Thank you everyone for your advice and insights to my post. I really appreciate the knowledge. I think checking into P411 is a good idea, I just was not really sure what it was or how it worked. I know I am not that active on the boards and don't have many references so I understand a provider wanting to be safe. I know she would be safe with me but she doesn't know that. I just wish she would have said hey your reference didn't check out so I can't see you or something came up. I am not mad and do not want to "out" her in any way. I would still like to possibly see her one day. I was just trying to get some perspective and knowledge based on others experience and you have all given me that. I really appreciate it.
Thanks consult for the recommendation to have Tracy have her way with me. Now if only I can convince her ha ha.