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I have serious doubts about the length of this marriage if things continue in this manner. She obviously thinks that he is not doing his fair share and resents it. Some of the things that hef is doing, such working on his bike and possibly some of the car work and projects are actually hobbies. Hobbies do not count as work. If the car bothered him so much, he should have just washed it. What if she said that yeah laundry is inside work, but they arre your clothes, so you wash them. It's the same argument that he made. I know that we are hearing only one side, but from the information that we have it does seem that the workload is heavier on the wife. Originally Posted by NordicJag

If she’s cooking and cleaning, he better wash it. If he knows what’s good for him. This isn’t a battle he’s going to win. It would be in his best interest to clean it. Besides, her driving around in a dirty car is a reflection on him. Car stuff should be handled by guys. Plus keeping her car clean for her will net him some rewards. It will be worth it

These newlyweds are going to have to figure this issue out amongst themselves, many more things gonna be coming at them. You can’t grow as a person if you don’t work through difficulties. The struggle for control has emerged, they either come together as a couple and work through it or start growing apart and so soon too.

He needs to make more money she doesn't respect him because of this and things will keep getting worse from here. Since she works ft and cooks and cleans etc. She will henpeck him to death and eventually lose respect and attraction from him and she will rarely fuck him. Resulting in him joining the hobby

I don't think there is any hope for them. If she is truly your friend, you should get her in contact with me so I can console her....over and over again.

Ha, she can deny him sex all she wants, there are lots of providers to fill the gap. He might even reach out to OP, to quote Rasfushia from the movie Norbit “How you doing”

Marriage is absolutely beautiful. But it takes two mature individuals to make it work. Marriage works best when two people love each other so much they no longer bicker about your job/their job; they are a unit. So a unit works seamlessly together for the benefit of one. When you are married you are one unit. That's how Marriage works. . It's no assigned duties, yes men are physically designed to be more apt to do certain duties, but the main thing is everyone does whatever it takes to make this thing go.

When I was married, I washed dishes, clothes etc. The only separation came when it was things she couldn't physically handle but I believe once you start talking about your job/my job. Your money/my money in a marriage it's over. Marriage is an equal partnership where everything is shared down to the money. If not it won't work long term Originally Posted by ScroogeMcduck

Now he’s giving marriage advice Lmfao

Thanks for all the feedback so far. I do not have time to read & reply to it now, but I will tomorrow.

My friend got married about 6 months ago. She works FT & her husband works FT. Both outside of the house & they do not have kids.
She cooks dinner every night & pretty much takes care of everything in the house (cleaning/laundry/shopping). Originally Posted by Brooke Wilde

WTF!! Do women like that still exist? Wait, is she in her 60's?
He should definitely be washing her Camry & giving her a neck/foot rub every other night!

He recently mentioned to her that her car is filthy & she needs to wash it & clean it out.
He argues that it's "her" car, while she argues she takes care of plenty of "his" stuff. Originally Posted by Brooke Wilde

She should stop washing his clothes, let them pile up then give him the same line.

... She should stop washing his clothes, let them pile up then give him the same line. Originally Posted by MarcellusWalluz

And stop feeding him.

Disclaimer, ECG made me post this after she handed me a coffee and reminded me that I'm working the grill this afternoon before the Roller Derby thing this evening.

http://www.familylife.com/weekend-to...xoCH5EQAvD_BwE

I think it's a good idea to take it to a shine pro, like the others were saying. If not, he could end up in a Pit-iful situation in his own Room.

Wash it together, her with only a tee shirt on top ensure she gets a bit wet, then a bit more wet, then after washing help her get out of her wet tee shirt.

Particularly if she and the weather are hot.

I think it's a good idea to take it to a shine pro, like the others were saying. If not, he could end up in a Pit-iful situation in his own Room. Originally Posted by bigwill832

Lol

If I was her I would take to a detail shop and let him see how much it cost
at the shine pro and have it done in the pit room for 200$ allday price.