Got dumped and thought I wouldnt care

Sorry you are going through this baby. I think the better point after a very long relationship is at around 6 weeks. Just give some time. The fact you wanted to get rid of her says something in itself. So let a little time go by and see how you feel. (((hugs n kisses n sucks)))) my friend

Sorry LB whats the old saw ( be careful what you wish for ). If someone is looking for a long term relationship and you are not interested may be best for both of you. If you really want her back go get her and try to work it out. These are things only you know and can sort out .Best of luck to you.

Ok so I have had a girlfriend for about 6 years or so, and I really thought it was a convience thing. I have told her if she ever found someone unattached she should go for it. Well holy crap she did just that. Originally Posted by lesbianbob

In the future, if you think you may have any feelings for a woman at all, telling her that if she finds an unattached man she should go for it, probably isn't your best move. Hell, I think most men suffer from women that will twist and turn even the most innocuous statements into a huge deal. Hell, by telling her this, you just told her everything was over. Words mean things, especially to women. I don’t know how long she stayed after you made that statement, but most women with the means to leave would have packed up right away.
Sorry you have emotions to deal with, but you broke things off with her when you made that statement.

Fucking Christ...Dr. Phil here or something?

Fucking Christ...Dr. Phil here or something? Originally Posted by Wakeuр

You tell me, Richard Simmons

She had become "routine" and as you know you need variety but you want her as well. The better thing to have told her is that if she finds an unattached man, she should go for it but you still want her and she needs to keep playing with you as well.

This is obviously the very last place you want to look for relationship advice mon ami.

Aww poor baby I'm sorry your going through this , if you still need to pound something and get your frustration out , well you know what to do oh and it's her loss because you are an awesome guy

My dad's advice to me when I was a young guy and lost a girlfriend: "son, lose a nickel and lose a woman, all your really lost is a nicklel!"

If Dear Abby or Dr. Ruth are still around they would have the answer I'm sure....ijs

Let me get this straight. You told her if she found someone who wasn't attached to go for it. Does this mean you are attached and the GF was on the side? Did I read correctly and you lost your mistress?

Yes, lost mistress.

thanks for all the good advice from everyone.

To clear up one thing, I had told her when we started so long ago that I was not going to leave my current situation, and from the begining told her she was free to find her happiness where she could.

The reason I posted here is that my situation is probably common, there are no doubt others that have a wife, a mistress, and hobby too.

She had become routine, I did take her for granted, I didnt think she ever would really leave, and that was why I had been looking for a way out for a while. Got what I wished for.

Finally I appreciate kind words and the sympathy from many of you, but I started the thread to ask others about their experiences that might be close in nature to mine.

I should be over her by the weekend, or next week maybe, or August for sure.

You tell me, Richard Simmons Funniest thing I have seen on the board in a long time.

Face it, she used your ass for 6 years and now she is using somebody else's ass.

Put a period and move on, she did as you ask........................

Since she is your ex now ... how about posting her contact information?