- Ebony Jasmine Love Austin
- 01-25-2012, 05:27 PM
^love most everything about that story^
- sixxbach
- 01-25-2012, 05:39 PM
Would a guy want to KNOWINGLY date someone who tried out for a top 10 BBBJ list?
Would a woman want to KNOWINGLY date someone who posts a top 10 BBBJ list?
I think not... keep it to yourself...
sixx
Would a woman want to KNOWINGLY date someone who posts a top 10 BBBJ list?
I think not... keep it to yourself...
sixx
- budman33
- 01-25-2012, 05:51 PM
It's a very personal decision.
If you want a completely honest relationship and that's exactly what you want, then you need to tell him or it'll eat at you every day.
If you are ok with keeping some things secret, then some things are best kept secrets. But only if you are a person capable of doing so.
Some people can compartmentalize their lives and are fine keeping some boxes private, some can't. Which type of person you are, only you can answer.
I don't think there is a right answer except, your right answer.
personally my answer is that I'd want to know, then either the relationship is doomed or we laugh about it for years and years to come. But that's my view and I'm ok with it.
If you want a completely honest relationship and that's exactly what you want, then you need to tell him or it'll eat at you every day.
If you are ok with keeping some things secret, then some things are best kept secrets. But only if you are a person capable of doing so.
Some people can compartmentalize their lives and are fine keeping some boxes private, some can't. Which type of person you are, only you can answer.
I don't think there is a right answer except, your right answer.
personally my answer is that I'd want to know, then either the relationship is doomed or we laugh about it for years and years to come. But that's my view and I'm ok with it.
- nuglet
- 01-25-2012, 05:55 PM
Been there, done that, and it worked out fine for us.. as usual...for a while. several years...
- HunterGrace
- 01-25-2012, 06:16 PM
I've found that if you are serious about a guy, you owe it to him to be honest. If you feel that it could be a deal breaker, you have three options: Tell him and let him decide for himself. Quit hobbying and keep it to yourself. Break up with him and keep the reason why to yourself.
Think about it: if in two years he finds out and it happens to be a deal breaker, you've just wasted two years of his life that he will never get back.
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Think about it: if in two years he finds out and it happens to be a deal breaker, you've just wasted two years of his life that he will never get back.
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- Reya Sunshine
- 01-25-2012, 08:07 PM
Before I decided to just stick with hobby dating until retiring into a life of spinsterhood I would sometimes date civies if I was taking a break from the hobby at that time. I would never mix worlds though...only one at a time. My problem came in that I felt morally obligated to tell guys I had been a hooker in the past. Basically as soon as I have told any guy that they respond more or less like this:
Everything about their behavior around me changes and I lose all relevance in their life outside of anything sexual. I'm not "me" anymore to them...I'm just a story of this hooker they dated once that hasn't made it to past tense yet. No such thing as being an ex hooker to these guys- you are degraded and impure and it's a matter of knowing things about human nature that you can't unknow... basically, they see you as damaged goods but that usually doesn't stop them from wanting to fuck you anyway and they may or may not string you along emotionally as necessary.
I don't intend to date outside of paid relationships ever again but if I did then I would NOT tell a guy that I was a hooker specifically but I would make it very clear that I was extremely promiscuous in the past and had a lot more partners than they would feel comfy knowing about. The fact that I was paid really isn't any of their business and they don't need to know the exact number of guys as long as I'm not bringing STDs into the relationship from past encounters they should just let the past be the past.
That's my take on it anyway.
Oh and I LOVE your song jasmine...it reminds me of the kinda poems they had on Def Poetry Jam.
Everything about their behavior around me changes and I lose all relevance in their life outside of anything sexual. I'm not "me" anymore to them...I'm just a story of this hooker they dated once that hasn't made it to past tense yet. No such thing as being an ex hooker to these guys- you are degraded and impure and it's a matter of knowing things about human nature that you can't unknow... basically, they see you as damaged goods but that usually doesn't stop them from wanting to fuck you anyway and they may or may not string you along emotionally as necessary.
I don't intend to date outside of paid relationships ever again but if I did then I would NOT tell a guy that I was a hooker specifically but I would make it very clear that I was extremely promiscuous in the past and had a lot more partners than they would feel comfy knowing about. The fact that I was paid really isn't any of their business and they don't need to know the exact number of guys as long as I'm not bringing STDs into the relationship from past encounters they should just let the past be the past.
That's my take on it anyway.
Oh and I LOVE your song jasmine...it reminds me of the kinda poems they had on Def Poetry Jam.
- Sexy Roxanne
- 01-25-2012, 10:25 PM
DENY DENY DENY... It's my motto. Even if they could handle it...at some point in time it will get thrown in your face.
- Codybeast
- 01-25-2012, 11:14 PM
If one is going to deny or keep Providing a secret then I don't get the whole point of even getting involved in a new serious relationship?
The whole point of doing so is to have someone who wants and loves you for who you are.
To find someone you can count on, confide in and trust without deception.
Like it or not making a living as a provider is most definitely an important part of who you are.
If we're talking about casually dating without expectations from either side sure as it's no one else's business. Starting a partnership under the illusion of mutual monogamy? How can this possibly be rewarding on any level?
The whole point of doing so is to have someone who wants and loves you for who you are.
To find someone you can count on, confide in and trust without deception.
Like it or not making a living as a provider is most definitely an important part of who you are.
If we're talking about casually dating without expectations from either side sure as it's no one else's business. Starting a partnership under the illusion of mutual monogamy? How can this possibly be rewarding on any level?
- cckid2006
- 01-25-2012, 11:27 PM
- Whispers
- 01-25-2012, 11:57 PM
- sixxbach
- 01-26-2012, 12:30 AM
Never say ever. Besides, that would be one lonely existence. Your good looks are going to only last so long in the P4P world. You will age out in the not too distant future or your suitors will pursue gals that are still young.
I don't intend to date outside of paid relationships ever Originally Posted by Reya Sunshine
Completely inappropriate here in this thread.....Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. Didn't this happen last year?
very disappointed to see it happening.....
What did I miss? Where did she call you out that this was due? Originally Posted by Whispers
sixx
- Whispers
- 01-26-2012, 12:50 AM
- Vyt
- 01-26-2012, 02:07 AM
Back on topic, please.
- sixxbach
- 01-26-2012, 07:59 AM
- Guest021716-4
- 01-26-2012, 08:08 AM
Completely inappropriate here in this thread.....I have had fallen outs with two ladies...do I mention it? No and now people probably think
very disappointed to see it happening.....
What did I miss? Where did she call you out that this was due? Originally Posted by Whispers
you were referring to me. I have to agree with Whispers on this.
No matter how angry I get, I refuse to bring it to the board. Now, moving right along.