A Scared Newbie

This is more of a coed discussion than a welcome forum thread. So, here we are in coed.

If you're really afraid, don't go see Alyssa. She just got back from a year long ban for outing member's personal information... Originally Posted by Wakeup

What did she ever do to you personally that she deserves this kind of hatred. Have you ever considered a truce so you can each go about your business without personal attacks.

There is no truce for potty mouth outing whores. There is only the wheel.

The OP already gave a whore too much information.

I know you can't offer me any guarantees, but I'm just plain afraid. The provider I have an appointment with is extensively reviewed on ECCIE. Her reviews go back years and part of my attraction were many references to safe play. I was not opposed to her verification process which included my sending my business card from my personal email account. I was involved in this hobby 20 plus years ago in the ASPD days, but it appears to be a brave new world out there. Suggestions? Originally Posted by ybar1001

OK, here we go.

First of all, I would choose a provider that went back to ASPD with the same user name. For example Allison of Houston, Fancy, or Alli. That should give you more confidence and make your transition easier. Plus it will help with the verification process in the future.

I'm guessing you may be from the days of Wildflowers and Escape, plus others. Those days are long gone (sadly), and now a days, from what I'm seeing, indys are the way to go. Along with Wildflowers, Escape, Chalinos, Juniors, and Chasity group, I don't think we have a solid 'go to' place like that today. Others can chime in on this and they can chime in on any latina places.

You need to stay with providers that have showcases here and stay from places like backpage, etc. There are some places you can play on Telephone Road, however they're older and may not be the eye candy you could be searching for, plus they won't help you get verified for future sessions.

I've been out of the hobby for several years now, however I can relate to your dilemma.

Lastly, you need to learn on this board who will help you out, and who are the frustrated twits who live at this site for no reason than to stir up shit.

Good luck to you and I hope your future sessions are as good as in the good old days.

Although I request personal information to screen a newbie, the truth is that there are established providers that do not require any personal info from newbies and, once you've seen a few of them, you have created a list of references and you are no longer a newbie.

Do not be lazy. Draft a nice introductory PM, send it to as many ladies who are on the newbie friendly list and find out what they require. With the amount of ladies out there, there's bound to be a few who will have screening requirements that won't make you uncomfortable. A bit too late for you, but maybe other newbies will heed the advice.


Edit: a provider should never make you feel like you HAVE to do something in terms of screening. If her screening requirements are not to your comfort level, that's ok, just move on. It's her right to ask whatever she feels like asking to feel comfortable and it's your right to pass.

I'm guessing you may be from the days of Wildflowers and Escape, plus others. Those days are long gone (sadly) Originally Posted by DEAR_JOHN

Sadly indeed, but we do have many wonderful indies here.

Ahhhh.....the KING of dick-head cyber stalkers.....

YOU should be banned. Far more people would cheer.

You stalk all of her reviews and followed her on this thread in less than 6 minutes.

It's like she owns you....lmfao.

Maybe you didn't read this one....

#17 - "Cyber Stalking" is a term that refers to the act of following another member around online. This may include persistent PMing of the other party, repeated ISOs about the other party, or excessive bumping of reviews or posting in threads about the other individual, whether it be positive or negative information posted. In any of these cases, whether staff deems that the behavior has crossed the line into cyber-stalking, or the "stalked" party complains to staff about the alleged behavior, staff will take the necessary steps to make it stop. Please avoid becoming involved in this type of conduct. Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

He just loves attention, be it good or bad. At the next social he attends he may even take shit in the corner so people can remark that wakeup shit in the corner last night. Anything for attention.

You should try out an AMP (7 star) to get your feet wet again and learn how to deal with your "newbie" butterflies,,,You can then experiment with other kind of whores.

OK, here we go.

First of all, I would choose a provider that went back to ASPD with the same user name. For example Allison of Houston, Fancy, or Alli. That should give you more confidence and make your transition easier. Plus it will help with the vitrifaction process in the future.

I'm guessing you may be from the days of Wildflowers and Escape, plus others. Those days are long gone (sadly), and now a days, from what I'm seeing, indys are the way to go. Along with Wildflowers, Escape, Chalinos, Juniors, and Chasity group, I don't think we have a solid 'go to' place like that today. Others can chime in on this and they can chime in on any latina places.

You need to stay with providers that have showcases here and stay from places like backpage, etc. There are some places you can play on Telephone Road, however they're older and may not be the eye candy you could be searching for, plus they won't help you get verified for future sessions.

I've been out of the hobby for several years now, however I can relate to your dilemma.

Lastly, you need to learn on this board who will help you out, and who are the frustrated twits who live at this site for no reason than to stir up shit.

Good luck to you and I hope your future sessions are as good as in the good old days. Originally Posted by DEAR_JOHN

Thanks for the mention, DJ. I've never changed my identity or my phone number in the entire time I've been a provider, one month shy of 9 continuous years now, and yes, I'm a former frequent ASPD poster. If the OP was active there, I might actually remember his handle.

Rather proud to be a stable presence. (Well, when the leprechauns and I aren't on a St. Paddy's Day binge. ) As has been pointed out in this thread, if a gent picks a well-established provider, he has little to worry about.

There is a newbie-friendly list stickied in the ISO forum, and I'll be updating it again tomorrow: http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=1366691&page=19

I, Allison, and Alli are all on the list, along with many other beauteous options for frisky fun. Sounds like whoever the OP contacted initially will do just fine, however, and provide a suitable reference for his future Hobbying.

I know you can't offer me any guarantees, but I'm just plain afraid. The provider I have an appointment with is extensively reviewed on ECCIE. Her reviews go back years and part of my attraction were many references to safe play. I was not opposed to her verification process which included my sending my business card from my personal email account. I was involved in this hobby 20 plus years ago in the ASPD days, but it appears to be a brave new world out there. Suggestions? Originally Posted by ybar1001

What, more specifically, are you most anxious about?

If she is a well-reviewed and reputable lady, I am sure everything will go swimmingly.

I just returned about 3 weeks ago after a 2+ year hiatus. I've been providing since 2008; also was on ASPD and have also provided and lived in another country as well. I once tried to guesstimate that I've had to have given at least 2000 massages by now...

But my first massage back, I was as nervous as I was on my first ever one, lol. The gent was even a brand new client for me, not an old repeat, so that made me even more nervous.

3 weeks later now and it's like riding a bike...I feel like I never left.

So, I think once you take the plunge and get through your first session back, and have (hopefully) a great time, your anxieties will be assuaged.

Another good old Aspd days member looking for someone to hold his hand

How did you guys get screened back then? You sent pigeons to providers incalls with appointment requests? Originally Posted by NubianPrince

Beepers were all the rage. LOL j / k

There were studios Sweets, No one really had the need to screen.

Been exploring this world for 8 mos now and I'm still shook at getting busted by SO or LE This a risk vs reward lifestyle so I'm slowly edging towards the cliff to jump and feel exhilarated and praying my Shoot opens

Take ur time and explore at ur own pace. It's ur life.

I know you can't offer me any guarantees, but I'm just plain afraid. The provider I have an appointment with is extensively reviewed on ECCIE. Her reviews go back years and part of my attraction were many references to safe play. I was not opposed to her verification process which included my sending my business card from my personal email account. I was involved in this hobby 20 plus years ago in the ASPD days, but it appears to be a brave new world out there. Suggestions? Originally Posted by ybar1001

If you're really afraid, don't go see Alyssa. She just got back from a year long ban for outing member's personal information... Originally Posted by Wakeup

^^^ He's right. You should go see Champagne Brown instead.

I know you can't offer me any guarantees, but I'm just plain afraid. The provider I have an appointment with is extensively reviewed on ECCIE. Her reviews go back years and part of my attraction were many references to safe play. I was not opposed to her verification process which included my sending my business card from my personal email account. I was involved in this hobby 20 plus years ago in the ASPD days, but it appears to be a brave new world out there. Suggestions? Originally Posted by ybar1001

You've already jumped off the cliff and you're halfway down to hitting the water. There's no going back. Go through with it ... you've already given out your professional info.

Ask the lady you're going to see to give you an "OK" referral to another Provider friend of hers with the explanation that you need a couple of vouches to set up a P411 account.

That's how I got started. Picked a well-reviewed lady with a good reputation ... gave her whatever screening info she wanted (in person, over drinks at a place of her choosing ... she sent me a text telling me where to meet her). Told her if she was comfortable to give me a call to set up an appointment. She did. Asked her to contact a Provider friend to set up an appointment to get a second reference. She did. Got a p411 account with those 2 references.

OP, if you have to pick a potty mouth outing whore, pick Fancy. I will go out on a limb and say she is the least likely to be a repeat offender...........although, I could be wrong.