If you have outcall to your hotel, use a hotel that requires a key to use the elevator.
If you're waiting in the lobby and she calls from the parking lot or lobby you can see if she's the lady in the picture before going to the elevator. Or you can ride down the elevator and if it's not her, just keep walking past, go outside and call her to cancel because she's not the one in the picture.
Having high-quality professional pictures, or European outlets is a pink flag. They could be legit, but you should be suspicious. (or the ocean in the background advertising in Kansas
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Originally Posted by HoneyRose
Yeah.
A variation on that is if you are having outcall to your residence with security, doorman, etc. say you will meet them outside and walk them up so she doesn't have to sign-in etc. If she isn't as advetised instead of outside your door you are just 2 people on the street.
i know this is going to sound terrible in all that but shut the door and lock it if they try to intimidate you so what if they cause a scene your pride is already hurt by being stupid and not checkin g the girl out before hand(i have done it before). And as for roughing you up, thats why u shut the door. If they try to get in your house your with in your right to shoot them (at least in texas) explain to your neighbors that it was a wrong address and you have no clue who that was, think it will be the first time hotel staff has see something like that. if you go to her and someone else is their leave as quickly as you can. ask if anyone else will be there. make sure car is parked for ready to leave mode. (back in to spot) the result is they dont get my money
Originally Posted by nscrogg
Thankfully I have not been in that situation! (yet!!) Were it to happen at an incall, I'd simply say that I must have the wrong room. At your place, I'd say you must have made a mistake, no-one by that name lives here.
abdclub
Originally Posted by abdclub
Easier said than done. If the girl comes to you, who is with her? Does she have a driver/bodyguard/pimp? If you refuse to see her, they may intimidate you, cause a scene, rough you up, or all of the above. Try explaining that to the neighbors, hotel staff, and/or fellow guests. If you go to the girl, just who else is behind the door. See above for possible results of refusing to meet.
Originally Posted by Cpalmson
In my experience unless you are seeing a truly imbalanced or impaired individual, particularly if they are a fraud or trying to rob you, the last thing they want to do is make a scene. Closing & locking the door does the trick.
This is particularly true at a hotel. If she is coming to see you at XYZ Hotel, she probably spends more time at that property than you do (or she hopes to), the last thing she wants to do is screw up the ability to do so.
The caveat is if you care what your neighbors think plan accordingly. Frankly, I've had more neighbor/disturbance issues with civie ex's (e.g. showing up angry, unannounced, maybe after bar close
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) than with pros.
Lastly, if the girl that comes to see you or answers the door isn't the one in the photos on her ad SIMPLY REFUSE TO SEE HER! The main reason the scammers stay in business is because you guys continue to reward them for DECEIVING you!
Originally Posted by 1ThickBlond
This is right on...I go one step further...on the front end over the phone I politely say something like:
"I'm sure this won't be a problem (b/c you are so well reviewed etc. etc.
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), but if I discover you have misrepresented yourself I will refuse to see you and you will not be paid. At all."
Sometimes this elicits a response about some minor change to her appearance (hairstyle, etc.) and just wanting to make sure that is okay or admitting the picture isn't her (for privacy reasons) but she looks as good or better & if I'm not happy I can send her away with no hard feelings.
Sometimes this elicits a hang up.
Point is if you make it clear upfront you won't be ripped-off, most of the fakes will run the other way. They aren't stupid. They don't want to waste their time driving across town for no payday. Afterall they know there are plenty of suckers out there that are willing be ripped-off....