Submissive or submissive leaning men...

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kinky,

One doesn't have to be kinky to be dominant!



I grew up around dominant successful women; my daughters and granddaughters all all successful women in control of their own lives and the management of businesses.

However, I have never let a woman be a bitch with me.

Do we understand, and appreciate, the difference.

Originally Posted by JRLawrence

I'm having trouble understanding, and appreciating, the difference. While I agree kink and dominance are not necessarily interchangeable terms, I'm specifically referring to sex and asking about people who play with kinky or dominant women. Women business owners is not the topic at hand. Can you elaborate? What is a "bitch" to you? Please do tell...

For a guy who likes to be in control of most situations, it can be a huge turnout to give up that control to a young lady. Originally Posted by KevinMDOK

Absolutely! This is a really common feeling and makes a lot of sense.

I like anytime a woman does something considered out of the ordinary for most women. At first it was watching lesbians in pornos, then for the first time I saw a woman peg a man with a strap-on. I didn't know they existed.

Then it occurred to me that I like women that go outside the norm.
Like, for the most part women don't like be violent and hitting, etc.
So when a woman spanks me and makes me take it, it is hot.

ZoeyBelle, if you know a gal having a bachelorette party, bring the guy and lots of towels. The girls when they get tanked will gladly stand over the guy and pee lots and lots of pee for hours all over his face and into his mouth. Believe me, intoxicated gals produce delicious pee and gallons of it

I like anytime a woman does something considered out of the ordinary for most women. At first it was watching lesbians in pornos, then for the first time I saw a woman peg a man with a strap-on. I didn't know they existed.

Then it occurred to me that I like women that go outside the norm.
Like, for the most part women don't like be violent and hitting, etc.
So when a woman spanks me and makes me take it, it is hot. Originally Posted by neighbordude

You have excellent taste

It's about letting go for me. For just a little while I don't have to take care of everything. Or at least seem like I have everything handled. And then I can be vulnerable.

As many have stated, I enjoy having a woman take control and me not being in control all the time. From a social/racial view, I'm a tall (6'5) black male. I tire of the constant "threatening black male" narrative that I have to deal with. Even worse are the times that I have to be defiant & and stand up for myself because of the other stereotype of less intelligence. So to have a session where I get to relax & let the woman be in control & order me (in a non-racial way, I don't do any raceplay) is very enjoyable.


And then I get to add kink to it? That's a blast and a great time. Only problem is finding a good mixture of both. Dommes tend to only want to Dom and not allow sexual contact. The women who enjoy my kinks tend to be subs, and allow me to do things.
I want a Domme who will command me to do things to her that I enjoy and she can have me however she wants.

It's about letting go for me. For just a little while I don't have to take care of everything. Or at least seem like I have everything handled. And then I can be vulnerable. Originally Posted by TimToolMan

This is a common one I hear a lot. I can imagine it's nice to let someone else do the planning and take the reins sometimes..

As many have stated, I enjoy having a woman take control and me not being in control all the time. From a social/racial view, I'm a tall (6'5) black male. I tire of the constant "threatening black male" narrative that I have to deal with. Even worse are the times that I have to be defiant & and stand up for myself because of the other stereotype of less intelligence. So to have a session where I get to relax & let the woman be in control & order me (in a non-racial way, I don't do any raceplay) is very enjoyable.


And then I get to add kink to it? That's a blast and a great time. Only problem is finding a good mixture of both. Dommes tend to only want to Dom and not allow sexual contact. The women who enjoy my kinks tend to be subs, and allow me to do things.
I want a Domme who will command me to do things to her that I enjoy and she can have me however she wants. Originally Posted by papadee

I'm curious what your kinks are that tend to attract submissives. I think there are a lot more escorts that play with kink and domination these days than there used to be. It just depends where you're looking. I'm so glad you found an outlet to be yourself and find some healing from racist stereotypes. <3

I'm curious what your kinks are that tend to attract submissives. I think there are a lot more escorts that play with kink and domination these days than there used to be. It just depends where you're looking. I'm so glad you found an outlet to be yourself and find some healing from racist stereotypes. <3 Originally Posted by ZoeyBelle

Not sure. My favorites are cum facials/cumplay & anal play (giving & receiving). So when I look for CIM/COF & Greek providers, I guess they tend to be submissive.


I may not (and don't think I am) a true sub. I'm not really all into the LS, subspace, etc. I like the Domme outfits, attitude, & role play, so I want an aggressive partner. But sometimes I think I'm trying to control from the Bottom. I tell them what/how they should be Dominating me. I want them to command me to fuck their ass, and if I don't do it well, they'll flip the table & fuck mine, showing me how it's done. I want a woman who not just let me COF, not beg me to COF, but command me to and then grab me head & force me to lick her clean. Not being degrading, but I want to use them and have them use me, and they're in control. Finding that mix of the two has been the difficult thing.


There's no healing involved with the race thing. I brought it up because it's a part of my life. So is being tall. I have to deal with the tall man complex all the time. That too plays into the D/s desires. And it's not like I consciously want a D/s relationship because of those things. I wanted the D/s scene, and now I spend time wondering why, and my race, height, & demeanor are the 1st three factors that pop into my mind.

For me I’m not sure it’s really about dominance. I like for a woman to be rough with me. I like her to slap me and hit me but in a lot of cases the woman I am with are not actual dominate and it’s more of me trying to get them to be rough with me.

For example I will be the telling them to hit me to slap me to fuck my face harder. So I guess in my case it’s like I am providing the instruction to the women on how to treat me rough.

Thanks Starway, now I'm thinking of a 3way with two providers, one dom instructing the other to really use and abuse me "Ride that face bitch, use him to get you off!"

For me, dominance is a flashback to my youth. I was overly shy and an overly aggressive girlfriend made sure I was kink friendly. It is nice to be bound and just over stimulated. It makes me feel wanted to be teased and ridden/

For me, dominance is a flashback to my youth. I was overly shy and an overly aggressive girlfriend made sure I was kink friendly. It is nice to be bound and just over stimulated. It makes me feel wanted to be teased and ridden/ Originally Posted by tilted

That makes plenty of sense. This is a fairly common sentiment.

Not sure. My favorites are cum facials/cumplay & anal play (giving & receiving). So when I look for CIM/COF & Greek providers, I guess they tend to be submissive.


I may not (and don't think I am) a true sub. I'm not really all into the LS, subspace, etc. I like the Domme outfits, attitude, & role play, so I want an aggressive partner. But sometimes I think I'm trying to control from the Bottom. I tell them what/how they should be Dominating me. I want them to command me to fuck their ass, and if I don't do it well, they'll flip the table & fuck mine, showing me how it's done. I want a woman who not just let me COF, not beg me to COF, but command me to and then grab me head & force me to lick her clean. Not being degrading, but I want to use them and have them use me, and they're in control. Finding that mix of the two has been the difficult thing.


There's no healing involved with the race thing. I brought it up because it's a part of my life. So is being tall. I have to deal with the tall man complex all the time. That too plays into the D/s desires. And it's not like I consciously want a D/s relationship because of those things. I wanted the D/s scene, and now I spend time wondering why, and my race, height, & demeanor are the 1st three factors that pop into my mind. Originally Posted by papadee

We all have our kinks and what we like. Cim and cof is just super hot. I too always look for providers who allow this. I dont look for dominant providers fir this, I just look for women who are as slutty and kinky as I am