Brookie,
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The first rule of dom/sub play is SAFETY. Safety safety safety safety. I cant say it enough. You are a woman and human being and if you want to stop any activity, you should stop and tell your partner. If he or she cant handle what you are telling them, just get dressed and leave. No one deserves to be hurt in any manner, physically or mentally. Always play safe and know your partner, which I know in the hobby is difficult. If you are seeing someone the first time, no rough play period. Get to know them first and feel comfortable.
I like kind of rough sex, face fucking, nipple pinching, ass slapping, hair pulling, its all good. But there are boundaries and common sense should prevail. Again SAFETY SAFETY SAFETY. ...
Originally Posted by durango95
+10 to the googleth google power!!!!
i read an article a long time ago written by a sub [dont have the reference] and something struck me hard - it has lasted all this time. i've discussed it w/ several doms & subs and they have argued that this is not the way it works. maybe, but i'll go with this principle, in my B/D lite encounters and in life in general.
THE SUB HAS THE CONTROL!!!!
THE SUB GIVES CONTROL TO THE DOM!!
IT IS NOT THE DOM'S CONTROL. IT IS THE SUB'S CONTROL.
and i think that acting in a safe manner, as durango says, is part if not all of that.
so, [and this is not just for Brookie]...
* recognize you have control over your body, mind, and soul.
* if you choose to let someone have it for a while or for a long time, make sure they undertand how they can use that control. this is where pushing the boundaries comes in.
* and remember to take it back when you've have too much or the activities are over.
again, peace be with you brookie and everyone.