world. It's very hard when the parents live apart, kids start asking questions at some point. I'm just saying. Originally Posted by anita