Cathrine - Vi - Valerie... I got outted :( now what do I do?

Pillikari's Avatar
Did the hobbyist tell your parents that he was paying their daughter for bareback?

My mom and dad would've handed his ass back to him. Mine too. Originally Posted by Adrienne Baptiste
What if this hobbyist is her uncle ? Maybe he was searching for a Catholic girl and he ran across her profile.
mtabsw's Avatar
So sorry that this happened to you. Nothing is lower, but I'm sure you will survive and thrive.

Good luck.
Absolutely sucks and the penis wrinkle should be forever banned.

I can understand the family reactions and some being ok with who you are and what you choose to do in your life and others being disappointed or blaming themselves...but how in the world is your CO in the NG alright with this? That one I am unable to wrap any reasoning around.

Like others have shared (sound solid advice) I would ask the mods to remove any and all that they can, go UTR and come back as a completely different screen name. Limit what is out there so that you can maybe get a few years to decades of distance from it so that it has a less of a chance to bite you 15 to 20 years from now when your professional non hobby life offers you opportunities that this hobby life would destroy if known. Don't make it easy for them and surely don't make it easy for your future kids friends to google you and show your kids their mom from 10-15 years from now.

Stay away from your real name here!
Did the hobbyist tell your parents that he was paying their daughter for bareback?

My mom and dad would've handed his ass back to him. Mine too. Originally Posted by Adrienne Baptiste
What if this hobbyist is her uncle ? Maybe he was searching for a Catholic girl and he ran across her profile. Originally Posted by Pillikari

Well here is two classless posts. Feel better about your superior selves now?
Crzytxn's Avatar
Ma'am, sorry to hear some jackass did that to you. As others have said, go UTR for a while if you can.
TheEccie214's Avatar
Did the hobbyist tell your parents that he was paying their daughter for bareback?

My mom and dad would've handed his ass back to him. Mine too. Originally Posted by Adrienne Baptiste
How'd that come into the relevancy of the post? Did she edit before I saw it?

As for those saying to out him here, you need actual proof. I had an issue with a provider here that's the hub of off-line gossip - unless you have proof there's nothing you can do - hearing it from multiple people won't suffice. How you react is up to you but be patient, revenge served with a cold heart is much better if you decide to go that route. Doing anything now out of spite with a hot head would not be a good move, play chess, not go fish. Edit: Anyone saying I need to let it go can save their breath. A. It's different when it fucks up your life and B. I'm not going to discuss lines of morality on a hooker board.

I agree that you need to remove personal info ASAP, this thread will be forgotten quickly, make it that much harder for people to play connect the dots in your future.
Pillikari's Avatar
Well here is two classless posts. Feel better about your superior selves now? Originally Posted by beyondthere
Fucktard. She outed herself. Her fucking face is in a showcase of a hooker website. If she did not want her parents and the small to know. She might have blocked her face. Yah and so.. I feel sooo good. Pilli
Randall Creed's Avatar
How do you out somebody without outing yourself?

I mean, how would you know someone was on a 'whore board' (y'all's words) without being there yourself?

Total fag move, fwiw.

Why not tell his friends that he pays for it.
That sucks getting outed is in the top ten bad thing that can happen in the hobby.
I take it that the you know the hobbyist, hope you have proof get that to the mods if you do.
I like the idea of a fresh start Ask the mods what you can do you have been outed. I would think you would be able to get a past hobby life erased and start new if you like.
This hobbyist was able to get a lot of your info parents, home town, RW name, NG unit and commanders name and all their CI. If you stay at this be more discrete.
Also when you come back don't mention that you are in the military if the right info was given to your CO you maybe looking at trouble under article 120 of the UCMJ.
I hope this all works out for you.
Never met you but would love to sorry this happened to you.
Never met you but would love to sorry this happened to you.
Something doesn't add up about this, but I will keep my thoughts to myself.
Fucktard. She outed herself. Her fucking face is in a showcase of a hooker website. If she did not want her parents and the small to know. She might have blocked her face. Yah and so.. I feel sooo good. Pilli Originally Posted by Pillikari
Hmm, you don't seem to get it. That's alright. I can see when someone like you possesses the same dick length and IQ number that you are unable to comprehend your tasteless post. Thank you for confirming that number.
What if this hobbyist is her uncle ? Maybe he was searching for a Catholic girl and he ran across her profile. Originally Posted by Pillikari
Well, we are in the South.

I'm just not understanding why in the hell someone would post their own RW first name in the title of the threAD if they was supposedly was outed. *facepalm*
Assuming you are single(no kids) and have a modicum of $s or backers then just go under ground leaving no traces. You just vanish. Takes a little cash but, save up for however long, lay low, and scram. you can do it girl if you think it out. Good luck to you!